A few months ago a friend's wife died of cancer. I sent the appropriate sympathy card wnd added personal condolences. No it's Christmas and those cards are being sent out. How do you wish someone a merry Christmas in a card since this is the first without her and it happened just five months ago?
What Do You Say?
- Thread starter Cock Throppled
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IMO something along the lines of....
Dear Bob,
I know its only been four months since Mary passed and I'm sure this first Christmas without her will be heartbreaking for you and the rest of your family. Take comfort in remembering the happy holidays with her and knowing your surrounded by friends who care for you all very much.
I'll be giving you a call* over the next few weeks to get together and celebrate the memory of past Christmases and of future happy times!
your friend,
Cock Throppled
*make the first move and call your friend....in times like this its the small but heartfelt gestures that mean the most
Dear Bob,
I know its only been four months since Mary passed and I'm sure this first Christmas without her will be heartbreaking for you and the rest of your family. Take comfort in remembering the happy holidays with her and knowing your surrounded by friends who care for you all very much.
I'll be giving you a call* over the next few weeks to get together and celebrate the memory of past Christmases and of future happy times!
your friend,
Cock Throppled
*make the first move and call your friend....in times like this its the small but heartfelt gestures that mean the most
That is.....
Gravitas, that is best post I have read on this board ever - period. Having had my family touched by cancer, your advice could not be better.
Gravitas, that is best post I have read on this board ever - period. Having had my family touched by cancer, your advice could not be better.
Ilovethemall said:
Don't tell any one,,but the misserable bastard actually has a heart,,just between you and me eh
edit,,fuck,,was supposed to be a pm
Just when I thought there was one thing I could count on being a constant in this world, Grav being a grouchy fuck
he turns into the nice Grinch WITH a heart!
seriously tho, nicely said Gravitas
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he turns into the nice Grinch WITH a heart!
seriously tho, nicely said Gravitas
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Oh no!! Somebody has hijacked his account! Who are you and what have you done with Gravitas?!?!gravitas said:
Actually, on second thought...welcome, stay a while...
Thanks for the kind words but before you all run over to give me a hug, piss off
Yes I'm a grumpy fucker who has near zero tolerance for bullshit or other nonsense but like many of you I've been impacted by that frighteningly awful disease (oh, and babybelle...if you wonder why I ride your fat lying miserable ass here's some insight ) and know how it can wreak havoc on both the patient and their families. My only other advice to CT is to simply be there for your friend. If they want to laugh, cry, rage or what ever simply be a caring and reliable presence
Yes I'm a grumpy fucker who has near zero tolerance for bullshit or other nonsense but like many of you I've been impacted by that frighteningly awful disease (oh, and babybelle...if you wonder why I ride your fat lying miserable ass here's some insight
) and know how it can wreak havoc on both the patient and their families. My only other advice to CT is to simply be there for your friend. If they want to laugh, cry, rage or what ever simply be a caring and reliable presence Well done Grav'gravitas said:
The part quoted above particularly hit home with me. I'm learning to let go of the horrible part, when my friend was sick and focus on the good times and happy thoughts of when she was well.
*smooch* to you
By all means do make the first move and call the guy. Once you break the ice you will not believe how happy they are to hear from you. The biggest help you can give him is to help him get on with his life and not dwell on his loss.
I used to wonder how to approach someone whom I knew after a sickness related death. I didn't deal with it very well and several times inadvertently wound up avoiding them. Sadly what caused me to change was losing a very close family member of my own. I was surrounded by friends throughout and for some time after with calls, visits, cards, etc. It helped more than I ever thought it could. Needless to say I have adopted this same approach and have had the unfortunate opportunity to offer comfort a few times to friends as they were losing and after they had lost a loved one but it felt good to be with them...very good indeed.
Also, for anyone who still haven't figured out Gravitas yet I'll share with you what I've learned about people over the years which has served me well in deciding who is and isn't a prick. As I see it there are two types of people: assholes that want you to believe they're not and genuinely good, staight shooters that want you to believe that they're assholes to avoid all the sappy do-gooder shit that goes with it. My guess is he's the latter.
Also, for anyone who still haven't figured out Gravitas yet I'll share with you what I've learned about people over the years which has served me well in deciding who is and isn't a prick. As I see it there are two types of people: assholes that want you to believe they're not and genuinely good, staight shooters that want you to believe that they're assholes to avoid all the sappy do-gooder shit that goes with it. My guess is he's the latter.
