Wow, just wow

terryj

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Tonight I just learn't alot about an Sp that I have been seeing, it really hurts. Such a long story, I don't know how to start, maybe I'll add to it as it goes on. So anyways I have been with this Sp for awhile with great chemistry, but it went a bit further, I started a thread last year about her too on here about an issue. She said that I am more than a client to her and wanted me in her life, so I played along because I'm just a lonely single guy, but in the back of my mind I kind of knew she was just playing me, so I gambled.
Then she started asking for financial help last year, and I always gave her whatever she wanted because I figured if I was alway's there I might have a chance, I know, I know don't say it. It amounted to $20,000 in total that I gave her over the course of the year, she did give me free sessions when she toured my city but not $20,000 worth.
One tour she did in August she called me just before advertising it, asking if I could pay for her plane ticket, I said sure and asked me for my credit card info, I know, I know. So anyways a week later I go to use my card and it wouldn't go through WTF, so I called the card company to ask what gives, it turns out they shut it done due to unusual transactions, and $2300 that I didn't spend on plane tickets and Hotel incall.
She kept telling me that she had feelings for me, and wanted to quit working, that it was going to be just me and her.
So last December she said she wanted to spend Christmas with me and come to my city, sounds sweet doesn't it. But she said it wouldn't work so I said I could come to her city instead and she was cool with it. So anyway's I go for 4 days, wound up all I did was look after her 5 year old son so she could go party everynight with her friends, awesome, the two nights she was home she slept with her son instead of me. Can I ask especially the ladies why would you ask someone to come halfway across the country to spend time with you because you had feelings for them, then totally ignore them.
The last night I was there she said she wasn't going out, so we had a few drinks and I was tired and fell asleep at 11:00pm, I whoke up at 3:00am and looked around to see no one around except her boy. I had a plane to catch back home and she promised to drive me to the airport, but I didn't know if she would be back, so I called a taxi. She then snuck in at 4:00am and went to sleep with her son.
Now I'm pissed and don't give a fuck, so later on when she was sleeping I snuck out to go the airport. When I was there she called at 8:00am asking where I was, and got pissed that I left without saying goodbye, she didn't want nothing to do with me so why would it matter.
I eventually got over the anger, and she did a tour in Jan. I tried to call to make an appointment but kept ignoring my calls, so we didn't she each other. Than just last week she did a tour and did she me this time. I tried to ask her what I was to her, if I was nothing more than just a client, she said I was much more than just a client to her, close friends and lovers, if the lady's could explain that to me it would be appreciated.
I know everybody will say quit seeing her but it's tough, because she is just so sexy and more so now because see is working out now and modeling in bikini contests.
So tonight I go on Facebook and check out stuff, I'm hardly ever on Facebook because I'm not into it. So I looked for her page and checked out her pics and clicked onto the like botton. While doing that I noticed another guy left a like, so I clicked on him just out of interest, WOW did I get an eyefull, guess who his love interest is. This is the same person who told me She is not ready and wants to concentrate on her business and modeling, but still wants me in her life.
I don't know what to think now, hope you enjoy the sad story.
 

blazejowski

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Man oh man... I hate to be the first, but you got played like a banjo, my good man.
Stop seeing her immediately unless you like paying for nothing....
 

billa69

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Dude this sucks.. The SP knew you were vulnerable and took advantage of you. Next time do not bring credit card/ money to a relationship or even a potential one whether its a SP or a non SP girl . If the person likes you they would not ask for those.
 

Dgodus

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That's a kick in the balls. I dont mind "favors" for an sp, but once money starts getting involved you gotta flip the business switch back on in the "business relationship".
 

joho

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I am sorry to hear that. Learn a very valuable lesson now so time to move on!
 

Bartdude

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violetblake

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Can you please stop asking us ladies to explain her actions like this is something we all do lol. The vast majority does not. You happened to find one who does, she gave you every red flag and you ignored it. You're far from the only one, don't beat yourself up over it. You've realized it now, move on. If you still continue to see her, then you're a real idiot lol. Most women aren't like that, go out there and find one of them.
 

GATSBY

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You're right; you gambled and you lost. Now it's time to cut your losses. Don't look back and good luck!
 

Guardian Angel

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If you go into a relationship with an escort, you better be prepared for the day it is over. Don't dwell on it. Take it for what it was and remember the good times. You wrote the story yourself and have no one to blame but yourself. Feel good about the moeny you helped her with and feel good that her situation now is not as a result of your actions.

People make choices right or wrong, learn from them accept them and take the good that you can out of it and learn.

Best luck in the future. If you meet up with another escort, just remember!!!

G.A.
 

PlayfulAlex

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This lady may be sexy on the outside, but she's not sexy on the inside. She sensed your weakness for her, and she took full advantage of you. You coming here to discuss the situation indicates that you have already figured this out but, it's like the difference between knowing that you're overweight and actually doing something about it. It sounds like you're not ready to do something about it yet.

You have been very helpful to this lady, gone above and beyond the call of duty. You thought that by doing so, you could win her heart. Well clearly, this hasn't happened, and maybe you can tell that it's not going to. Ever.

Does she seem to care about your feelings? Even if she says she does, you have to ignore her words and take note of her actions. Many people say one thing and then do another. Always go by a person's actions, not their words. Words are cheap. Her actions have shown you, numerous times now, that you're a convenience. That she can do almost anything to you, and you'll keep coming back for more.

It sounds like you are expecting her to change. You're fantasizing that, one day, she'll wake up and realize how great you are. She'll realize that you're the one she should have been with this whole time. She'll give up her bad behaviour, and the two of you will walk into the sunset together (well, with her child) and never look back.

Quit reading so many comic books, young man. She has told you everything that you need to know by now. You're asking the ladies here to tell you why she keeps saying that you're more than a client to her. Well, of course you are!

You're:

* a free babysitter
* an ATM machine
* a shoulder to cry on
* a hanger-on-er
* a groupie (if she won't come to your town, you'll go to hers)
* a free ticket to anywhere

Need I go on? Please wake up and, yes, we've all been there. Fantasy is juvenile; you have some serious growing up to do. One day soon (I hope) you'll accept that this started out bad and it ended bad. There isn't going to be a happy ending, except the one where you walk away, lick your wounds, dust yourself off, and start fresh. You'll have a whole new understanding of true narcissism (look it up). In her world, it revolves around only her; you don't exist (neither does her child), other than to revolve around her needs.

Hope you listen to the wisdom on perb here...remember you came here for a reason. Take the advice you sought. Make a life for yourself, and not with someone like her.

(If you'd like to do some research on why many women treat men the way they do, here's a start: www.laddertheory.com

Don't be confused which ladder you're on...remember you pay for all the sex that you have with her...)
 

uncleg

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Can you please stop asking us ladies to explain her actions like this is something we all do lol. The vast majority does not. You happened to find one who does, she gave you every red flag and you ignored it. You're far from the only one, don't beat yourself up over it. You've realized it now, move on. If you still continue to see her, then you're a real idiot lol. Most women aren't like that, go out there and find one of them.

Umm......he didn't. However, personalities aside can you blame him for maybe thinking that a lady in the business might have more insight into what makes somebody like this tick ?
 

Holly Taylor

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Originally posted by violetblake

Can you please stop asking us ladies to explain her actions like this is something we all do
Umm......he didn't.
The original poster wrote:

"I eventually got over the anger, and she did a tour in Jan. I tried to call to make an appointment but kept ignoring my calls, so we didn't she each other. Than just last week she did a tour and did she me this time. I tried to ask her what I was to her, if I was nothing more than just a client, she said I was much more than just a client to her, close friends and lovers, if the lady's could explain that to me it would be appreciated."

This is a very unfortunate situation, but I have to agree with Violet Blake. Being a woman or a sex-worker does not give me any insight into this type of behaviour. Specifically asking the ladies for their input implies that we have some kind of explanation for the behaviour of the woman described by the original poster.
 

Corbin

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Well terryj, you can't change the past so you have to chalk it up as a very costly learning experience. And the general consensus in here is that you should sever all ties immediately is obviously correct. But, I get this weird vibe from your post that you aren't really capable of doing that. I suspect that a few kind words from this person, perhaps an apology, and you'll be back on board. If you really want to excise this person from your life, you are going to have to be strong and absolutely committed, no questions asked.

And don't waste your time trying to understand her motives. JUST GET AWAY FROM HER!! SEVER ALL TIES!!
 

PlayfulAlex

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Umm......he didn't. However, personalities aside can you blame him for maybe thinking that a lady in the business might have more insight into what makes somebody like this tick ?
This is a very unfortunate situation, but I have to agree with Violet Blake. Being a woman or a sex-worker does not give me any insight into this type of behaviour. Specifically asking the ladies for their input implies that we have some kind of explanation for the behaviour of the woman described by the original poster.
I must respectfully add that, yes, being a woman just might expose us to other women we've met that have treated men this way. I thought the OP asked all women for any input into how a woman like this might feel, and why she might act this way.

And yes, I have met women like this. Women who see men as a ticket. Women who are specifically looking for men with an M stamped on their forehead. Women who find that, when they say the right thing (fill in the blank for the particular guy that she's playing), they can get men to act in the way that they want.

It isn't pretty, and the OP's request doesn't imply that any lady that answers his question is one of those ladies. Let's not be naive her, ladies, it wasn't personal, I'm sure. And all of the advice here has been awesome, btw, from the guys and the ladies!
 

HeMadeMeDoIt

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Terryj: As I am sure many of the SPs are disgusted at this chick's behavior, I must say I as a pooner am equally disgusted at yours. You kept getting screwed over and over and over again and kept going back for more, only because you have a deluded view of the nature of the relationship. Who fucking gives his credit card info to anyone let alone an SP that was using them and then flies half way across the continent to see the same after she screwed you over a few times.

I know this may sound harsh but you my fellow pooner need to grow a spine, stand up for yourself and maybe get some professional help. I say this in the kindest way possible because there is a pattern and had this chick been a little slicker or smarter she could've fleeced you for a shitload more. Hell if she even paid you some attention you would have probably sold your house and had the money deposited in her account.
 

Chef99

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TerryJ: You're "addicted" for whatever reason. I know, I've been there. It wasn't an SP and she didn't take me for 20 grand but the relationship was insane. Despite a continual emtional roller coaster filled with lies and manipulation there was something that made me go back again and again. The only way I was able to get off that train was counselling.... that's what I recommend... Oh, yeah, that and start seeing other SPs - at the time I started to get her out of my life was also the first time I saw a SP and she helped immensely.... Good luck.
 

vancity_cowboy

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Oh, yeah, that and start seeing other SPs - at the time I started to get her out of my life was also the first time I saw a SP and she helped immensely.... Good luck.
yep, no emotional roller coaster there - simply no emotions at all, lol :thumb:
 

Cock Throppled

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You can only be played if you want to be.

This guy ignored all the warning lights.

Has nothing to do with the industry, or even being a woman - scammers come in any description.
 

vancity_cowboy

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You can only be played if you want to be.

This guy ignored all the warning lights.

Has nothing to do with the industry, or even being a woman - scammers come in any description.
...and as is often (mis)credited to p.t. barnum, 'there's a sucker born every minute!' :nod:

but hey, he's not alone... i've been fooled by some very cute young things, one of which ripped off a buddy badly after i recommended her to him! i was lucky i guess, completely by accident, there just never happened to be a time when she could rip me off. but it can happen to all of us
 
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