Sugar Babies vs Service Providers -- What's the Difference?

[EnchantingAria]

Hello Lovely Ladies & Gents,

As an aspiring musician seeking a generous gent to help me make it to the top, I thought the best way to find my Mr. Right was to cast a wide net through both the Sugar Baby & Service Provider communities.

Well... I'm sure you know what I'm going to say next! Every potential Sugar Daddy I've been in contact with does a complete blanket rejection when they discover that I am also marketing myself as an SP.

Perhaps I am completely naive but what's the difference between a Sugar Baby and a Service Provider, beyond the hourly rate vs monthly support? These knee-jerk, judgmental reactions I've received are quite harsh -- especially when I consider they are coming from men who advertise themselves as willing to support a lady in exchange for a relationship.

I would really appreciate some feedback on this situation. What is going on in these men's heads? What is the huge difference I can't seem to understand? And mostly, how does a gal like me find what she's looking for?

 

[Ray]

I also think that most 'sugar daddies' look for 'exclusive rights'.

 

[EnchantingAria]

Thanks Nina & Al for your feedback... very informative!

 

[HeMadeMeDoIt]

You don't sound like you're looking for a SD! You're looking for a sucker to pay more than the others are wiling to pay for a couple of sessions a month.

I've never heard of a SB that freelances on the side, advertises on escort review boards and markets herself as an SP. One of the big things about an SB is exclusivity and discretion so that if or when he goes out in public with you others are unlikely to point you out as the SP they had a session with earlier that week.

What's in it for him? Ask yourself that question and you'll know why potential "clients/SDs" run at the mention of your side/main activities.

 

[hunsperger]

Hello Lovely Ladies & Gents,

As an aspiring musician seeking a generous gent to help me make it to the top, I thought the best way to find my Mr. Right was to cast a wide net through both the Sugar Baby & Service Provider communities.

Well... I'm sure you know what I'm going to say next! Every potential Sugar Daddy I've been in contact with does a complete blanket rejection when they discover that I am also marketing myself as an SP.

Perhaps I am completely naive but what's the difference between a Sugar Baby and a Service Provider, beyond the hourly rate vs monthly support? These knee-jerk, judgmental reactions I've received are quite harsh -- especially when I consider they are coming from men who advertise themselves as willing to support a lady in exchange for a relationship.

I would really appreciate some feedback on this situation. What is going on in these men's heads? What is the huge difference I can't seem to understand? And mostly, how does a gal like me find what she's looking for?

yes, you're naive...

you are also dumb like a fox...

somewhat cloying and smarmy as well...

 

[hunsperger]

You don't sound like you're looking for a SD! You're looking for a sucker to pay more than the others are wiling to pay for a couple of sessions a month.

I've never heard of a SB that freelances on the side, advertises on escort review boards and markets herself as an SP. One of the big things about an SB is exclusivity and discretion so that if or when he goes out in public with you others are unlikely to point you out as the SP they had a session with earlier that week.

What's in it for him? Ask yourself that question and you'll know why potential "clients/SDs" run at the mention of your side/main activities.

exactly...

did I say dumb like a fox...

Aria, let us know if you find the sucker you so covet...

 

[edmontonsubbie]

i like this thread...and, had it not been for the dreaded hunsperger responding...i likely would not have bothered reading it.

I have commissioned a song from a "starving artist"....she accepted my premise (the song is to be about me)....and she accepted my monetary offer. I hold the rights, the song is mine and mine alone....all of that is contractually covered. A contract is worth exactly the value of the paper upon which it is written....but, it was a fun negotiation regardless.

I say this only because...your target audience is wrong. Offer something....see where it leads. Don't expect something beforehand. I have long ago learned....I never fail to disappoint....that is my shtick...I like my sthtick.

kindest and good luck!...the world needs artistry.

eddie.

 

[Big Dog Striker]

I think gentlemen who are seeking a sugar baby want exclusivity. If you are advertising as an escort, even if you are willing to stop escorting once you enter into a sugar baby arrangement, they will be nervous about your fidelity.

Rather than looking for one sugar daddy, I would focus on providing exceptional service to a small circle of regular friends.

As a full-time student, I think I understand your need to balance clients and other pursuits. I have found that I often see the same 5-10 gentlemen regularly, which is wonderful. During times when I am too busy with school to spend time advertising, I am able to rely on my regular friends for continuing financial support. This kind of loyalty is earned by providing a high quality experience. It isn't something that just comes to you, it's something that you earn by showing respect, care, attention, and professionalism.

I am certain that you will find a wonderful circle of friends by continuing to provide the kind of sensual, attentive experience that was described in your recent positive review.

Best of luck in following your dreams!

Smart gal. Never put your eggs in one basket.

 

[EnchantingAria]

I want to thank you ALL for your thoughtful responses to my thread. I will definitely re-think my strategy now that I know the "lay" of the land, so to speak! LOL I appreciate you folks for taking the time to set me straight.

 

[EnchantingAria]

So, I've decided to become an SP and forget about the SB possibilities out there; I've deleted my SB accounts and suspended communications with all the interested prospects. Because of the insightful information you folks provided, I realized that I'm much more geared towards becoming a fabulous elite escort than a simple sugar baby. Thanks again for the feedback! I look forward to getting to know you fellow community members while I begin to 'learn the ropes' of this biz.

 

[EnchantingAria]

Thanks Exotic Non-Pro. I'm just so glad that there are a variety of relationship styles out there so that we can all get our particular needs/wants met. I am glad the sugar baby relationship works well for you & I also wish you the best of luck in your endeavours!