What Is Your Opinion On Members That Never Give Back

[Tugela]

What is your opinion on members on here that just come on here to sponge information from other good members just for their own benefit.
I am talking about members that will only ask questions and never offer back anything of value to other members on the forum.

This place is a good resource to get information on the services and experiences of SPs that I have interest in booking.
I always make it a point to post a little bit about my positive experiences to help out other members when I can in appreciation for their help.

Some of these selfish members that I am talking about have been long time members on here and have 3 posts.
I do notice that I get a lot of pms from some of these types of selfish members asking about SPs that I have seen and i am conflicted on whether they even deserve a response.

My guess is that most people don't want to brag about their experiences, especially those sorts of experiences. And they don't want to risk leaving a trail behind that could cause complications in their lives later. I think that would cover it.

I have not looked at the review section in a very long time, but from my recollection most of what is posted there was kind of tacky and comes from relatively few people who appear to like to talk about having sex with SPs as though it was some kind of sport. I don't know if you watch South Park, but the episode where half the town are self appointed food critics writing on Yelp comes to mind, lol.

 

[BS Detector]

Maybe some want to try and distance themselves from posts such as this:

Also a massage parlour in Kuala Lumpur where full service was 200 Malaysian Ringits (about $65 Canadian.)
It's a big world filled with budget-priced gash.

One cannot judge but one also can try and distance them selves from it. "GASH" ??? I mean seriously, is that what we're calling it these days? And before the bashing starts, I am entitled to my opinion. If you don't like it, ignore it.

 

[zed444]

As one of the "long time lurkers" I feel a need to explain my side on my reviewing habits, or lack thereof.

First, and foremost, I don't feel any need to post reviews because my experience is just that; my experience. Each person's tastes are unique, what I might find to be exemplary others would likely find less so. Does that make my experience invalid? Or theirs? Is it an indicator of the "service level", or more a statement of a differing of tastes, expectations, and preferences? Think of it this way, your favorite restaurant serves Indian cuisine; I'm not particularly a fan of Indian cuisine - does that make this restaurant any more or less due to my personal tastes? The answer is obviously no.

Secondly, and linking directly to the point above, is you are talking about another person. That person has feelings, and some of the commentary in these forums could be considered deplorable. Just because you had an experience that didn't meet your preconceived expectations doesn't give you the right to shit all over them behind the anonymity of the internet. I've had some great experiences, and I've had less than stellar ones, sometimes with the same person. Does that mean I think any less of them? Not really, everyone has a bad day now and then. What a person does for a living does not define them as a person, treat people with respect and, shockingly enough, you get it back in spades.

Finally, I wholeheartedly value discretion, both mine and others. I have one particular lady whom I see whenever time and budget allows. And frankly, the conversations and laughs and intellectual stimulation far outweighs anything else. I don't consider her my "ATF" or "go to", I consider her a friend. Is this what everyone here is looking for? Probably not, so I feel no need to write an essay about multiple hours of conversation about music, or art, or the absolute ridiculousness of life. No one here cares about the laughs shared discussing turning the TV on and discovering my dad on a reality show and how it seems I can't seem to escape him, even when he's out of town for a week.

Having said all this, I am a member of these forums for obvious reasons. I like to throw in an occasional comment regarding music, or hockey, or the city of Vancouver. But for reviewing, or seeking advice, I choose to abstain. I'll continue to formulate my own opinions based on my own experiences, and continue the friendships I've developed from this rather unwittingly as a result.

 

[resercher]

It does get a bit anoying the ones who constantley post links to bp adds with the same question" any revews on this sp " . one person forget his name was almost posting repeted reqest somtimes linking to 3 or 4 bp advertisments. a day think he got banned .

However If I ever get upset about what a person has posted on a bbs. I just shut off the computer and go read or do something else . There is no reson to get upseat about anthing anybody writes on any internet bbs becase as I have said before for most bbs's o all you need is internet acess . You truley do not know who is posting and why As i have said before in another thread for all you know the person who your upset with could be some homeless guy living in a card bord box. Using the public library computer and he/she could have some sort of mental helth ishues and be off his antidepresents or whatever.

 

[HunkyBill]

This thread reminds me of a discussion on downloading material thru file sharing sites.

Some folks will always leech and will always have a quick excuse on hand for not contributing. Most of the time the excuses are lame. First and foremost, sites like Perb exist only because people contribute. Without the contributors (adding meaningful non bogus info) the site turns to shit.

Some sites have an upload to download ratio where you can only download if you contribute. In theory, the same can be applied here to weed out all the lurkers a.k.a leeches. Newbies would only have a certain number of views to the site before they have to contribute. If they don't contribute, their access would be limited.

 

[badbadboy]

This thread will be interesting when the guys have been here a few years and they get the same questions thrown at them from zero posters every week. For the record, I don't buy for a nano second that the zero posters are too busy to post a brief review. More than likely they have the time to ask us via PM intimate details about a providers service though.

Does it really take that much to post a fair and concise review? No.

Give a little, get a lot guys.

 

[Equity Market investor]

This thread will be interesting when the guys have been here a few years and they get the same questions thrown at them from zero posters every week. For the record, I don't buy for a nano second that the zero posters are too busy to post a brief review. More than likely they have the time to ask us via PM intimate details about a providers service though.

Does it really take that much to post a fair and concise review? No.

Give a little, get a lot guys.

No it doesn't take long. No one is THAT busy in life. Also, if they have time to read reviews they have time to write a brief review. A basic review that includes the essentials can take 5 minutes tops.

 

[BS Detector]

As one of the "long time lurkers" I feel a need to explain my side on my reviewing habits, or lack thereof.

First, and foremost, I don't feel any need to post reviews because my experience is just that; my experience. Each person's tastes are unique, what I might find to be exemplary others would likely find less so.

You are so right when it comes to the "Penthouse Letters" reviews but if a lady robs a guy, short changes on time, these are not subjective experiences but notable observations (being a clock watcher is subjective). Furthermore, if she shorts one guy, she will short others most likely.

 

[poonmiester]

No it doesn't take long. No one is THAT busy in life. Also, if they have time to read reviews they have time to write a brief review. A basic review that includes the essentials can take 5 minutes tops.

I agree 100%..... if you have time to read ...then you have time to post...... I think the whole thing of lurkers and leeches is simple...... they rather wait for someone else who will spend the money to TOFT...and wait for the review.... so that they don't have to take any risks or waste money.....

In my pooning time ......I have made some good finds....and some not so good.... either way I never held back on sharing.....
It wasn't anyone else's money being used it was mine.....
At least a pooner who goes out and shares his bad session or even good session ...it is ok to exchange information because
he has contributed by his reviews and by spending his money.....
Lurkers ...... only feed of other people's expenses.....
Either they are too cheap....or essentially can't afford to poon.......
Most of the posters of this board understand the principal of this hobby and risks that involve being part of it......
And please don't give me the crap about one's privacy.... just accessing this board is already compromising your privacy....
As someone suggested .... having different levels of access to reviews would be a changer...... those whom post regularly and with a certain number of threads get access to most recent reviews.....others who don't can access the reviews posted a year or so ago.....
You get what you pay for......

 

[wilde]

This thread reminds me of a discussion on downloading material thru file sharing sites.

Some folks will always leech and will always have a quick excuse on hand for not contributing. Most of the time the excuses are lame. First and foremost, sites like Perb exist only because people contribute. Without the contributors (adding meaningful non bogus info) the site turns to shit.

Some sites have an upload to download ratio where you can only download if you contribute. In theory, the same can be applied here to weed out all the lurkers a.k.a leeches. Newbies would only have a certain number of views to the site before they have to contribute. If they don't contribute, their access would be limited.

An excellent analogy. I always upload at least what I downloaded. IMHO, if you have the time to read reviews, you have the time to post a review. You don't have to write a Penthouse style review, just a clear and concise one should suffice. It's a common courtesy which is sorely lacking these days.

 

[MissingOne]

... those whom post regularly and with a certain number of threads get access to most recent reviews...

How do you decide what the magic number is? One guy might only have the opportunity to step out, say, four times a year. If he posts a review for every encounter, he's still only got four reviews.

Another guy might go pooning every weekend, but only writes ten reviews in a year.

Which of these guys is a regular poster and gets access?

 

[poonmiester]

How do you decide what the magic number is? One guy might only have the opportunity to step out, say, four times a year. If he posts a review for every encounter, he's still only got four reviews.

Another guy might go pooning every weekend, but only writes ten reviews in a year.

Which of these guys is a regular poster and gets access?

So if I understand correctly ....the guy that steps out 4 times a year has the right to come on this board get all the info he needs for his own benefit and never has to give back..?
Meanwhile other Saps are out there on a regular base dishing their own money and time and keep this board alive with reviews .......

It's like shopping dynamics of today...it has changed over the past few decades... most products are reviewed online.....
Easy access to all that info...... why? Because somebody out there took the time to write a review.... even if there are hundreds of review for the same item......
No one has to spend hours writing..... only takes 5 minutes... so simple..... and yet seems so complicated for some.....
Over the years I have saved lots of money by reading these posts...... and in return have had some pooners save some as well by posting my reviews......
It's all about giving and taking...... there has to be a balance. ..... otherwise it's the same as business partnerships or relationships.... if all goes only 1 way....sooner or later someone hits the wall.....

 

[MissingOne]

So if I understand correctly ....the guy that steps out 4 times a year has the right to come on this board get all the info he needs for his own benefit and never has to give back..

I suggested nothing of the sort.

 

[Sporting]

My guess is that most people don't want to brag about their experiences, ......, but from my recollection most of what is posted there was kind of tacky and comes from relatively few people who appear to like to talk about having sex with SPs as though it was some kind of sport. QUOTE]..

If this isn't a sport, I don't know what is , or what it is LOL. You're paranoid, thank goodness many are not afraid to bray about their experiences. It's the only way we can get a sense of what is available. I have found my best sp experiences because these sp's were pointed out to me by an op who unselfishly shared with the board. I don't always speak up for fear that the sp will be overwhelmed. I respect those who speak up after first visits. There's plenty of great women to go around it's seems. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zt51rITH3EA

 

[cktc9]

Not sure if I'm one of your guilty ones, as I certainly don't post much...

On behalf of some of us quieter ones, here's a few observations:
- some of you write very well, can convey a lot of "between the sheets/lines" info and make for an entertaining read. That can be intimidating to the newbie, who lacks the writing skills and bravado.
- Many of us simply don't have the amazing and abundant variety of experience, and simply are not that "busy".
- These "non-contributer" threads actually work against what you want: It just pushes quiet people further into lurker mode.
- I expect many of us cannot maintain the lifestyle that some here flaunt, and prefer to live vicariously through your stories.
- This is an expensive, and socially very risky hobby for many of us. Look at what happened to Ashley Madison clients. For some, lurking is the only option.
- I've always kept my private life private. It's is uncomfortable for many of us to open up, though I certainly appreciate those who can.

Me personally?
Well, the posts on this board gave me the information needed to select what I was looking for (Thank you very much!): a regular SP. And she happens to be DNR. So there isn't much I can contribute here then, is there...
I did want to do contribute in some way though, so I wrote a review and sent it to the SP, for her to use if she felt it was of any use.

So please, be patient with some of us less vocal readers...

 

[hornygandalf]

I'm not concerned with lurkers that apparently gain free and valuable information without contributing in turn.
The reviews are YMMV anyway, and there are an abundance of reasons why people may not contribute. I'm not going to judge them, and as the advertisers are paying for the board, I see no reason to exclude them. I didn't review or contribute much early on. Some might take years before they feel confident enough to contribute.
I don't personally see it is a problem.

 

[billiards11]

I'm okay if people on here don't post reviews. Reviews are obviously very helpful but not everyone feels comfortable writing them. I noticed some people on here can be very critical of others when they write their reviews and they might put that person down. People have feelings and they might not want to put themselves in that situation.

 

[badbadboy]

I'm okay if people on here don't post reviews. Reviews are obviously very helpful but not everyone feels comfortable writing them. I noticed some people on here can be very critical of others when they write their reviews and they might put that person down. People have feelings and they might not want to put themselves in that situation.

You know, you are 100% correct.

It is something I think we all can change and encourage reviewers to review.

Sure if its an obvious self review or a shill review or whatever; the mods will deal with it.

Personally, I am trying to be positive and encourage new reviewers to say how their time was with an SP. Some people are too quick to play the "S" card IMHO.

 

[summerbreeze]

not that I profess to know anything but something to think about

this is a community, communities come together for mutual benefit

some contribute more, some less, some not at all...... that is the nature of a community

its the ones who proactively ask for more and don't give that are the abusers

if you don't contribute fine, by all means use the search engine, read, search, find what interests you.... no problem

but don't ask people to do your homework for you by asking for insight on a sp and don't contribute

many of the contributors do their own searching and reviewing, they don't inquire if anyone has input on a sp, and these are the main contributors

just like welfare or UI (unemployment insurance) there are those who contribute and never receive, those who contribute and have had the misfortune to have to use social assistance, and those who live off the system and have never contributed

not quite what the system was intended for but by and large it is a community based system and self policed

suggest we don't encourage the misuse, and in an non-provocative way encourage the non-contributors to make some effort to contribute

 

[voodooking]

I am not bitter rather just sick of getting pms from non sharing members asking for intimate details on an sp.
They post and share nothing and expect everything.

You are the kind of individual that I am talking about.
Member since 2013 with 38 posts of nothing.

Yet SPs stick up for guys like you in this thread. ound:

You seem very bitter ound: