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Hi!
My first post. Please go easy on me. Just wondering what you earn to keep this costly hobby?
I got into this when I was in my early/mid 20s. I was making just over $100k a year and back then it was $160-$200 to see an amazing girl.
I would go randomly if I wasn’t in a friends with benefits or casual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
I earn about $60,000 gross. The 2 greatest pleasures for me to have are probably money and sex.
Like you, and many other men, this is a common answer. The skills to attract one, often attracts the other. If you focus your efforts independently on how to be successful with your earnings and how to attract and charm others in a genuine way, your income and your sociability improve.
Roughly what percentage of your income goes to this hobby? So I can gauge my own spending...or lack there of! Lol!
My current situation is not a typical one but I can refer back to a time where my life reflected some level of normalcy.
There was a stressful time in my later 20s while building a business and making very little income.
During a 8 month period, I refused to see an escort and I also refused to have sex with woman, even when the opportunity presented itself.
I knew that if I went to see woman it would trick me into thinking where I was at in life was okay. For me it wasn’t. I wouldn’t give myself what I wanted until I worked hard enough to get it.
I still went to the gym and made a strong effort to socialize with people/woman and it was difficult
I’m highly aware this is not normal behaviour but my outcome is also not normal either. If you really like money and sex, focus on the money part, and that starts with pulling your income up. You’d be amazed at what you can do when you force yourself to.
If you really must go, then have an entertainment budget for yourself and allot a % towards that total. Seeing a woman on $60k a year means maybe you don’t go shopping or eat out as often. Never compromise your savings and your plans to build for this sort of experience.
Do you ever struggle mentally about spending the money?
See above. I’ve struggled many times but I’ve always used that struggle as my brains way of telling me that I need to get my shit together.
Here is a unique way to look at this from a high income earning perspective.
If the average annual income in Vancouver is $100,000 and someone is earning $10,000,000 per year, it’s 100 times more income.
When you are looking to buy something, take away 100x off the price.
So when an ad for an escort is $400 per hour, it’s the same as an average person spending $4. You want to spend the entire evening with her for 5 hours? $20.
Imagine seeing a 10/10 model and you pull out a $20 to live out your wildest fantasy. The biggest challenge is how not to wind up falling down a rabbit hole at that point.
