Today I had a session with my regular (ANYA). She was part-timer that only needed to supplement her income. In fact I have been her ONLY client for the past 2 or3 years. Today she told me she is starting a relationship with a boyfriend and this would be our last time together. Bloody Fucking Hell!!! I know I will never have another relationship with an SP like I did with her. It went WAY beyond SP/client relationship. She is such a sweetheart. Those who remember her (and I know there are several of you) will know how totally different she was. (Just needed to cry on somebodies shoulder.) I guess I will have to retire from pooning now. She was the best I ever had.
Totally bummed out
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Sorry to hear that OP, I too have had a favourite retire on me & it does leave a hole!
(excuse the pun!)
Few & far between are the truly exceptional ones.
The ones who have an awesome attitude & lack of baggage.
The ones who truly enjoy sex & the company of men.
Ask around there may still be someone who can command yer soldier out there?
(excuse the pun!)
Few & far between are the truly exceptional ones.
The ones who have an awesome attitude & lack of baggage.
The ones who truly enjoy sex & the company of men.
Ask around there may still be someone who can command yer soldier out there?
She told me I was her ONLY client.
Actually OP I went through something similar. I was seeing a lady (not exclusively but one out of every 3 appts) and about a year ago she left the business. Recently I had an opportunity to reaquaint with her and it was amazing.
Keep the faith my friend...chances are the relationship will fail...most do.
JFF is right, keep her warm on the back burner. Boyfriends usually have a problem going out with providers, but WE DON'T... heheheShe told me I was her ONLY client.
Actually OP I went through something similar. I was seeing a lady (not exclusively but one out of every 3 appts) and about a year ago she left the business. Recently I had an opportunity to reaquaint with her and it was amazing.
Keep the faith my friend...chances are the relationship will fail...most do.
I think her relationship will endure, as she was only a part-timer anyhow. I will still be taking care of her cats when she and her beau go camping, so will still be in contact with her.
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Dude...you got it bad. I wish you well OP. Don't try to replace her...find something completely different...at least for a while.
I could never replace her. I have NEVER had an SP give me that level of intimacy. EVen after I had my orgasm, if there was any time left she would bury her head into my shoulder and snuggle and cuddle and kiss me continuously.
Nice...I'll rub one out tonight as a "pooner tribute" of sorts. Shall we say around 9:00?
Oh? And how many SP's have given you Xmas and birthday gifts? I'm old enough to know a friendship when I see one.She told me that too.
Let it go dude. She was doing her Job and you got misled in the emotions. Like Muffineater said, you get the cat while her beau gets the pussy... hehebut that's so true...think about it.
You're probably rationalizing that by taking care of her cats, you'll leave your options open with her in the future or maybe you just want to do something nice to a woman you adore in order to maintain good relations. In either case, you'll end up becoming nothing more than a tool. Don't kid yourself.
Although it IS easier said than done, you have to learn to let it go and move on bud otherwise you're wasting your life.
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Not at all. If I was looking for a relationship, it would be with someone a lot closer to my age.
I AM delighted for her and told her just that. I don't want to date women my age because I don't want to get involved in a serious relationship (I lost my wife to cancer 6 years ago and NEVER want to experience that level of pain ever again.) Anya gave me just what I wanted and needed, occasional intimacy with no strings attached and no serious involvement.
I'm sorry to hear about your heartache and loneliness. I'm also sorry that you end up having to defend yourself against peoples judgments, when all you were looking for is a little bit of empathy and to vent. I know exactly how you feel. Men by nature like to solve things. For the most part, they are not good listeners, because they are too busy solving and trying to help. You need a woman for that. (I am generalizing, please don't jump on me)
I think good gfe providers cuddle and nestle after the act. My suggestion is to experiment, see one new provider a month until you find someone you like, or just have fun looking. There is no need to retire from pooning. Just read a girls ad and/or website carefully to see if she is right for you. She may not be replaceable because you had something special with her, but there is still lots of fun to be had. I think its really important to embark on a new journey of pooning. Otherwise the world will just get lonelier. A good provider provides a lot more than just sex
I think good gfe providers cuddle and nestle after the act. My suggestion is to experiment, see one new provider a month until you find someone you like, or just have fun looking
. There is no need to retire from pooning. Just read a girls ad and/or website carefully to see if she is right for you. She may not be replaceable because you had something special with her, but there is still lots of fun to be had. I think its really important to embark on a new journey of pooning. Otherwise the world will just get lonelier. A good provider provides a lot more than just sex
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Just to set the record straight. I offered to look after her cats because I like her and I LOVE her cats. I love all cats and am not allowed to have pets in my building. She is NOT taking advantage of me. It is mutually beneficial. I can't believe how people just LOVE to jump to conclusions, irregardless of how little they know of the siuation. I only mentioned the cat sitting thing to show the level of trust we had reached (how many of you have SP's that give you their house keys for 2 weeks at a time). I only posted this thread because I needed to vent my disappointment.
Can we just drop this now?
Can we just drop this now?
Thanx for sharing OP. Don't take to much of the criticism to heart it will only ruin the review board experience for you. Take some time for you and then decide where or what you are going to do.......
I've had the same thing happen to me and for what it's worth here are my thoughts.
Firstly, if it were me, (and once upon a time it was) and I was the only one seeing this young lady I would have kept that to myself, as somehow I'm sure she wouldn't want all of perb knowing about this.
Secondly, I know the pain, it's sort of like being kicked in the gut..it can actually physically hurt. That said, you do have to respect her wishes, and if you
want to stay in touch with her, I think that's great. I was out of touch with the lady I was involved with for almost a year, but we've been bantering back and forth with e-mails for awhile now and we're going out for lunch next week. As hard as it is, the break allows you to put the whole thing in a different, more detached perspective, and allows both of you to re-evaluate things.
If you've had the kind of relationship you've described, then there's a damn good chance that she values the relationship almost as much as you do, even if she don't value the sexual aspect of it, she must value the fact she can depend on you. That in itself has tremendous value. The hard part is that more to push for the status quo, the more she's likely to distance herself from you. At one put in my situation, I just gave up and stopped contacting her, and about 3-4 months later she contacted me. One thing to consider, if you really care about this woman, is that it's a marathon, not a sprint, as I've been involved with the above described individual for a little over 4 years, which is well beyond a fling.
As to the boyfriend issue, best just to let it play out the way it's going to. In the second year of our relationship she was actually engaged, while seeing me and even wanted me to try and get her boyfriend a job. Hell, she send me his resume. Her relationship with him only lasted a few months, but had it continued, I'm sure she would have put a stop to our get togethers.
Firstly, if it were me, (and once upon a time it was) and I was the only one seeing this young lady I would have kept that to myself, as somehow I'm sure she wouldn't want all of perb knowing about this.
Secondly, I know the pain, it's sort of like being kicked in the gut..it can actually physically hurt. That said, you do have to respect her wishes, and if you
want to stay in touch with her, I think that's great. I was out of touch with the lady I was involved with for almost a year, but we've been bantering back and forth with e-mails for awhile now and we're going out for lunch next week. As hard as it is, the break allows you to put the whole thing in a different, more detached perspective, and allows both of you to re-evaluate things.
If you've had the kind of relationship you've described, then there's a damn good chance that she values the relationship almost as much as you do, even if she don't value the sexual aspect of it, she must value the fact she can depend on you. That in itself has tremendous value. The hard part is that more to push for the status quo, the more she's likely to distance herself from you. At one put in my situation, I just gave up and stopped contacting her, and about 3-4 months later she contacted me. One thing to consider, if you really care about this woman, is that it's a marathon, not a sprint, as I've been involved with the above described individual for a little over 4 years, which is well beyond a fling.
As to the boyfriend issue, best just to let it play out the way it's going to. In the second year of our relationship she was actually engaged, while seeing me and even wanted me to try and get her boyfriend a job. Hell, she send me his resume. Her relationship with him only lasted a few months, but had it continued, I'm sure she would have put a stop to our get togethers.
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I love to snuggle & smooch after after I sponge you off with a warm cloth! Another reason I like to lie there and snuggle is I'm 50 y/o and even though I can keep up with the best of them...I like to take advantage of some horizontal time when I can get it! When there's someone beside me....that's a bonus!!!!
Don't really understand why there's any hating in this thread.
I think it's great that OP found someone that he enjoyed so much. Obviously she enjoyed his company as well b/c he was her only client for the past couple of years.
We can't always assume that we know why everyone is involved in this hobby. Some people want friendship, caring, and more of a "relationship" than others. Most of us are looking to fill a void but that void can be friendship, it can be more intimacy, it can be just passionate sex, it could be a great massage and wonderful bj. I think that last one is my void.
OP...when you're ready start your search...not to replace but to continue. You will find someone that gives you a much similar feeling...it may take time but you will find it.
I think it's great that OP found someone that he enjoyed so much. Obviously she enjoyed his company as well b/c he was her only client for the past couple of years.
We can't always assume that we know why everyone is involved in this hobby. Some people want friendship, caring, and more of a "relationship" than others. Most of us are looking to fill a void but that void can be friendship, it can be more intimacy, it can be just passionate sex, it could be a great massage and wonderful bj. I think that last one is my void.
OP...when you're ready start your search...not to replace but to continue. You will find someone that gives you a much similar feeling...it may take time but you will find it.
Thank you, JFF. I will get over it. This is only one of life's little disappointments (and we have all experienced many of those).
