Jesus, this thread really went off the rails from helping you with your original question!
I don’t think that this is the answer you’re looking for, but it’s one option: if you see one reputable provider, you’ll have your reference from her going forwards for the others. You can find a lady on here, either by researching or asking, that fits whatever you are willing to provide most likely. For example, some require and accept a deposit that you can provide with an anonymous Amazon gift card. Good luck!