1. Follow and engage with threads/content on Perb.cc.
Consistent engagement on that website (which is different than reviewing) is incredibly powerful.
2. Review relatively often and respectfully.
Saying why an SP is notable (professionalism, presence, communication, enthusiasm) carries more weight than one single three-liner review from two years ago.
3. Be an ideal example client.
Polite inquiries, clear communication, punctuality, boundaries respected. Other clients notice patterns - as do providers.
4. Tip appropriately & without additional expectation.
Not flexing - just signaling respect for a job WELL done.
5. Rebook consistently, when able.
Repeat clients signal reliability and safety. And "callbacks" may change an SP's ranking if displayed alongside others, particularly at agencies. Consistency > volume.
6. Uphold screening norms publicly.
Not complaining about screening, deposits, or boundaries reinforces industry standards and protects workers collectively.
7. Correct misinformation when you see it.
If someone spreads inaccurate or disrespectful narratives, calm factual correction helps more than silence.
8. Recognize internal shame for using this industry.
There are many engrained beliefs about needing companionship/connection, especially for men. When you shame yourself, it often translates in-session to shaming the SP (mainly unconsciously). You're helping support an SP's quality of life. It would be far worse to expect the time, emotional intensity, physical intimacy and lack of commitment for nothing in order to feel validated by the dynamic being "real" and not "paid for".
9. Don't negotiate pricing or methods of contact.
Bartering about pricing and/or access is dehumanizing. You wouldn't do that with an RMT or a dentist. Asking for an SP to accept less feels icky - Like Facebook Marketplace.
10. Treat SP's like a human, not a secret.
Sometimes we do exist in the same common spaces. There's no need to duck your head or noticeably avoid eye contact if it happens. SP's often live double lives and don't care to be outed/out you.
Consistent engagement on that website (which is different than reviewing) is incredibly powerful.
2. Review relatively often and respectfully.
Saying why an SP is notable (professionalism, presence, communication, enthusiasm) carries more weight than one single three-liner review from two years ago.
3. Be an ideal example client.
Polite inquiries, clear communication, punctuality, boundaries respected. Other clients notice patterns - as do providers.
4. Tip appropriately & without additional expectation.
Not flexing - just signaling respect for a job WELL done.
5. Rebook consistently, when able.
Repeat clients signal reliability and safety. And "callbacks" may change an SP's ranking if displayed alongside others, particularly at agencies. Consistency > volume.
6. Uphold screening norms publicly.
Not complaining about screening, deposits, or boundaries reinforces industry standards and protects workers collectively.
7. Correct misinformation when you see it.
If someone spreads inaccurate or disrespectful narratives, calm factual correction helps more than silence.
8. Recognize internal shame for using this industry.
There are many engrained beliefs about needing companionship/connection, especially for men. When you shame yourself, it often translates in-session to shaming the SP (mainly unconsciously). You're helping support an SP's quality of life. It would be far worse to expect the time, emotional intensity, physical intimacy and lack of commitment for nothing in order to feel validated by the dynamic being "real" and not "paid for".
9. Don't negotiate pricing or methods of contact.
Bartering about pricing and/or access is dehumanizing. You wouldn't do that with an RMT or a dentist. Asking for an SP to accept less feels icky - Like Facebook Marketplace.
10. Treat SP's like a human, not a secret.
Sometimes we do exist in the same common spaces. There's no need to duck your head or noticeably avoid eye contact if it happens. SP's often live double lives and don't care to be outed/out you.
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