train wreck love

[maroonedsailor]

anyone here got a train wreck love story to tell? You know - the one where you poured your heart and soul into it and were rewarded (immediately or much later) by having your balls/vagina handed to you on a plate? Your guts ripped out and wrapped along a barb wire fence? Your heart torn from your chest and sacrificed to some ancient god while your soul was left to wander eternally in purgatory?

I know I'm not the only one LOL (Oh God - what if I am?)

 

[jnewton]

anyone here got a train wreck love story to tell? You know - the one where you poured your heart and soul into it and were rewarded (immediately or much later) by having your balls/vagina handed to you on a plate? Your guts ripped out and wrapped along a barb wire fence? Your heart torn from your chest and sacrificed to some ancient god while your soul was left to wander eternally in purgatory?

I know I'm not the only one LOL (Oh God - what if I am?)

I suspect on a board like this there are probably more than a few of those stories lurking around.

 

[87112]

Some of us have probably said f it to trying again and just use hookers.

 

[maroonedsailor]

Some of us have probably said f it to trying again and just use hookers.

Damn Honda - I KNOW that - but what about the stories? I'm betting most of the stories we have to tell have some pretty common threads running through them - I've always been fine with being the one who just stopped wanting sex with the SO but twice in my life it was she who said no to me first and man what an ego stomping, heart wrenching experience they were - I just could not believe a woman didn't want ME - you know because I'm some kind of god or something.......OK it's funny but not really?

 

[maroonedsailor]

Bump

hey - it's been a while and I'm now writing this stuff on a blog called trainwrecklove so maybe I can talk y'all into telling me more stories? Names will be changed to protect the guilty.
Grins
T.

 

[juniper]

Stories take a long time to tell. I've been both abandonned and been the one to abandon. Being abandonned is the most painful event which can occur to a human being. That's why such love stories are so dramatic. Human beings are a frightfully fragile lot. I have lost my mind more than once over being abandonned by a woman. It's good, in many ways, to be older and not have to risk rejection and abandonment again.

 

[papillion]

Try this:
http://relationshipobit.com/obituary
My story is in the archives, fall of 2006

 

[papillion]

I think "Train Wreck" love happens to those who don't go through life with their eyes and ears wide open. I spent years in the entertainment industry and there are always the talentless, lazy parasites who want to live off of you. A few years of that and you go through life with your eyes and ears wide open, you deliberately listen to the whispered conversation in the corner, you become a human lie detector and you always "trust but verify".

The reality is that people that want to use you broadcast their intentions before their activities begin. You just ignore the signs because you "love" them.

It's like the story of Doug and the married/pimped hooker. Only a fool like Doug would be so deluded as to believe that she "loved" him.

I can tell you exactly the moment that I realized that my ex-wife was no longer in love with me. She wanted a lifestyle that was "exciting" because she enjoyed "hanging" with the clients my law practice was defending. When I "betrayed" her by going to the other side, she could no longer love me.

I'm sure that it's a common refrain. One person has one set of values, the other person has a different set of values - sometimes it doesn't matter that the couple's values are different, sometimes it does matter.

Personally, I think that proving your "love" to a person by being something that you are not is always going to result in unhappiness. You can only maintain the facade, resist expressing the resentment for so long.

My last relationship was doomed from the start, but I went along because I knew the ride was gonna be a great one. It was. I knew how it was going to end, she would dump me, and she did. The shocker was the speed and cruelty of the knife in the heart.
Oh well, live and learn

 

[maroonedsailor]

My last relationship was doomed from the start, but I went along because I knew the ride was gonna be a great one. It was. I knew how it was going to end, she would dump me, and she did. The shocker was the speed and cruelty of the knife in the heart.
Oh well, live and learn

Sometimes a knife to the heart is kinder than a slow, lingering torment that tears your soul apart. Of course you don't really have to stay for the pain but .....lol

 

[Big Dog Striker]

Lots of fish in the ocean.

 

[Aerts]

Yep, dated a smoking hot girl I met in a 12 step group once. Surprise, I got burned and went insane for a few months, but when I look back on it, she did me a favor. I'd say my problem now is I'm too guarded. Been in several relationships where I knew it wouldn't last early on. I guess I'm too smart to fall in love now? Hopefully one day. My problem is I'm too dull and responsible to get or choose to get a crazy, wild girl. The ones I date I feel little attraction to as people and often just stay for the sex. I imagine if I ever settle down and get married that's when I'll truly get the knife in the back and have a real story to tell.