Experimenting with swinging

[Boardroom]

My wife and I are traveling to major US city with a warm climate.

We are planning to see a male who advertises on BP under the heading Male Escorts.
The plan is for my wife to get a massage with me in the room. My wife and I are discussing what the parameters will be and I am looking for input from anyone who may have done this type of thing. We want to be totally safe.

We both get massages from RMT regularly. It is a fantasy of my wife to have the therapist rub her vaginal lips & clitoris to give her a release. Of course he will rub her breasts. Do you think it is okay to let him suck on her breasts and nipples (especially if I am going to do it within the same session)? Is passing saliva between us this way an issue?
It would seem that there is a good chance that he would end up rubbing her ass and anus as well.

We are discussing whether we allow his fingers to enter her vagina and/ or anus. I am okay with it as long as he wears gloves. My wife thinks this is overkill. Should we allow his fingers to enter without being covered?

Next issue is regarding his penis. There is a chance my wife will give me a BJ while she is getting massaged.
She may want to touch his penis. I think it is okay if she touches him through his clothes and she is asking me to let her touch him bare hand on bare penis. Your thoughts? What about covered BJ for him?

 

[Porscha]

Hi there ... I did my share of swinging in the past & have a few ideas. Personally, I felt safer choosing our swing partners from sites like pof & a few others that focused on swinging & playing. I also preferred partners who were married/attached (even if their SO was not involved). I alwasy felt that someone who had a SO, was just as concerned about safety and discression as I was. I also sugest you ask if they have done this before, as some males have difficulty performing their first time.

I always stayed clear of anyone who advertised as a "male escort", there are tons of fine men who would respect your every wish and feel privledged to have the opportunity to play out their fantasy as well. In a swing senario the "host" generally provides a few drings & offers taxi fair, but there is no other compensation. Its consensual and fun for everyone. Whomever you do choose, I would highly sugest searching the internet to see if the same male, provides bisexual entertainment as well, or ask him. That goes for male escorts, and everyday guys. I stayed away from bi-sexual males.

as for what you do? well generally the women control that ... lol ... and all should agree on the level of safety ...

If you do decide on a swing site, you'll have a new problem. There are so many males willing to do this, it is hard to choose.... just my two cents ... have fun. ;-)

 

[Boardroom]

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My wife and I are traveling to major US city with a warm climate.

We are planning to see a male who advertises on BP under the heading Male Escorts.
The plan is for my wife to get a massage with me in the room. My wife and I are discussing what the parameters will be and I am looking for input from anyone who may have done this type of thing. We want to be totally safe.

We both get massages from RMT regularly. It is a fantasy of my wife to have the therapist rub her vaginal lips & clitoris to give her a release. Of course he will rub her breasts. Do you think it is okay to let him suck on her breasts and nipples (especially if I am going to do it within the same session)? Is passing saliva between us this way an issue?
It would seem that there is a good chance that he would end up rubbing her ass and anus as well.

We are discussing whether we allow his fingers to enter her vagina and/ or anus. I am okay with it as long as he wears gloves. My wife thinks this is overkill. Should we allow his fingers to enter without being covered?

Next issue is regarding his penis. There is a chance my wife will give me a BJ while she is getting massaged.
She may want to touch his penis. I think it is okay if she touches him through his clothes and she is asking me to let her touch him bare hand on bare penis. Your thoughts? What about covered BJ for him?

 

[CutieAngie]

There is a swingers site I use to be a member with along with a male friend (I think I might still be a member) I should check.
Anyways that site is for Vancouver and Victoria called Open2Share Though it is BC based there may be links or contacts there of males in other places. I have not been on it for a few years tough. But check it out might lead you to something better than a male escort and save some money too.

Good luck with your ventures, your wife is one lucky lady. Have fun and all the best.

 

[Chef99]

A very popular swingers site these days is http://www.intothelifestyle.com/
Most popular clubs: www.clubeden.ca with a dance club atmosphere, http://katsfantasies.com/newweb/home parties are held in a large home and the same for http://www.cluballure.ca/

 

[VanessaofBC]

Ok...so you are having issues with him playing with her body in an unrestricted way and vice versa? Hmmm...sounds a little uptight to me. Just remember she loves you and he is only a one time fantasy who she will never see again. EVER. Just go with it. Or, you may not be ready to "share" yet. IMHO.

 

[Boardroom]

Ok...so you are having issues with him playing with her body in an unrestricted way and vice versa? Hmmm...sounds a little uptight to me. Just remember she loves you and he is only a one time fantasy who she will never see again. EVER. Just go with it. Or, you may not be ready to "share" yet. IMHO.

I am not / was not uptight with anything - just wanting to be safe.

Here is the update - we found a man on Backpage. Ad said offering erotic massage for women. HAd some correspondence ahead of time. It was a very good session. He looked after well, shirt off and pants on. I stayed fully clothed. Awesome session would recommend to anyone interested in this type of experience. We are looking at Phoenix and Las Vegas for our next vacations and have already found a few guys we are interested in seeing.

 

[Boardroom]

I think you don't need to worry as much. Passing saliva isn't an issue unless you have open cuts/wounds. Gloves or a condom on a hand to enter vagina is a common enough practice and that is just dependent on comfort level. I would say more important for anal penetration.. but as long as the skin is in tact then likely the worst to happen is a case of BV which is annoying for her. Her touching a bare penis again is a non issue as long as her skin is in tact. Covered blowjob is safe.

Have fun! Explore!

What is BV?

 

[Going2Vic]

Thought I would throw my 2 cents in - as for swingers sites by far the best one is http://www.intothelifestyle.com - been on it for some time and you can use it for free and only need to subscribe if you are very active. I have found they are the only lifestyle site that actually moderates and screens accounts so there is some security in that. I have yet to come across any fakes (but have met some flakes lol) I think I read somewhere that they are now the biggest lifestyle site in Canada and are starting to take on in parts of the US as well.