Sexual addiction and easy arousal

[The Gentleman]

I find I am addicted to sex or masturbation if sex isn't readily available (most of the time). I find I need to get myself off at least once a day, sometimes 2, 3 or even 4 times. I have been this way for a long time and it seems to be getting stronger as I get older, strangely. (26)

If I see an attractive woman in public that's wearing tight or revealing clothing, I get aroused. I can usually control it enough that I wont get a full erection, but find myself fantasizing about sexual acts. It gets so bad that I sometimes masturbate in a public washroom just to relieve the urge (Rarely, though).

Do I have a problem?

 

[Health Nurse]

I find I am addicted to sex or masturbation if sex isn't readily available (most of the time). I find I need to get myself off at least once a day, sometimes 2, 3 or even 4 times. I have been this way for a long time and it seems to be getting stronger as I get older, strangely. (26)

If I see an attractive woman in public that's wearing tight or revealing clothing, I get aroused. I can usually control it enough that I wont get a full erection, but find myself fantasizing about sexual acts. It gets so bad that I sometimes masturbate in a public washroom just to relieve the urge (Rarely, though).

Do I have a problem?

Hi The gentlemen

From what you have described it is hard for me to say if you have a problem or not.

Sex addiction is a term that is used a lot, but many sex counselors/therapist do not like the term and prefer to use compulsive sexual behavior instead because thinking about sex and masturbating is normal.

I guess addiction is used a lot because the basic definition of addiction, which is: “Addiction is an uncontrollable compulsion to repeat a behavior regardless of its consequences.” This fits the behaviour so well.

The question is not if it’s normal, but if it’s a problem.

Sex can be a problem if it is driven or compulsive. People can feel like they are out of control.

It can also be a problem if you are so consumed by sexual feelings, fantasies, or behaviour that you are unable to engage in the usual kinds of social activity, e.g. going to work, friends etc…

It can also be a problem if it creates problems with your partner in that what you're doing causes conflict with your partner and harms the relationship.

Compulsive sexual behaviour can be a source of great suffering for people. I would suggest to you that if you see it as a problem that you connect with someone who has experience with this.

Here is some links
Dr David Mckenzie http://www.davidmckenzie.ca/
Dr Bianca Rucker http://www.biancarucker.com/
Dr Pega Ren http://www.smartsextalk.com/

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[vancity_cowboy]

dr. patrick carnes

http://www.sexhelp.com/

 

[HB40]

It gets so bad that I sometimes masturbate in a public washroom just to relieve the urge (Rarely, though).

Do I have a problem?

Yes!! Can you please use a stall....I get stage fright as it is standing next to a guy at the urinals.

 

[Health Nurse]

dr. patrick carnes

http://www.sexhelp.com/

Hi vancity_cowboy

I found the link you provided interesting. It seems to be really based upon a sex addiction 12 step model. From what I understand they try to stop sexual thoughts and behavior.

I don't really agree with this model because sexuality has a wide spectrum and I have seen many people labeled as sex addicts only because their sexual preferences or habits are different than the social norm. This sexual norm seems to be based upon a heterosexual monogamous sexual relationship.

While I don't particularly agree with the 12 step addiction model because it tends to make sex seem “dirty” or “bad” I am a great believer in people being able to choose what program they want to do, especially if it works for them.

As mentioned in the above post I prefer to say that certain people have a problem with their sexual behaviour rather than labelling someone as a sex addict because sexuality is normal.

I have certainly seen many people who have had problems with their sexual behavior and have had good results with seeing a therapist/counselor.


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