Why They Call It 'Strange"

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

The next time something cute and fuzzy tries to follow me home, someone slap me back into reality, please?

You would think that I would learn by now that there are people one just cannot and should not invite into one's life. it gives them power over you, and they drain you of strength and all your emotional reserves. They breeze into your life, create chaos, and then depart, leaving you clinging to normalcy by your fingertips and wondering what the hell was the name of the hurricane that just ran you over. Some people just are takers, pure & simple, and no matter how much you do for them it's never enough. Not soon enough, not fast enough, not good enough. I saw all the signs, but they were so foggy. No more. My Rescue Ranger hat is officially retired.

The next time I get a craving for some strange pussy, I'm just going to do like the pooners do!

 

[nickcan]

Sounds like my ex-wife, paid for nothing and brought nothing into the marriage.
Drained me of my money and blamed me for everything.

 

[Alix Turner]

Its funny but somehow the ones the just lay down at my feet and beg me to do with them what I will don't even appeal as pets of the non human variety.

I'd still take a brutal near hopeless challenge over a bright shiny bullshitter any day though when it comes to people, if I had to choose. Still working on being able to tell the difference between the two at times.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Its funny but somehow the ones the just lay down at my feet and beg me to do with them what I will don't even appeal as pets of the non human variety.

I'd still take a brutal near hopeless challenge over a bright shiny bullshitter any day though when it comes to people, if I had to choose. Still working on being able to tell the difference between the two at times.

This. Sometimes, the two can coincide in one very dynamic damaged individual. Twisting facts to suit your reality doesn't alter truth!

 

[Julie Page]

|Hope everything is okay.

 

[hornygandalf]

Having a big heart so often leads to hurt as well. Boundaries can become fuzzy and shifted a little too far, or breached.
But, would you be the amazing, vivacious you if you didn't have that big heart?
Would you want to miss all of the wonderful experiences, adventures and friendships you have if you closed your heart off?
Find the good in this, learn and continue on. You may be wounded in this, but maybe you also sowed some seeds that will bear fruit (unknown to you) down the road.
All the best in the healing and recovery.

Methinks this is reference to one erstwhile duo partner you had under your wing...

 

[Elle Diablo]

Tres bummer when you find out that the person you thought was a certain way turns out to be nothing of what you expected them to be ... but dem's da brakes especially when you try to mix "business and personal pleasure" thinking there's no real difference between the two especially when the business is sex. People's perspectives differ greatly when sex, manipulations, emotions, promises, expectations, fantasies are involved.

The heart wants what it wants, but nobody said we all want the same thing.

 

[Julie Page]

Having a big heart so often leads to hurt as well. Boundaries can become fuzzy and shifted a little too far, or breached.
But, would you be the amazing, vivacious you if you didn't have that big heart?
Would you want to miss all of the wonderful experiences, adventures and friendships you have if you closed your heart off?
Find the good in this, learn and continue on. You may be wounded in this, but maybe you also sowed some seeds that will bear fruit (unknown to you) down the road.
All the best in the healing and recovery.

Methinks this is reference to one erstwhile duo partner you had under your wing...

I can't speak for who, but I do think HG is right. You can't shut everyone out, but you can take it more slowly. I've been known to get manic about friendships/relationships, so I get how hard it can be at times. You seem pretty solid, though, babe, don't let the handful of asshats get to you too much. I'm sure you know all this, already. So I'll just send internet hugs.
xo

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Tres bummer when you find out that the person you thought was a certain way turns out to be nothing of what you expected them to be ... but dem's da brakes especially when you try to mix "business and personal pleasure" thinking there's no real difference between the two especially when the business is sex. People's perspectives differ greatly when sex, manipulations, emotions, promises, expectations, fantasies are involved.

The heart wants what it wants, but nobody said we all want the same thing.

This was more of a case of trying to do the right thing, trying to offer a hand up and to empower, when in fact what was desired was handouts and enabling. Support is one thing: backing up other people's bullshit is another matter entirely. Inviting that individual into my life not only cost me financially in terms of outlay but also in terms of lost work days. Couldn't work when I was looking after her needs, couldn't work after the infection in my arm, certainly couldn't work the day LE removed her, kicking and literally screaming, from my home.

HG, you are right on all counts. I do have a big heart: it often leads to big hurt. As those who have met me in person know, I feel everything intensely: big joy, big tears. The reality is, this won't change my heart much; but it might serve as a reminder to my head...It will affect the way I do business, While I would love to be able to offer duos consistently, I am not prepared to get burned a FOURTH time by a potential duo partner. I might be a slow learner but eventually it sinks in! I love what I do, and I love the way I do it, and I am not changing anything to suit anyone but myself...I am still here, still strong, still unique in what I offer, and still 100% Erica.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

you mean thinking with the little head happens to women too???

 

[Elle Diablo]

you mean thinking with the little head happens to women too???

Yup ... that drug called Euphoria can make things feel all fuzzy like

 

[kes458]

Maybe 'cause you are such a wonderful solo experience you are not destined for the duo world ? And someone beat me to the "little head" comment.

 

[shyboy123]

I have had equally rewarding and devastating outcomes when I have been generous with my time, heart, and money. Depending on which way it went, I would feel like I would always or never do that again. I hope for anyone that ends up being hurt is not put in a situation where they never want to help again, because when you do help and it makes a difference the world gets just a little better, even for just a moment and it is worth it.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

you mean thinking with the little head happens to women too???

Sadly yes...and like my heart, that part of me is somewhat larger than average...maybe THAT's the problem?

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Maybe 'cause you are such a wonderful solo experience you are not destined for the duo world ? And someone beat me to the "little head" comment.

Oh kes, you old bull, you always know how to put a smile on this face! Maybe I'm not...but I love women just as much as I love men, and I keep getting some of my favourite men asking me about duos! So...I keep looking for a permanent partner. Think I'll take a hiatus from the hunt though.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Epiphany: I am a strange attractant!

I'm watching "Jurassic Park", and Jeff Goldblum is absolutely wonderfully over the top as 'chaotician' Dr. Ian Malcom is expressing his incredulity that the paleontologists know nothing of "..Chaos Theory? Non-linear Equations? Strange attractants?"

Suddenly, it all makes sense!

 

[Dickson]

Yes we have all been there. That is why I never get in relationship with anyone but SPs real relationships are killers. Like you I can get out of control. But just enjoy the moment.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Yes we have all been there. That is why I never get in relationship with anyone but SPs real relationships are killers. Like you I can get out of control. But just enjoy the moment.

We all have a learning curve in this hobby/industry/pursuit...my new rule is "Duo? Sure I'll participate! Call a top-drawer lady and set it up; bring her along to my Surrey in call, or we can all meet up in Tinseltown!" and "Don't let the cute fuzzy things follow you home. They BITE!" It is so true that often you get what you pay for...so I'm taking my own advice! Well reviewed, experienced & above all, PROFESSIONAL ladies that are INTO IT...

Any recommendations? Better yet...any volunteers? :eyebrows:

 

[Lo-ki]

:clap2::clap2: Pick me ound:ound:

 

[Julie Page]

:clap2::clap2: Pick me ound:ound:

I'm sure that's what she meant.