SP's and PoF... SP's on PoF.

[MrPeterNorth]

Got a response from one girl today, and her rejection actually had to make me laugh - she goes on to say she specifically doesn't go for coffee with XYZ (my profession). That's a new one for me - since my profession turns most women on as opposed to off, LOL. Guess she doesn't like a man in uniform.

Some guys are naturals at the online game, I'm not. I'll keep practicing though

 

[bossp1aya]

I had a lot of sucess on pof. All i did was post a few photos, a little about myself like what music I am into and my hobbies and I got like 5 messages in a week. A couple weird dates later and I found my current girlfriend of six months. Pof is awesome, its like a catalog of women.

 

[Harmony-bc]

I have a very good friend that is on POF. She is looking for a friendship, possibly leading to a relationship, possibly leading to marriage. She is not an escort. She goes on a few dates a week with men from POF. She will not go on a coffee date until she gets a feel for what kind of person the person is. That requires a few notes back and forth. If my friend went for coffee with every guy that asked her, she would be going for coffee a few times a day.

It is smart to see if there is some kind of rapport before meeting. Remember that you might be sending out a hundred notes, but so are a hundred other guys if the girl is anything close to attractive. My friend is beautiful, in a very classic way, so she gets lots of mail. All of them wanting to meet her. You weed out the ones that are idiots so you are left with 50, then weed out the ones that seem to have creepy intent, then you are left with maybe 20, weed out the ones that come across as neanderthals, then you are left with 5, lol

As an escort, it doesn't really matter to me if we have things in common, because I can mold myself to fit you, (unless you are a hunter. I really have trouble separating myself, once I know you like to kill animals for fun ) For friendship and dating, you need to see if the basics are there, which might take quite a few emails.

If I were you, I would not introduce a girl to your sarcastic side before you know her. She might not get it through the written word. Always be polite, charming, disarming, but not girly, hahaha. Its a fine balancing act.

Good luck, to all of you. I hope you all find true love or at least really good sex.

I for one will never be on any of those sites. I love being foot loose and fancy free.

 

[Harmony-bc]

Another important thing to remember is men and women are different. Men are visual, Women are more sensual. Men like direct routes, women like to be romanced and to feel that they are special. Men do not need to feel anything for their partner, they don't even care if the girl likes them. They are just happy they are getting laid, lol. Women need to know, even in a one night stand that they are desirable, sexy, and liked. Then they get all fucked up over it after. I know because I have had a few slutty friends. I'm always telling them to wait, they will get treated better. They don't listen, so spend most of their time crying about not finding love. Maybe they would find it if they didn't act on the first itch, lol

Patience, an open mind and a willingness to look at things from someone else's point of view are important.

 

[liveinsin]

I'm really not big on the idea of talking to someone on a computer for weeks on end before you meet them, especially since it's summer and so nice out. I'd rather meet the person right away and put my effort ON the date itself. My average - 20 messages, maybe 1 reply.

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The worst part about it all!

I know women dont 'know' us that well, but we dont know them either...its all fair game for awhile. Especially if meeting in a public place during the day or something. Its not like I'd ask to meet them late at night in the middle of the woods!

Its much easier to learn about the person in person anyway...their quirks, how they talk, common expressions and so on...black and white text on the screen doesnt do it for me so much.

 

[liveinsin]

I actually prefer boys with some meat on them. I have this fetish about watching people eat. lol

I can cook, love eating and im 6'3" 227lbs...is that about right?

I'm available!

 

[MrPeterNorth]

Again, I don't mind sending a couple messages back and forth, maybe three. But if it's just small-talk, sorry that isn't doing much for me over a computer. As I said, my friend manages to get them on the phone after 2 messages, and is meeting a day or two later. The way it should be.

I don't understand people who join these sites that could be enjoying so much of the great weather outside, but would rather be an online "penpal" to someone in their own city. Makes no sense to me.

 

[bobby]

Another important thing to remember is men and women are different. Men are visual, Women are more sensual. Men like direct routes, women like to be romanced and to feel that they are special. Men do not need to feel anything for their partner, they don't even care if the girl likes them. They are just happy they are getting laid, lol. Women need to know, even in a one night stand that they are desirable, sexy, and liked. Then they get all fucked up over it after. I know because I have had a few slutty friends. I'm always telling them to wait, they will get treated better. They don't listen, so spend most of their time crying about not finding love. Maybe they would find it if they didn't act on the first itch, lol

Patience, an open mind and a willingness to look at things from someone else's point of view are important.

well i dont care if the girl likes me if she's hot, if she's not hot i hope she likes me, i've fucked a few girls in my life who had crushes on me who were not really my type, i only fucked them cause they liked me and why not be generous they were nice girls, if they didnt like me i wouldnt have done it. so see i'm not shallow

 

[bobby]

pof is like the bachloret. sorry i cant spell. the hot girls have dudes lining up for them i'm guessing and that very fact makes it hard for her to choose and your competing for her attention.

i'd rather have things like on the bachlor where they're competing for you, that's the trick in life. make em compete for you, cause trust me when brad finaly gets sick of angelina we aint gonna see him on pof sending emails

 

[Banger77]

The two differences between his profile and mine - he's in Ontario, and he's tall. But it's not like he's a model.

You have to remember that there is a population difference between BC and Ontario so, his chances are better at a hook up.

pof is like the bachelorette, sorry i cant spell. the hot girls have dudes lining up for them i'm guessing and that very fact makes it hard for her to choose and your competing for her attention.

i'd rather have things like on the bachelor where they're competing for you, that's the trick in life. make em compete for you, cause trust me when brad finally gets sick of angelina we ain't gonna see him on pof sending emails

Hope you don't mind me correcting your spelling. Yah, i wish it was like the Bachelor too that would be more fun; well i just came crashing back down to reality.

 

[bobby]

You have to remember that there is a population difference between BC and Ontario so, his chances are better at a hook up.



Hope you don't mind me correcting your spelling. Yah, i wish it was like the Bachelor too that would be more fun; well i just came crashing back down to reality.

not only dont i mind but i thank you dude, anyone who makes an effort to help me in any way that's positive, i apreaciate.

 

[Shiver22]

I can cook, love eating and im 6'3" 227lbs...is that about right?

I'm available!

Yummy! Bring a big mac with extra sauce!

 

[liveinsin]

Yummy! Bring a big mac with extra sauce!

I can bring a big mac with sauce, but I wont be stopping at mcdonalds!!

 

[Aerts]

pof is like the bachloret. sorry i cant spell. the hot girls have dudes lining up for them i'm guessing and that very fact makes it hard for her to choose and your competing for her attention.

i'd rather have things like on the bachlor where they're competing for you, that's the trick in life. make em compete for you, cause trust me when brad finaly gets sick of angelina we aint gonna see him on pof sending emails

My conclusion is that the only way PoF works is if you are very good looking and with really good pictures. If you look like the newest boytoy, you will have good looking girls messaging you cold. If you message girls on there first (any girls who most men find attractive at least), I think they automatically lose interest because at that point you're competing for them... and your chances of success are low to negligible .

 

[bobby]

ha heres mine http://www.plentyoffish.com/member13939428.htm

just hooked it up. lied about my age only cause i figure that's pof manditory but i was 100% honest i think otherwise, lets see what that honesty is worth.

lambros is my real first name no one calls me that though

 

[MrPeterNorth]

I'm beginning to think it's a giant game for the women on there.

Started talking to this one girl who after a few messages was almost begging me to ask her out. So what do I do? Ask for her number so we can talk in person and possibly set something up. What happens next? I never hear from her again.

PoF is even worse than meeting women at clubs - because at least at clubs, booze is involved. On there, it's a sobering experience - no pun intended.

Still confused as ever with that site. And to me, joining EHarmony is like admitting defeat in the dating world. Not a chance.

The classic part is - I've been told by more than a few SP's I look a bit like Tom Cruise in his younger years. So I know I'm not bad looking by any means either.

 

[bobby]

vancouver pof is full of women who rate a 6. in real life no man who has anything going on will even look at them but on pof they get attension and that's all they want. they cant show up cause there picture lie.