SP Screening
- Thread starter UhOh
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You don't have references? Just give her the name of a provider you've seen in the last 6 months and you should be good to go. Link?
I totally get the pre screening of clients and thankfully have had some excellent references when seeing a touring lady or a new Vancouver SP. I say makes good sense to foster good working relationships with your own circle of friends and when the time comes for a reference, it's just a matter of a quick email or text.
I wouldn't support providing LinkedIn or any other professional association.
Never tried it myself but setting up a P411 account seems to be a viable option if you are traveling to other cities and want to play while on the road.
I wouldn't support providing LinkedIn or any other professional association.
Never tried it myself but setting up a P411 account seems to be a viable option if you are traveling to other cities and want to play while on the road.
I've provided employment info for screening, all the SPs usually did was call my office to leave a message with me or said they were confirming a dr appt something inconspicuous and never had any problems. It can make a guy nervous but the girls definitely have more to lose on the line so I respect their methods.
If I'm not comfortable with forking over personal info then there are a lot of other fish in the sea, so no big deal- I'll look elsewhere.
Having said that, providing such info to someone where there is ZERO accountability makes absolutely no sense. Real name and linkedin link- not bloody likely. Great retirement plan for psychos, though. Sure, there are a lot of other ways to get screwed over in this game, but putting it out in the middle of the table is just begging for it.
This "hobby" to me is my own personal business- not shared with anyone including trusted life-long friends. I'm sure that many other members are in the same boat.
To those single, carefree and otherwise unencumbered gents that choose to step up with personal info- have at her and enjoy.
But not this kid.
Having said that, providing such info to someone where there is ZERO accountability makes absolutely no sense. Real name and linkedin link- not bloody likely. Great retirement plan for psychos, though. Sure, there are a lot of other ways to get screwed over in this game, but putting it out in the middle of the table is just begging for it.
This "hobby" to me is my own personal business- not shared with anyone including trusted life-long friends. I'm sure that many other members are in the same boat.
To those single, carefree and otherwise unencumbered gents that choose to step up with personal info- have at her and enjoy.
But not this kid.
I don't blame a girl for taking every precaution possible. But this is an activity where its in the best interest of players on both sides to be as untraceable as possible.
If you're flipping fries at Burger King then who cares, what do you have to lose but a job you hate going to anyhow. However if you've spent years building a career you'd be an idiot to reveal your participation in an activity that's illegal in parts of this country and throughout the US.
You know there's no way that same SP is going to give her real name.
It's just a comment on the risks of exposing too much information. Girls do what you have to do to stay safe but guys don't put at risk something you can't afford to lose.
If you're flipping fries at Burger King then who cares, what do you have to lose but a job you hate going to anyhow. However if you've spent years building a career you'd be an idiot to reveal your participation in an activity that's illegal in parts of this country and throughout the US.
You know there's no way that same SP is going to give her real name.
It's just a comment on the risks of exposing too much information. Girls do what you have to do to stay safe but guys don't put at risk something you can't afford to lose.
I provided work info to P411 years back and didn't have any concerns. They were very discrete in their communications, never a hint on what was the purpose of the call (I had my own phone in my own office, so that gave another layer of security to me). Its VERY common in the US as Tessa said - I remember trying to see someone in LA and it was pretty hard to find someone "newbie friendly" (who wasn't on BP, CL or the like back then). Once you "pay your dues" with a few ladies, then it becomes a little easier. Other ladies will accept TER reviews (TER is bigger in the US than here, I see).
Thanks to C-36, our hobby is a criminal activity for us...but not the ladies. Sorry, but I won't be providing anything that could be linked to my real name without serious digging.
I realize that the ladies need to protect themselves but so do I and the rest of their clientele.
Yes, I really do understand but I'm covering my behind and if that means missing out on a lady here and there, oh well.
I realize that the ladies need to protect themselves but so do I and the rest of their clientele.
Yes, I really do understand but I'm covering my behind and if that means missing out on a lady here and there, oh well.
Well said Tessa Starr, and thank you for this great thread UhOh.
I also require a reference and most gentlemen read that request in my ad and provide one in the first email. This is a respectful start to an interaction that requires comfort and trust to be a truly fabulous experience.
If a gentleman has seen other providers, why are they hesitant to provide that information? Would there be a negative reference? Some have told me they don't want other gals to know they are seeing me or the details are private. When I send I request, I ask if they were respectful and if she would see them again. As for the details, it is the same for us, YMMV and the details are private.
If they can not provide another SP as a reference, I then give the option of providing a link to themselves online, such as Linkdin or a work web page. I do not actually want this information, I am just giving a second option.
I can see the hesitation in wanting to provide that to an unknown lady. And you should never do anything which makes you uncomfortable. This is supposed to be an arena for alleviating stress.....not creating more!
However, she has provided alternate and more anonymous ways of screening.
I suppose reputation as well as the type of lady a gentleman sees plays a role in how much information he provides on initial contact. More than half of my initial emails from potential suitors contain all the information she is requesting.......and more! Full name, company, position in company, main line number, direct work phone number, personal cell number and multiple references from recently visited established ladies are not at all unusual in an initial contact.
I don't request that information, but it tends to be provided very easily and openly. So I don't think she will have any problems getting it from potential suitors either.
Ironically, it seems that the more prominent and 'successful' gentlemen are the ones who are most open, and the those who have seemingly little to lose if they are found out are the most guarded. Perhaps because most highly successful people have incredible gut instincts and an exceptional ability to read people. They simply wouldn't contact a person that they didn't believe was trustworthy and respectful of their discretion.
With all of that said, and with the new C-36, I would be leery about providing too much personal information to somebody who didn't have an established and sane reputation.
However, she has provided alternate and more anonymous ways of screening.
I suppose reputation as well as the type of lady a gentleman sees plays a role in how much information he provides on initial contact. More than half of my initial emails from potential suitors contain all the information she is requesting.......and more! Full name, company, position in company, main line number, direct work phone number, personal cell number and multiple references from recently visited established ladies are not at all unusual in an initial contact.
I don't request that information, but it tends to be provided very easily and openly. So I don't think she will have any problems getting it from potential suitors either.
Ironically, it seems that the more prominent and 'successful' gentlemen are the ones who are most open, and the those who have seemingly little to lose if they are found out are the most guarded. Perhaps because most highly successful people have incredible gut instincts and an exceptional ability to read people. They simply wouldn't contact a person that they didn't believe was trustworthy and respectful of their discretion.
With all of that said, and with the new C-36, I would be leery about providing too much personal information to somebody who didn't have an established and sane reputation.
The type of screen I see asked for in this thread I have never ran into or would I be able to give .
I text or phone from my cell number it has my name on it .I have no other number .and I was self employed or semi retired.
I might give my perb handle if I was contacting a girl from these boards . Then they can read my posts get an idea of sone of my opinions maybe see a review.
Personally I don't like giving out who I have seen and have them asked what ever. I find that most girl can be jealous if you see some one else .. and why would I want to deal with that when I want to still see them again.
As for setting up appointment or knowing if I want to see them. It comes down to good pictures, some type of connection through text , email or phone call .that does not usually happen right away on first contact .
Unless I have had some foreplay on the board with posts in threads that we both pertisipated in or some PM over a post .
These day I usually will only see some one that I know from working for agencies and I see them independently
I text or phone from my cell number it has my name on it .I have no other number .and I was self employed or semi retired.
I might give my perb handle if I was contacting a girl from these boards . Then they can read my posts get an idea of sone of my opinions maybe see a review.
Personally I don't like giving out who I have seen and have them asked what ever. I find that most girl can be jealous if you see some one else .. and why would I want to deal with that when I want to still see them again.
As for setting up appointment or knowing if I want to see them. It comes down to good pictures, some type of connection through text , email or phone call .that does not usually happen right away on first contact .
Unless I have had some foreplay on the board with posts in threads that we both pertisipated in or some PM over a post .
These day I usually will only see some one that I know from working for agencies and I see them independently
There isn't anyone in the industry I want to see bad enough to provide any of that info to. A guy has no idea who the girl is other than her industry name that they often change. You would be putting your trust in someone you've never met for an illegal activity and that's just not smart.
References sure no problem but the rest of it would be crazy.
At best nothing happens at worst you become part of some girls tell all retirement book or a blackmail attempt or anything in between. Putting family and career on the line to get laid just dumb.
