Why do clients lie about how many escorts they've seen?

[Yman]

what.....i've never seen an escort.

I don't have to pay for sex !!

 

[planetsmurf]

i have had several escorts ask me if i have ever seen one before at first i was like 1-2 when i had seen like 5-6. and now i just say over the years i have lost track. but i would really be interested is asking the reverse, not to judge or think less about them but just because i would be curios to know. i don't as i think it might not go over well

 

[Harmony-bc]

i have had several escorts ask me if i have ever seen one before at first i was like 1-2 when i had seen like 5-6. and now i just say over the years i have lost track. but i would really be interested is asking the reverse, not to judge or think less about them but just because i would be curios to know. i don't as i think it might not go over well

I get asked occasionally. It never offends me. I think you can ask almost anything, it is the way you ask and the reasons behind it. There is nothing wrong with natural curiosity. I always answer today is my first day and you are my first client, It is not a lie because it is so obviously not true, hahah. the truth would be really I have not kept track.

 

[AA_Train]

I would never ask a client how many escorts he has seen, or who he has seen. I don't think it's appropriate at all.

But, like Emmanuelle, I have had clients who told me that they have never seen an escort before, or that I am the only one they see - these comments are totally unsolicited by me. Sometimes it was true, but sometimes it wasn't, and I always wondered why they would make something up, out of the blue, when I didn't even ask (or care either way).

Something to ponder...

I have to agree with you here. While I don't think it's rude to ask, I think it is bad form. I will answer the question, but feel a little uncomfortable doing so. If they want to know who, I have written reviews here and they are free to read them.

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Why do clients lie about how many escorts they've seen?

... because you are (foolish) enough to ask.

 

[*emmanuelle]

... because you are (foolish) enough to ask.

Please re-read what I've written. I don't ask clients about their history with other escorts.
I'm talking about men who volunteer the information, usually in their introductory email or phone call.

 

[*emmanuelle]

By the way, I should mention that personally, I always feel much more comfortable with a client when I know I'm NOT his first escort. To me, it means that he will have a better understanding of the rules of the game (i.e. don't ask the girl for her real name, don't arrive early, don't overstay your welcome, etc. etc.)

 

[*emmanuelle]

I think some people may do this as they want the SP to lead the proceedings. Feigning naivety would achieve this.
Perhaps they want to be dommed a bit but don't have the guts to say it?


Personally I am/was a relative newbie to the game as of about 6 months ago after only sporadically dipping my toe into the "hobby" over the proceeding year or so.

What was off limits and what wasn't compared to real life was still an unanswered question.
That being said I was honest and told SP's (who can speak English!) that this is the case and they were fine with it and tended to take the lead on proceedings, I didn't pretend it was my first visit to make this happen.

Nowadays I know enough about what is entailed in this game to be able to take charge myself, although I also let this go the other way if I'm in the mood.


Also I think what's been said already, if there is any element of shame a client holds (and lets face it it's difficult to hop over the taboo attached to this) then saying "I am new to this I don't normally do this sort of thing" is both to an attempt to dissolve any pity feelings from the SP (even if they don't feel this) and also to positively reinforce this to their self. i.e be in denial.

Very interesting insight, thanks for this!

 

[SeekSteadyRegSP]

Please re-read what I've written. I don't ask clients about their history with other escorts.
I'm talking about men who volunteer the information, usually in their introductory email or phone call.

Uhhhhhhhhhhh, I did re-read what you wrote:


"I have had quite a few men tell me that our time together is their first experience with an escort, only to find out later that he has seen many many other SPs."


None of it says or implies that men volunteer the information in their intro e-mail or phone call. So let us get this straight: men call you, and almost immediately say: "I've never been with an escort before (as if to draw you into explaining every last detail)"... and then, later, for some reason (after they leave? or just when???), you decide you should look into their backgrounds to stealthfully figure out just how many working girls they've bedded, and whether they were lying to you?

I can only imagine what you were like in singles bars and other social meeting places when observing men tell you and other women that they've only been with some (usually small) number of women to that point. (and let me guess - none of the men in those settings ever admitted to having bedded a working girl?)

If this makes it more clear to you, please change my answer to read:

"Because you were (foolish) enough to care"

 

[Harmony-bc]

Uhhhhhhhhhhh, I did re-read what you wrote:


"I have had quite a few men tell me that our time together is their first experience with an escort, only to find out later that he has seen many many other SPs."


None of it says or implies that men volunteer the information in their intro e-mail or phone call. So let us get this straight: men call you, and almost immediately say: "I've never been with an escort before (as if to draw you into explaining every last detail)"... and then, later, for some reason (after they leave? or just when???), you decide you should look into their backgrounds to stealthfully figure out just how many working girls they've bedded, and whether they were lying to you?

I can only imagine what you were like in singles bars and other social meeting places when observing men tell you and other women that they've only been with some (usually small) number of women to that point. (and let me guess - none of the men in those settings ever admitted to having bedded a working girl?)

If this makes it more clear to you, please change my answer to read:

"Because you were (foolish) enough to care"

Wow, did you ever read a lot into her post, lol.

 

[mimi]

OH......MY....LORD

She really did mean just what she said.

Years before Perb or ****, when I was working for an agency, I would be sent on a call to a regular and told how much he paid....when I got there he would inform me that he had never done this before...this happened a lot...I just smiled and pretended I was his first...

One fellow had it right...many men are secretly ashamed of their sexual desires and their frequency of partners.

Many men do not want to be perceived as sluts....

So, Emmanuel is just wondering what are the psychological implications behind this behaviour?

Why do clients offer up this information without being asked when it isn't important to the session.....

THAT'S ALLLLLLLLL

 

[maxx50]

in a bumping mood

There is another side to this .. I have been asked who i have seen and i do talk about the girls i have seen i can't help my self because usually they have been regulars that I have seen many time because i enjoyed their company / Why i am now seeing some one new is because my regular has left the business or we have become friends and there are other personal dynamics in play like respecting and appreciating then on a different level or other words i don't feel comfortable just seeing them for sex.
Now i still love to talk about them but I don't think the girl i am with at the time appreciates it even when they do ask i am not sure what i should say to them. especially if now I am seeing them as a regular