thanks for the reply, I dont spend allot of time here , like said im not really a hobbyist. Ill check out thes elinks I did do a search , I didnt exactly find the anwert that I wanted
revealing that you are were an SP to someone?
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As an active Sp...if I were to meet someone of interest at this point in my life I would tell that man about my profession. If I was retired though...I can't say I would do the same. I would want to start off fresh and like they say...what's in the past should remain in the past. You can be honest to a certain point but you are also allowed to have secrets...it doesn't make you a bad person...does it?
That's my 2 baht.
well thats a pretty important part of ones 's life, Id be upfront, I think holding it back is a bit deceptive and kinda mean, and selfish a guy could think one thing about someone and have it all change right quickAs an active Sp...if I were to meet someone of interest at this point in my life I would tell that man about my profession. If I was retired though...I can't say I would do the same. I would want to start off fresh and like they say...what's in the past should remain in the past. You can be honest to a certain point but you are also allowed to have secrets...it doesn't make you a bad person...does it?
That's my 2 baht.
its selfish because, if you think he couldnt handle it, your really saving yourself anguish
if i was with someone that was once an sp Id wnat the truth, better than than being in the dark
I love these types of thread! LOL
Ahhh, the Madonna/Whore complex that so many men seem to display. You see, it's all good and well to marry a Mary Jane goody two shoes type but it is ultimately the "skank" as you so eloquently put it that will be considered fun, exciting and will fulfill all your sexual desires. I feel sorry for many people here who have to be with someone who is socially acceptable that stops giving blowjobs as soon as they say "I do"! SO many men in these situations are truly miserable. Lets face it... We all have skeletons in our closets. Will your current or future significant other be pleased to find out that you have paid for sex many times over? It goes both ways.
no it doesnt , if i had paid for it, she gave me hell and she secretly paid for it that would be different, its giving an SP a hard time when your an Sp yourself,
then that would be hypocritical, but like i said the dynamic is different, its not a clear cut goes both ways scenario, the buyer and seller
because women can get sex pretty easily without paying for it, while men can't
Most women, just like most men, have been raised to believe that women have something of great value to offer men - and men have been 'purchasing' women on a both itinerant and long term basis. Women wont want to give up their 'power' by purchasing a man, as it goes against everything they've been raised to believe. For a man to purchase sexual services, it's entertainment. For a woman to purchase sexual services, it's defeat
and plus I havent done this much so its not " many times"
its highly unlikley will I do it again
I belong to certain online communities that exchange advice on relationships and sex. A woman who claims to be in her 20s and attractive, recently posted asking about one-night stands: she wants an encounter that is purely sexual, without oral or kissing as she reserves those for more intimate relationships. The challenge in this situation is, how do you ensure that the encounter is safe, that he will respect her boundaries and that she will enjoy it?
Personally, I think she should hire a male escort. It's true that for a woman, getting sex is easy. It's getting satisfying sex without a relationship while ensuring safety that can be challenging.
You know what I hate about most churches, especially the Catholic Church? They feel they have the right to impose their beliefs on someone else.
Palmtree, it seems as though you ask questions that you know are controversial just so you can impose your beliefs and morals on someone else.
Its obvious you regretted your experience with a SP, however condemning them and us gentlemen who spend time with them is not going to fix it.
If this isn't your lifestyle, so be it. I am not going to impose it on you. However, don't participate in it. Don't post stupid questions about your fantasies or guilts on these forums. And just because you have a disdain for those who are on this forum, and engage in this lifestyle, doesn't make you smarter than them. You are obviously outgunned. Go drop your coconuts somewhere else palmtree.
Oh and please everyone spare me the Catholic Church debate, I have no problems against Catholics, just not fond of the Church itself.
Honestly, how many times have SA's (service angels, i like that
thanks stgpubs) heard from men that they "dont get SA's often. No matter how many times youve done it, you have done it. Stop being so insutling and put yourself in someone elses shoes. Judgement is rediculous, grow up.When I hear a story like yours it gives me a little more hope about humanity. It is a little miracle given the enormous negativity focused on sexuality and those whose work entails anything to do with it. How silly it is for people to assume that simply because someone is or has been an SP that that person is damaged goods or in some other way a defective person, or that that person should be burdened in some special way by quilt or remorse. Hats off to you and your SO for being so civilized and sensible. That you and another can connect so wonderfully in a world full of so much sadness, violence and pain is a great accomplishment. That you've done it under current conditions only makes it that much more of a wonder. Sad that large parts of the world cannot see that. I wish you, and other SPs and former SPs in your situation, happiness in your romantic life and success in your career(s). Those who would reject or scorn you are not worthy of you. They are blind. I don't resent for one moment either what you do or how much you make doing it as long as it's done professionally and in a manner that does no damage to your own life or health or that of others. Most SPs I've been in contact with certainly seem to conduct themselves with integrity and professionalism as well as proper care of soul and body (a few are gifted with a level of human understanding I'd never have imagined given what I'd know about their work). When there are real issues to worry about (war, famine, ecological destruction, etc.), it seems like such a waste of time and energy to worry about who is or has been an SP. Moreover, any success in affairs of the heart ought to be celebrated, not looked at with suspicion.
