Will seeing escorts help me with my social anxiety & ability to talk to & flirt with woman?

[wanderingsoul]

I've never had a romantic partner or shared a kiss with someone who wasn't a professional companion. My initial experiences involved meeting a few escorts, with breaks in between, mostly for one-hour meetings. Now, I'm considering this might be a better approach to build my self-assurance and improve my skills in communicating and flirting with women.

I'm open to finding cuddle companions instead of escorts, but it's difficult for me to locate trustworthy ones who aren't too old, like my mom's age.

Has seeing escorts helped you be better at dating, flirting & talking to woman?

 

[vanperb]

How old are you? Social background?

https://perb.cc/xenforo/threads/guide-should-i-start-hiring-escorts.347827/post-2537262

 

[PuntMeister]

Yes, it very well could improve your confidence around women.

It is my experience that women find confidence attractive. Having the wherewithall to ham it up a bit can lead to flirting opportunities. Then toning it down a bit and learning to be comfortable initiating authentic conversations. Apparently having the courage to talk about your vulnerabilities is sexy. Wish I had practiced that when I was 25.

 

[Bunghole1]

Life is filled with shoulda woulda and couldas. You only live once. The biggest issue that a large percentage of the world deals with when it comes to seeking connections is that fear of being rejected. The ones who break free from that issue seem to be having a more enjoyable life with less mental stress.
I know guys who could care less about being turned down because they follow this mantra that theres always going to be more fish in the sea. From my view most of the guys with that attitude seem to do pretty well with the ladies. You dont want to be sitting in a rocking chair old and worn out with a limp weiner on deaths door thinking of all the shoulda woulda couldas in your lifes history.

Sometimes its best to break free and explore uncharted territory. You need to fight that constant fear of being rejected.

Picture yourself on a roller coaster as you ride to the top before the big drop. You fear that scary what if? outcome as you are strapped in and theres
no turning back. As the ride finishes you have this sigh of relief that you are back safe and sound.

Meeting and talking to women will not kill you unless they have really bad breath.

What I think you should do is to work on face to face talking interactions before anything else. When do you go on a date where bedroom situations such as cuddling instantly happens? You need to fix the outter shell before you get to the meat and potatos. When you feel ok enough strap yourself in the online dating/platonic world. Unless you meet a homicidal maniac you should make it back to your home base safe and sound. Dont get caught up on bad dates. Use each experience as a way to better yourself.
Your goal is not so much to meet someone but to conquer your fears. Once you can do that your worlds your oyster bar.

You could see providers on a more platonic level but even then you could get stuck going back to such easy comforts each and everytime you seek out a companion or partner. If you plan on using providers as a way to help you with connecting with women it can only take you so far. You dont want lose your goals and get lost in this addictive easy way out lifestyle. Deep down you could end up hating yourself for not manning up to your fears.

 

[westwoody]

Yes.

 

[MB Mod]

PERB is not the place to get counseling, and this subject has been done to death, thread closed.