Girls ....help me out here....do I need to harden my heart.

[TooMuchFun22]

Idiot

Id"i*ot\, n. [F. idiot, L. idiota an uneducated, ignorant, ill-informed person, Gr. ?, also and orig., a private person, not holding public office, fr. ? proper, peculiar. See Idiom.]

1. A man in private station, as distinguished from one holding a public office. [Obs.]

2. An unlearned, ignorant, or simple person, as distinguished from the educated; an ignoramus. [Obs.]

3. A human being destitute of the ordinary intellectual powers, whether congenital, developmental, or accidental; commonly, a person without understanding from birth; a natural fool; a natural; an innocent.

4. A fool; a simpleton; -- a term of reproach.

Just curious where in the definitions supplied by said idiot is the requirement by the SP (no matter what name is used) to make SP feel good about themselves, or loved, or in a relationship etc....

What bothers you mosty HB40 is that I and others who were discussing MARKLs creepy "interaction" with CHERRY.... inadvertantly frankly described how you approach your SP interactions.....


I am sorry that an SP had to put you in your place because you had crossed the line, but your vehement denial that there is anything off with your approach indicates that you may have not learned your lesson, but simply haven't found the right situation to display your instability with an SP.

Here is to hoping they are keep putting you in your place.


PS... I thought you said you were quitting???

 

[HB40]

What bothers you mosty HB40 is that I and others who were discussing MARKLs creepy "interaction" with CHERRY.... inadvertantly frankly described how you approach your SP interactions.....

That doesn't bother me

I'm always poking fun at myself, it's just role play....I mean it is all just a fantasy. Especially on perb, you can be whatever you want behind a computer.
Try to have some fun man, carrying the weight of the collective pooners perspective on your shoulders must be a real bummer.

 

[Violet]

Black people do not like the "N" word because it is used to be offensive and to make an entire race feel inferior. "Prostitute" is an accepted word and is even used when passing certain laws. If "Prostitutes" don't like being called "Prostitutes", fine. Is "Sex Worker" acceptable? I wonder if "real escorts" get insulted when "Prostitutes" run around calling themselves escorts and courtesans?

You are missing my point. Just because something is not listed as a "disparaging term" in the dictionary does not mean no one is allowed to find it offensive. I personally do not find the word prostitute offensive (in most contexts), but if someone else does & does not wish to be called that, it is their perogative.

 

[moi]

From the Diary of a Call Girl, I believe her opening line was something like,

"Call me what you want. Whore, Prostitute, escort, hooker. It's all the same to me but I charge by the hour, and I charge ALOT"

 

[trentanator]

dont worry april!!!!!

i never refer to you gals as that (what you said) and never will

all of you girls are very sweet and help bring a lot of joy to me

 

[gumbyman6900]

i never refer to you gals as that (what you said) and never will

all of you girls are very sweet and help bring a lot of joy to me

Yeah, what he said!

 

[DammiMore]

From the Diary of a Call Girl, I believe her opening line was something like,

"Call me what you want. Whore, Prostitute, escort, hooker. It's all the same to me but I charge by the hour, and I charge ALOT"

that's really funny!


As for your situation, april, i personally really enjoy the connections i get with someone and you can go even further when it is an intimate connection. i learn a lot from the gentlemen that i interview, and i prefer to have a friendship there. this kind of relationship is built on trust, and when there is not any trust there it is akward for both of us.

i have had a horrible situation happen to a gentleman and i had to do a lot that normally a friend or relative should do, but that just goes to show the levels of trust and friendship that can be built are tremendous.

if you are a sensative person then you should be able to cry when someone you care about has something bad happen to them!
i'm not really an emotional person i tend to think with my head instead of my heart.... meeting new people in this way for me has opened my eyes, my heart, and my creativity and i am learning every step of the way.

ignore the people who are inconsiderate... you're better off listening to the people right in front of you who actually give a shit.

 

[davinci]

claire and all of you great girls.

Hey april and all you wonderful women providing a service which i partake in,

I dont refer to any girls that i see in a derogatory fashion, in fact the exact opposite, you are GFE's for me, especially Claire, which i care for and think of on a regular basis, we have not seen each other in quite some time and do miss her. the times we have spent together were amazing, better than any "girlfriend" i have had, she opened my eyes to culture and given me perspectives which i still still believe in. Pay as you go is the term i use, or pay thru your nose with some bitch who will use u and cheat on you. If it werent for some of you girls id be a very unhappy man.
keep it up, and believe in who you are and what you do!!!!!!

 

[dmsk]

April,

I don't know how long you've been in this biz for, but what I do know is that just be careful. There's nothing wrong with being a "softy", but at the same time you're not a doormat. I'm sure your regs don't treat you as one, but you know there are some guys out there that can spot a "softy" and take advantage of it. By this I'm just saying make sure this doesn't happen to you. I've seen girls get taken advantage of in many horrible way by clients of theirs. Some were new clients and some were long time regulars.

You have to remember that you don't really know every single one of your clients that sees you, so don't believe everything you hear either. I've heard it all. lol How do you really know that all these health problems and tragedies they tell you are true? Maybe you do, maybe you don't. Or maybe you just think you do. lol I dunno...

Honestly, any one of the girls can tell you things to do or watch out for, but in the end you're the one in the room with the client one on one. I'm sure you're all good and don't have to worry. There's no handbook or guide on "How to be a good SP" etc....you just have to go with what you know and like everyone always says, trust your gut feeling!!! It's never wrong.

Not all guys are out to take advantage of the girls. I have helped one of the girls move and helped her find furnature for her new apartment. Some do care as well.

 

[Extreme April]

I appreciate the advise and kind words.
I am not going to stop being me. I dont think I could anyways.
If it means shedding a few tears every once in awhile, then I also have to look at the amount of laughs that had to share with my clients as well.
And if I dont get to see them anymore, at least I had friendship that I can always treasure.

DMSK your a sweetheart for helping out the girls that you did. But please be careful. There are those that will take advantage of your kindness too. That sounds kinda funny coming from me. Since I am one that has been taken in the past. I guess what I am saying....there is good and bad ppl out there. Its just a matter of keeping the bad ones away.

love and laughs
April

 

[Stickey]

Chin up April!

It really pisses me off, when I am refferred to as just a "hoe" or "prostitute".
Because I think I am beyond this stereotype.

Stereotype? No, term of derision. There really is no good euphamism for the valuable service provided by you girls.
You provide a vital public service and if there is social chemistry between you and your clients, so much the better.

I've seen "professional distance fail in the medical field a few times. One doctor's receptionist I knew had to quit because it was "just too sad". The truth is, that sadness is what binds us all as humans-along with a myriad of other emotions. It's important to at least respect one another. To care about each other is what we were created for.

The only thing I can think of is "entertainer".
And "the show must go on"

Actors have often been the objects of derision and persecution, not to mention carnival actors etc.
History hasn't been kind to these folks until recently.

April, good luck , be happy and never, never let anyone disrespect your craft.

 

[dmsk]

I have been taken advantage of but I also have made a few really good friends. I figure the ones that take advantage of me it is their lose. They don't get help anymore and don't get me coming in to masage them.