I’m genuinely not understanding the findom allure. I say if you can do it, sure go for it! But no way in hell does that do anything for me! I couldn’t even imagine being on the receiving end of that money. I feel like if someone were messing up their future giving money to me that would be some seriously bad karma, regardless of awareness/desire..
I'm not afraid at all, and it has absolutely no weight on my conscience. I've played the silly games of getting anxious or worried for these particular subs - there's no guarantee that they are NOT lying about their bank balances and their lives. It could easily be digitally faked.
There's ample online debate about "ethical findom". For the amount of guidance and joy I bring to the lives of my usual clients, I have no fears of karma not balancing out.
If anything, finsubs had pushed me to take more and more from them because it gives THOSE particular people a greater high. They have paid for custom videos of me snapping my fingers for X amount of dollars at each snap; the people I had played with relished in feeling the bank balance twang of loss and the thrill of not knowing where I would stop. Think about it this way -
what stops them from choosing not to send the amount that has been decided on? It's as easy as watching the requested video, and pretending as if it never happened past the fantasy of it. But no... they want it to be real, and so they make it real. There's nothing to shame them nor I on when it is agreed upon and ultimately up to the finsub. There are legally risky plays where I would be in a lot more control as a domme, but I have not engaged in that.
There's a fulfillment in meeting the right match in any sort of power dynamic. I do hope that people drop out of any play or dynamic that does not give them the result/feeling that they are seeking. Don't worry! I don't play if it's not the right match 😇 There's lots of things I like in both the vanilla and kink world~
