Perbs with SO

[haigum141]

I had been getting involved with an SP a while back and she said she didn't like me to have other girls. First I thought"are you kidding?" she sees other guys all the time. Then realized she was serious about me and her customers were just a source of income. I couldn't really handle it very well and we had many arguments. I still think about her now and then.

It’s called woman logic. They want their cake and eat it too. You’re free to see other people. Anything other than that is manipulation and control on her part

Personally i would be seeing other women, still enjoying other SP’s and seeing her as well. Her clients are a source of income to her but these other women would be a source of fun for me, noone is cutting anyone’s source off

 

[clu]

It’s called woman logic. They want their cake and eat it too. You’re free to see other people. Anything other than that is manipulation and control on her part

Personally i would be seeing other women, still enjoying other SP’s and seeing her as well. Her clients are a source of income to her but these other women would be a source of fun for me, noone is cutting anyone’s source off

I can see the logic to it. If their clients aren't a source of fun for them but you are, then they see the distinction between service and pleasure, and your relationship would be about pleasure. So if you seek pleasure elsewhere, you are stepping on the toes of what the relationship means to them.

But the logic works both ways. If service/intimacy is an important part of the relationship for you, and they are providing that elsewhere, then they are stepping on the toes of what the relationship means to you.

It really just comes down to whether you agree on what the relationship means or not. (Or, I guess, what the word "intimacy" means.) Even monogamous couples can have problems being on the same page with that.

 

[vanblue]

I'm not sure if it is relevant but I've seen relationships that were very open, crumble when an SP or other third were brought into the mix. What i have seen happen is the third which would be an SP becomes the main focus of the guy and the SO becomes back burner and gets lost in the relationship. Twice I've seen it in swinger relationships. Kudos to the guys that can keep a good relationship with a SO while juggling a sex relationship with a SP. My hat is off to those that can cultivate that freedom....I envy you !!

 

[slowlife]

I'm not sure if it is relevant but I've seen relationships that were very open, crumble when an SP or other third were brought into the mix. What i have seen happen is the third which would be an SP becomes the main focus of the guy and the SO becomes back burner and gets lost in the relationship. Twice I've seen it in swinger relationships. Kudos to the guys that can keep a good relationship with a SO while juggling a sex relationship with a SP. My hat is off to those that can cultivate that freedom....I envy you !!

It's about juggling emotions and making sure your emotions for each relationship are clearly defined. It takes a lot of work I think so kudos to whoever can.