I think the question for this thread phrased as “dating a ‘former’ SP” is silly.
Like, rephrased it would be, ‘would you hold someone’s past against them?’, if you are the type to think being an SP is a bad thing?
- Sure, it might matter if she was burned out on sex, or had a drug habit, or disease. But all of those questions APPLY to ANY relationship before you get seriously involved. That’s a ‘duh’ no-brainer, or should be.
So maybe the question is, are you prejudice against SP’s or someone who once was? Scarlett Letter, anyone?
My opinion?
Seeing or being involved with an SP can be a very exciting and dynamic relationship.
I can’t find it, there was a post in a thread here recently by a married SP, describing her marriage as very highly charged sexually, where the husband was super-excited to hear her tales, and would sometimes drive her to her appointments... and she loved teasing him, before and after with the details…which only energized him even more. WowoW! After some appointments she would go to the car highly charged and frustrated, having only provided a minimal service, and she would be raging with the Energy only just cued-up, barely containable..and he would then ‘suffer’ the attacking rape by her ravenous hunger…
Who wouldn’t growwwl and purrrr from that???
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The real question here comes down to:
Are both people committed to making her vocation an ASSET and not a hindrance to the relationship - ? – like the above example? Having her actively-mega-sexual-active can super-energize a sex life, and keep it always interesting, unique, and exciting! But it takes deliberate effort, because :
-truly, the most common, potential problem resulting from her vocation is, obviously it could have the opposite effect of taking away from the couple’s sex life, if she always gives her best to clientele, and then the Partner is left with less than ideal ‘sloppy seconds’ (had to phrase it that way!). In other words, you as the partner get the ‘short end’ of the full libido and creativity and affection. If she gives her all to her 'work', and doesn't have enough left to still give you her finest and best. How large of reserves does she have in that reservoir of luscious lust?
And the bad word extremes lead to/include ‘mechanical’, ‘uninteresting’, ‘obligatory’, 'going-thru-the-motions'. So, does the relationship have the same comparative fullness that it would if things were different?
Or maybe she should go part-time, or...or?
Same with Bdsm and pro-Dommes. After all that ‘work’, if you are a bottom or a subbie, does she still want to play as much or as often? Does she still have that creative reserve especially for you?
There are certain quality things you can know and hopefully rely on,
that are bonus when you get involved with an SP :
1) She has few or no sexual hang-ups.
- ( - How many women do men take the plunge with,
only to find themselves 'trapped' and sexually frustrated,
or wanting for more or better or different or variety?)
2) You can trust her intimately, if-since she is willing to risk the relationship to confide in you about her vocation;
3) And she cares about you enough to risk confiding in you, risking your condemnation, and potential relationship termination.
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I think another relevant question is :
would she still be doing it if 'you won the lottery'…(?)
…or if you (her partner) were well-to-do, well-off, established, or wealthy enough that she didn’t need to work?
And if the answer is still yes, in this case, why not just be a swinger, that way you have more control over who you sex-play with?
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All of this, it really all depends on your - - -
(Yay! I finally found a great place to use this image!)
Like, rephrased it would be, ‘would you hold someone’s past against them?’, if you are the type to think being an SP is a bad thing?
- Sure, it might matter if she was burned out on sex, or had a drug habit, or disease. But all of those questions APPLY to ANY relationship before you get seriously involved. That’s a ‘duh’ no-brainer, or should be.
So maybe the question is, are you prejudice against SP’s or someone who once was? Scarlett Letter, anyone?
My opinion?
Seeing or being involved with an SP can be a very exciting and dynamic relationship.
I can’t find it, there was a post in a thread here recently by a married SP, describing her marriage as very highly charged sexually, where the husband was super-excited to hear her tales, and would sometimes drive her to her appointments... and she loved teasing him, before and after with the details…which only energized him even more. WowoW! After some appointments she would go to the car highly charged and frustrated, having only provided a minimal service, and she would be raging with the Energy only just cued-up, barely containable..and he would then ‘suffer’ the attacking rape by her ravenous hunger…
Who wouldn’t growwwl and purrrr from that???
=======
The real question here comes down to:
Are both people committed to making her vocation an ASSET and not a hindrance to the relationship - ? – like the above example? Having her actively-mega-sexual-active can super-energize a sex life, and keep it always interesting, unique, and exciting! But it takes deliberate effort, because :
-truly, the most common, potential problem resulting from her vocation is, obviously it could have the opposite effect of taking away from the couple’s sex life, if she always gives her best to clientele, and then the Partner is left with less than ideal ‘sloppy seconds’ (had to phrase it that way!). In other words, you as the partner get the ‘short end’ of the full libido and creativity and affection. If she gives her all to her 'work', and doesn't have enough left to still give you her finest and best. How large of reserves does she have in that reservoir of luscious lust?
And the bad word extremes lead to/include ‘mechanical’, ‘uninteresting’, ‘obligatory’, 'going-thru-the-motions'. So, does the relationship have the same comparative fullness that it would if things were different?
Or maybe she should go part-time, or...or?
Same with Bdsm and pro-Dommes. After all that ‘work’, if you are a bottom or a subbie, does she still want to play as much or as often? Does she still have that creative reserve especially for you?
There are certain quality things you can know and hopefully rely on,
that are bonus when you get involved with an SP :
1) She has few or no sexual hang-ups.
- ( - How many women do men take the plunge with,
only to find themselves 'trapped' and sexually frustrated,
or wanting for more or better or different or variety?)
2) You can trust her intimately, if-since she is willing to risk the relationship to confide in you about her vocation;
3) And she cares about you enough to risk confiding in you, risking your condemnation, and potential relationship termination.
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I think another relevant question is :
would she still be doing it if 'you won the lottery'…(?)
…or if you (her partner) were well-to-do, well-off, established, or wealthy enough that she didn’t need to work?
And if the answer is still yes, in this case, why not just be a swinger, that way you have more control over who you sex-play with?
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All of this, it really all depends on your - - -
(Yay! I finally found a great place to use this image!)
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