being someone who has obtained a certain capability in this area I thought I would add to the thread and of course everyone is different in terms of technique or response
First tip is a bit obvious however I find it quite surprising how many people miss this (about getting good at most things as well) Practice, Practice, Practice......
Second thing is approach this activity like an art form which needs mastering, technique or the mechanics of where and how, location, motion, pressure. Then when, different areas at different times with the goal of complete arousal. Pretty much the goal is to arouse, stimulate or wake up all the senses, prolong the state of arousal to point of out of control desire, and then to satisfy, prolong the peak if possible and stimulate multiple response until complete exhaustion and satisfaction. The more tension (teasing, building anticipation etc.) the more powerful the orgasm, however it is important to know that when your lover is ready it is time to shift gears from teasing to satisfying her, you don't want to collapse the tension with frustration.
So a major component is to get in sync with the feelings, mood, response of your lover. It will differ each time depending on state of mind and mood of the moment/day.
I find normally a long hot oil back massage to start completely helps relax the person and provides for a far more powerful orgasm or orgasms. It also builds trust between you and your recipient especially if it is the first time. I find the more relaxed my lover, the more uninhibited she can be. Almost like unlocking her sensuality to the fullest which is not something we are able to do on our own. Relaxation requires complete trust and an hour of ushered body massage goes a long way to allowing someone to fully allow their body to respond to your stimulation.
There are many areas of the body which wake up and build libido. Slowly stimulating these areas will build this desire and arousal. The slower you move through different stages of arousal building generally the better including actual oral stimulation when the time comes.
Of course you have to sense the mood of your lover because sometimes she will be in the mood for a long drawn out session, other times she will be interested in perhaps a more urgent and forceful stimulation. As mentioned already the main key is to have the sensitivity to tune into your lover's responses and timing.
Quite an art form in that there are endless creative stimulation which can be used, keeping things adventurous rather than routine and boring.
Not something which one would achieve in a short time frame but thought I would put this forward as an approach to take in terms of learning this valuable skill set.
Learning good massage techniques as well are highly recommended.
Payback for achieving mastery of this art form should be obvious however everyone is different. For me there is nothing so exciting as a lover completely immersed in her own sensuality to the point where she has completely lost all control and is at the mercy of her body's animal and primal responses from a skilled lover.
Quite a rare thing, trust me you will be well rewarded if you take the time to develop this level of lovemaking.
