There was a thread a couple of months ago or so about this, I can't find it now, but there was at least one pooner who admitted he was married, never took off the ring, and was always spending the extra coin on a reputable provider who wouldn't try and sabotage what he had outside of the hobby. Generally though, it seemed the consensus among married pooners was to have the ring off. As for the SP's, I guess it would vary on the girl though. On another discussion someone was mentioning how an SP told him she was disgusted by married pooners, but would still see them. I've taken breaks from this hobby in the past whenever I started to like someone enough, so I don't know if I'd be able to get myself to continue here if I ever get serious enough with anyone... unless she's someone who'd be open tot he lifestyle.