I have to agree with PSECURIOUS. BBBJ is not a GFE prerequisite. It is widely offered now. I've even been surprised by a few SPs who didn't offer it but felt it was the right thing to do once we got started. (Yay me!) FK in some form is definitely part of GFE, iMHO. Unfortunately, this is the one I find is the most elusive. Too many SPs claim kissing is part of the package but don't really want to. I know it's a YMMV thing, but several times I was told it was "okay" then found out it was "something I save for my partner." Post-coitus, I had a great conversation with one SP who told me the kissing is THE most intimate thing that a SP can offer. Most men might think it's intercourse, but I've had several lovely ladies tell me the kissing is the intimate part. As for variations on GFE, I've had kissing withheld, DATY withheld (which is fine quite frankly; I know some SPs do enjoy it but all those pooners who think they're taking the SPs to the moon two or three times are dreaming. Think about what it is they do for a living.) The weirdest one was a SP who kissed like a hormone-crazy teenager, provided wicked and sloppy BBBJ but didn't want me to blow a string of pearls on her fabulous breasts. Too bad, cause that's my thing. Anyway, her get out of jail free card is the ubiquitous "YMMV."