Will be 40 this year. I am losing sleep over my single relationship status
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This part hits home to me. While I'm nowhere being rich or well-off, I have accrued some assets that I would hate to see lost in a separation. All those hard years of earning and savings being risked in a relationship where half the time it goes to shit. It's a scary thought..
Oh, and unlike when you were 20, you now probably have resources to lose, so you are potentially the target of predators and therefore need to be vigilant on that front too.
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I would risk it for the chance to be happy. But when you see, hear, or experience all the hardships relationships have sometimes it makes you think twice.While this is a valid concern, would you rather be guaranteed your riches but alone at the end of the road? Or would you risk it for a chance to be happy? After all, what is living life worth to you?
You still have plenty of time to meet that special someone. It might not fit your current view of "how it should be" but you're a looong way off from dying alone.
Relax man, it will happen if you're proactive.
Relax man, it will happen if you're proactive.
One of the rules of Sales is to ask open ended questions.... to get the prospect to talk more. Keep them interested and they are more likely to buy, people in general like to talk about themselves, if its sales, they love talking about their business. In life most girls love to talk about themselves.I talk up a lot of girls, and I can tell if they might possibly be interested. If they never reciprocate anything you say, the odds are against you.
Example
Me "So how long have you been riding"
Her "10 years"
Me "I see. You own your own horse or lease it?"
Her "Lease."
Me "Do you get to ride him often?"
Her "Sometimes."
If she never reciprocates anything by asking me questions or only gives one sentence answers, she's not interested.
I'm very helpful to the younger girls who come to me for advice for their cars, troubleshooting problems for them or even fixing simple problems for them, but I'm more like a helpfull older brother or father figure to them.
Some will say yes to my face when I ask them out, but then when it gets closer to the day, I get a text or email saying they're not interested, or they are busy, and provide no alternate date.
What do you like about riding?
Why do you lease rather than own?
What are some of the best places to go riding? why?
Remember at the end of the day you are trying to sell yourself and the appointment, in this case the date.
Do you have a tiny penis? If so...that would explain a lot...I will be turning 40 this year and am feeling middle age setting in. I think my body odour has changed, I am starting to find it difficult to focus at small print 6 inches from my face, and have aches and pains when I wake up in the morning.
I am also starting to find it hard to get a sound sleep, and I think it is because I am still single and extremely frustrated because of it.
I remain fit, still have all my hair, broke 6 figures the past two years, have a master's degree, pensionable job, own a small townhouse, and have been told I am reasonably good looking and a good dresser, but I still have a hard time meeting a girl. I've tried eharmony, and had only 1 date over a 9 month period.
I have multiple hobbies such as pistol shooting, flying, tinkering with cars, golf and also hit the gym about once a week. I regularly talk up girls, but never seem to get the signs that they are interested, such as reciprocating personal details about themselves.
Meanwhile, I see other guys at my workplace, which only has about 200 people where 75% are male at this location, go through a new girl every year.
I've been hobbying for 20 years, and in some ways, it has been a coping mechanism, but have always been looking for a long term relationship.
I know there are women who will never date me because of my height, age, ethnicity, personality, etc. and I realize that not every women I meet will be interested in me, but find it extremely frustrating that none seem to.
How best can I cope with this?
Well you say you have been in the hobby for 20 years .. in that time you should of found on of the girls that would date you and be in a relationship with you .. that is if you stopped seeing escorts .. and she was willing to leave the business all though . if you are ok with her still working some time it might work out unless she just wants to be with you.. .
But then again seeing escorts give us a false sense of the easy and comfort of a possible relationship because we only spend a few hrs with women doing what pleasures us .. and not have to deal with the other difficulties of every day life and relationships .
Why haven't you had any relation ships with SPs you have meet ? That would say a lot about why u haven;t had many relationship other wise .
But then again seeing escorts give us a false sense of the easy and comfort of a possible relationship because we only spend a few hrs with women doing what pleasures us .. and not have to deal with the other difficulties of every day life and relationships .
Why haven't you had any relation ships with SPs you have meet ? That would say a lot about why u haven;t had many relationship other wise .
Thanks for the replies. I've never had a full time relationship. I find a lot of civillian girls are fine conversing with me until I approach I ask them out. At work, many ask me for car advice as that is one of my main hobbies. I believe I fall into the "nice guy" category. Many also say that "You're a great guy. You'll meet someone." but these women are all attached. If I know them long enough that their relationship status changes, they indicate that they're not looking.
I do on occasion ask an escort if she would be interested in dating if we hit it off, and I've known one for ten years now, but she's in Toronto and I'm out here.
I do on occasion ask an escort if she would be interested in dating if we hit it off, and I've known one for ten years now, but she's in Toronto and I'm out here.
Valid concern. Though there are ways to protect onself...prenup, relationships only with successful women, Swiss bank accounts, etcThis part hits home to me. While I'm nowhere being rich or well-off, I have accrued some assets that I would hate to see lost in a separation. All those hard years of earning and savings being risked in a relationship where half the time it goes to shit. It's a scary thought.
If you're not already happy alone, what makes you think you can have a happy relationship with another? OTOH if you happen upon greater happiness by "falling in love", beware the cold turkey withdrawal, like from heroin, when it falls apart. You won't be happy then, there is no methadone to save you, and you'll probably wish the Valentine's day archer never shot you.While this is a valid concern, would you rather be guaranteed your riches but alone at the end of the road? Or would you risk it for a chance to be happy? After all, what is living life worth to you?
I wouldn't be so naive as to believe everything i hear people say, or i read in the news,You're a couple of steps lower than a {censored}.
let alone on an internet forum. Fooled ya! Or not ; But i doubt your kind of response
would accomplish anything except to harden such people into continuing what they do,
and keep them from being open about it and discussing it in a civilized manner.
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Also, look around at any married guy, and ask yourself would you like to sleep next to their "partner" every night? I expect 98% response rate to be a resounding ...NO!Life is much better sharing your happiness with others and I prefer to look at the glass half full rather than with a cynical outlook.
I'm sure quite a few pooners have hot wives and girlfriends. I doubt the overwhelming majority are here because their wives are THAT brutal. Everyone's here for different reasons. The only thing I'll tag the 98% number to, is the amount of debbie downers in this thread. If you're not happy with where you are in your life, only YOU can change it. Make changes!Also, look around at any married guy, and ask yourself would you like to sleep next to their "partner" every night? I expect 98% response rate to be a resounding ...NO!
I will be turning 40 this year and am feeling middle age setting in. I think my body odour has changed, I am starting to find it difficult to focus at small print 6 inches from my face, and have aches and pains when I wake up in the morning.
I am also starting to find it hard to get a sound sleep, and I think it is because I am still single and extremely frustrated because of it.
I remain fit, still have all my hair, broke 6 figures the past two years, have a master's degree, pensionable job, own a small townhouse, and have been told I am reasonably good looking and a good dresser, but I still have a hard time meeting a girl. I've tried eharmony, and had only 1 date over a 9 month period.
I have multiple hobbies such as pistol shooting, flying, tinkering with cars, golf and also hit the gym about once a week. I regularly talk up girls, but never seem to get the signs that they are interested, such as reciprocating personal details about themselves.
Meanwhile, I see other guys at my workplace, which only has about 200 people where 75% are male at this location, go through a new girl every year.
I've been hobbying for 20 years, and in some ways, it has been a coping mechanism, but have always been looking for a long term relationship.
I know there are women who will never date me because of my height, age, ethnicity, personality, etc. and I realize that not every women I meet will be interested in me, but find it extremely frustrating that none seem to.
How best can I cope with this?
Cope with what? From the sounds of things your life seems to be pretty good. You say you are
Starting to find it difficult to focus at small print 6 inches from your face, and have aches and pains when you wake up in the morning.
I would see a doctor.
My suggestions I do not know you so I am basing this on the information given first of all I would question why you feel you need a girlfriend or wife?
I know men who have married some very ugly women simply because they felt they had to have a wife. My brother for one she’s like around 300 pounds She has a simmering anger due to her physical health problems brought on by her excess weight. For reasons I do not want to get into here she has an ingrained hatred of men But my brother felt he needed a wife so she has female body part’s and thus fitted the basic requirement Not a good plan.
How are your social skills in general do you have lots of friends or any friends? If you have no friends whatsoever at age 40 I would look at getting a psychological evaluation to test
For the possibility that you may have aspergers or some other social disorder. If this is not the case you simply need to improve your social skills. The way you do this is spend more time meeting and talking to people. I do not think much of dating websites people who tend to go on those go on them because of the relative safety and anonymity provided by the Internet.
As for the seduction and or pick up community I would stay away from paying for this scam Most of this information can be gotten for free anyway.
Most of the seduction advice boils down to approach and talk to lots of women. If you want to go that route there is tons of info on this available for free. A basic thing might be to complement the woman on what she has on.
The other thing you might want to do is hire a professional matchmaker with a good record if you feel you absolutely needs to get married right away.
Before you even consider marriage you might want to read " The Kreutzer Sonata "by Leo Tolstoy . Although it is a work of fiction .It has opened my eyes up to certain reality's regarding Marriage that I think people who are considering Marriage right away should know about.
LOL. Was thinking this the other day all my friends that are married or in something long term.Also, look around at any married guy, and ask yourself would you like to sleep next to their "partner" every night? I expect 98% response rate to be a resounding ...NO!
Would I want what he has??? Sure a couple of them might be a fun bang, but I couldn't imagine living with any of them.
Being single is usually a good thing.
Personally, although i like to cuddle for hours while awake, i prefer to sleep alone.Also, look around at any married guy, and ask yourself would you like to sleep next to their "partner" every night? I expect 98% response rate to be a resounding ...NO!
I rest much better unattached to another body. Besides, i snore and if i am having
a bad dream i've been known to smack my bedmate in the face ; Though i suppose
all that and much more would be acceptable to a sex doll!
BAM....problem solved....other potential countries include Thailand/Vietnam/Laos/Indonesia....either way you get a beautifull young gal that will treat you right and not have the mindset of a western woman...this is WIN WIN.Meh, get yourself a wife from Russia or the Phillapines,problem solved
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I am 23 and pretty well lived enough to a point where I am ready to settle. A few close friends suggested the idea of a mail order bride to me, and I just think its not the right way to go. You do get a woman with the right mindset, but at the same time, you are pretty much marrying a complete stranger(i dont know how this stuff works, im just assuming). Marrying a stranger just seems weird to me, but its worked for others out there, im just not sold on the idea yet.BAM....problem solved....other potential countries include Thailand/Vietnam/Laos/Indonesia....either way you get a beautifull young gal that will treat you right and not have the mindset of a western woman...this is WIN WIN.
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That is true, and I don't doubt it; problem is, there are fewer available women at that age. That said, it's not hopeless; most women at that age (divorced, what have you) know what they want, are equally established in life, and not into games.Decent looking guys over 40 with their head on straight should have no problem meeting women in their mid to late 30s and older.
Reputable marriage agency
I'd be willing to take a look at Eastern European women, but who knows of a reputable agency?
Many of these women are looking for citizenship, and bringing their entire family over. Then they divorce you and take half your pension.
I'd be willing to take a look at Eastern European women, but who knows of a reputable agency?
Many of these women are looking for citizenship, and bringing their entire family over. Then they divorce you and take half your pension.
