Do clients typically discuss their boundaries?

[WhoCaresAnyway]

Hi,

Noobie here. I've perused several websites of providers. I've noticed that they tend to have etiquette pages that they would like clients to follow which I found tend to be reasonable.

The question I have is if clients typically discuss their boundaries with providers.

For example, I dont like to DFK or DATY. Are those boundaries one would discuss beforehand or while meeting a provider? Are these boundaries deal-breakers or would they be insulting to a provider?

Thanks,
WhoCaresAnyway

 

[carvesg]

Just mentioned it in your first email/text/phone call....no service provider will be offended for not having to provide a service that add to their work load 😉

Add politeness and respect in the mix of your request and you will get the 5 star rating from the provider you inquire from

 

[Guard23]

Just mentioned it in your first email/text/phone call....no service provider will be offended for not having to provide a service that add to their work load 😉

Add politeness and respect in the mix of your request and you will get the 5 star rating from the provider you inquire from

Maybe not in the first response depending on the provider or at all online. Some SPs would rather keep the details for in-person, for the sake of discretion.
But mentioning it when you meet them should be okay, as carvesg said, they shouldn't mind the lighter workload.

 

[VanCityNewb]

I’d think that you’d just mention what it is that you actually are looking for. If you’re pretty clear about that, I wouldn’t expect to have a lot of issues with other random stuff coming up unexpectedly. Especially if you repeat a few times and get to know what each other are comfortable with.

 

[Lady Vanessa]

Yes, they better! Many professional companions do have websites that explain the sessions they provide and what their boundaries are, so they may maintain a gratifying experience between one another. A complete experience and professional companion shall acknowledge their suitors boundaries as well, in their same respect and be open to communication. Lack of communication is the downfall to many intimate relationships. Why pay for a lack luster experience? Expectations are a bitch.
Communication is always a good indication and often foreplay when introducing one selves to a satisfying intimate first encounter and beyond. Closed mouths don't get fed and springing some unwanted, or unexpected acts can lead to you being blacklisted.

 

[westwoody]

Reading reviews often gives an idea of what services may be provided.
Bear in mind your hygiene and rapport are factors. That’s why some providers don’t like to commit beforehand.
If an ad or site say that they do not discuss specifics then DO NOT discuss specifics.

 

[Billiam]

I'm having trouble understanding the concept of this thread. If a client doesn't like to do something, ie DFK, DATY, etc., just don't do it! The SP is called the 'provider' because THEY 'provide' services, not the other
way around. Clients don't service the SPs, and I've never , in 50 years of pooning, had a SP request that I provide services to her.
It's like going to a buffet with , for some reason, the idea that you have to eat every dish available - bizarre!
Have I missed something here?

 

[Lady Vanessa]

Yes, you obviously missed the whole concept of the question posed and it is a good question to be asked and addressed. Open communication to what a client is seeking is a mature approach
so one is not faced in an awkward position to say no, please don't do that, to stop, or even I can't do this and getting the fuck out!
We are providers and some have fewer restrictions, some offer NON FS, massage only, GFE with, or without restrictions and some hard core PSE or BDSM. We're easy to seek out, for what you're in search of.
Often, a client may have a conscious to the level of pleasure they wish to receive. Perhaps, an understanding to what level of intimacy they would, or wouldn't partake in if they have a S/O, or their
personal health reasons may dictate their boundaries.
The bottom line is, many of us have boundaries and they should be expressed and respected. If you don't understand that, I feel sorry for you.
Man, there are factors to partaking in this adult industry and just because there are providers offering levels of intimacy, touch, levels of sex and companionship, we should always have consent,
value and respect to both regards as a client/provider and not push assumptions.

 

[westwoody]

In my experience - most who work in or graduate from either rub and tugs or agencies disregard any input from their customers.
They have a script and stick to it.
Greeting hi how are you blah blah blah- 3 minutes. Shower , vague compliments - 3 minutes.
Activity A. Activity B. Activity C. Moan and groan.
“What are you doing for the rest of the day” cue to gtfo.
Some ladies have a gift for making you feel like you are king of the world and some, no matter how hard they try or how great they look, should not be in this business.

 

[Billiam]

Yes, you obviously missed the whole concept of the question posed and it is a good question to be asked and addressed. Open communication to what a client is seeking is a mature approach
so one is not faced in an awkward position to say no, please don't do that, to stop, or even I can't do this and getting the fuck out!
We are providers and some have fewer restrictions, some offer NON FS, massage only, GFE with, or without restrictions and some hard core PSE or BDSM. We're easy to seek out, for what you're in search of.
Often, a client may have a conscious to the level of pleasure they wish to receive. Perhaps, an understanding to what level of intimacy they would, or wouldn't partake in if they have a S/O, or their
personal health reasons may dictate their boundaries.
The bottom line is, many of us have boundaries and they should be expressed and respected. If you don't understand that, I feel sorry for you.
Man, there are factors to partaking in this adult industry and just because there are providers offering levels of intimacy, touch, levels of sex and companionship, we should always have consent,
value and respect to both regards as a client/provider and not push assumptions.

Still confused. Of course providers have boundaries which must always be respected - easily understood. But the OP is talking about CLIENT's boundaries, not providers - perhaps YOU don't understand?

 

[masterpoonhunter]

In my experience - most who work in or graduate from either rub and tugs or agencies disregard any input from their customers.
They have a script and stick to it.
Greeting hi how are you blah blah blah- 3 minutes. Shower , vague compliments - 3 minutes.
Activity A. Activity B. Activity C. Moan and groan.
“What are you doing for the rest of the day” cue to gtfo.
Some ladies have a gift for making you feel like you are king of the world and some, no matter how hard they try or how great they look, should not be in this business.

Also there can be a huge language barrier.
So actions and body language would become the boundaries.

 

[blakealridge]

I definitely find my job next to impossible if I can’t kiss so I’d probably turn down a booking with someone who didn’t want to kiss. So yes, please let us know! I’ve had clients express boundaries many times (no P in V, covered BJ only, etc). It’s good to know boundaries on both sides going in. It’s one of my fav things about the job, is connections with clear boundaries

 

[ElectricWoodie]

I definitely find my job next to impossible if I can’t kiss so I’d probably turn down a booking with someone who didn’t want to kiss. So yes, please let us know! I’ve had clients express boundaries many times (no P in V, covered BJ only, etc). It’s good to know boundaries on both sides going in. It’s one of my fav things about the job, is connections with clear boundaries

Kiss me cuz I'm kissable...please

 

[Lets Review]

I didn't think I'd have to mention not jamming a finger up my ass, but you live and learn I guess.

 

[wincity23]

I'm having trouble understanding the concept of this thread. If a client doesn't like to do something, ie DFK, DATY, etc., just don't do it! The SP is called the 'provider' because THEY 'provide' services, not the other
way around. Clients don't service the SPs, and I've never , in 50 years of pooning, had a SP request that I provide services to her.
It's like going to a buffet with , for some reason, the idea that you have to eat every dish available - bizarre!
Have I missed something here?

I hear you but the op has a legitimate reason to post. He doesn’t go down, he doesn’t want to kiss. For a basic massage rub n tug, he’d probably be fine. What if he books a real pro providing GFE? Specifically because of their website-how they look-other features and offerings? This is why the communication is important. Like Charlie mentioned-she loves to kiss and would likely, without previous info/communication, get to that at some point. Now the client’s experience is diminished because he didn’t want that. Same as the so didn’t want a finger in her ass or anything else you can think of that isn’t wanted by any person on either side of the transaction. I’m no expert and still in my first year of this deal but I know enough to ask, answer, talk, get consent. You know, like you would/should with anyone in life.

 

[Lady Vanessa]

Still confused. Of course providers have boundaries which must always be respected - easily understood. But the OP is talking about CLIENT's boundaries, not providers - perhaps YOU don't understand?

WoWza, lol. I'll just chalk it up to perhaps reading comprehension isn't your strongest attribute. Cause good googly moogly Sir.

 

[Billiam]

WoWza, lol. I'll just chalk it up to perhaps reading comprehension isn't your strongest attribute. Cause good googly moogly Sir.

Care to explain what it is that you feel I'm not comprehending correctly, or is 'googly moogly' all you've got to offer?