Must not jerk off before my session tomorrow...

[happycanuck99]

Let me get this straight, you only need to have sex every two weeks? Do you mean you sex with an SP or SO? Or, do you just mean the urge to orgasm, including masturbation?

I'm in my mid-50s and I still "need" to take matters into my own hands most days. I say "need" because I understand that this is relative and we could always benefit from a little more self-control in all aspects of our lives. Sure.

I've always been jealous of men like you, I mean that sincerely. Our brains are obviously wired very differently and I don't think you realize how lucky you are to not be controlled by the urges that some of the other members here seem to be facing. .... If you just don't have the urge, then you don't understand the problem.

Again, maybe I misunderstood your post.

I can hardly believe how accurate this feels to me. I, too, would have to live to be over 100 if I'm "middle aged" now, and I feel EXACTLY the same way. Thank-you so much for articulating this so well. Even at my age it just seems this "need" has too much control and influence over my life. If I had the funds, I'm pretty sure I'd be seeing a lovely PERB companion at least three times a week.

 

[islander1-1]

I dislike having TSB these days with this pandemic lockdowns ... its getting really bad.....

 

[bitchcuntypussy]

I try to go at least 24-48 hours without jerking off, if I know I'm going to see a provider/get laid. If I jerk off too soon before, then there's getting hard issue. However, if I go too long, then as soon as a I stick it in, I blow in 30 seconds. It's finding that magic zone, where you can get hard, and last long.

 

[beaveraddict]

I can hardly believe how accurate this feels to me. I, too, would have to live to be over 100 if I'm "middle aged" now, and I feel EXACTLY the same way. Thank-you so much for articulating this so well. Even at my age it just seems this "need" has too much control and influence over my life. If I had the funds, I'm pretty sure I'd be seeing a lovely PERB companion at least three times a week.

Haha... I hear you! If $$$ were no object, I'd have a "pussy penthouse" downtown with a maid service scheduled around the standing appointments with several select SPs, as well as a weekly retainer transferred to all the high-end agencies LOL

 

[The Caffeinated Gent]

Let me get this straight, you only need to have sex every two weeks? Do you mean you sex with an SP or SO? Or, do you just mean the urge to orgasm, including masturbation?

I'm in my mid-50s and I still "need" to take matters into my own hands most days. I say "need" because I understand that this is relative and we could always benefit from a little more self-control in all aspects of our lives. Sure.

I've always been jealous of men like you, I mean that sincerely. Our brains are obviously wired very differently and I don't think you realize how lucky you are to not be controlled by the urges that some of the other members here seem to be facing. Sure, there is yoga & meditation and other intentional steps we can take to practise equanimity around sex, or gambling, or alcohol, or cocaine... but these are tools. If you just don't have the urge, then you don't understand the problem.

Again, maybe I misunderstood your post.



I feel your pain Bro... all I can say is breathe deeply, maybe get a hobby? I appreciate some of the comments others have made regarding addiction, it is a fine line.

Hats off to "g easy". Avoiding the triggers is a huge first step... to do that, you need to re-organize yourself. Easier said than done, but stay away from the computer if you default to Leolist, Perb & Tryst right away (or MyFreeCams and PornHub).

Some people poo-poo the idea of sex-addiction, but I would suggest reading someone like Gabor Maté who writes about addiction extensively, although not specifically around sex. The point is that it's not the "thing" we are addicted to that we need to understand, it's actually what triggers the urge? Do we really "need" pussy or just to orgasm, or are we trying to fill a deeper hole? This may have a lot do to with childhood trauma and formative experiences in adolescence. I'm not a counsellor so I won't say anymore... we all have our journeys. Sex is a wonderful thing with someone else or with yourself; pleasure for pleasure's sake is one of life's joys... but if you seek pleasure to fill a deeper hole, then it is doomed to be short-lived.

I'm not there yet myself, but this is all I can offer for now...

Good luck!

I just realized that I never actually replied... No brother, I meant sex with SPs, once two weeks is manageable for me, but during the two week period I will still have itches lol I ain't no saint hahahaha