Seeing Escorts While Living With a Roommate

[jw90]

For the last couple years up until recently I had been living alone. When I wanted to visit an SP I could go at anytime without having to sneak around at all.

Recently I have moved in with a roommate, not a spouse, just a friend. In almost every aspect this is a positive change for me. The only draw back is I will now not be able to get out of the house (outside my normal work schedule) without having to explain my whereabouts. I don't see SPs really often, maybe once every couple months, but it was nice to be able to go whenever I pleased. I am not ready to open up to this person about seeing SPs.

I know lots of people on here have spouses or maybe roommates as well. Just wondering if anyone has any words of wisdom? My guess is you pretty much have wait until that person is away, out of town or something so you can get out without having to have some cover story and risk getting caught in a lie.

The idea of having to sneak around kind of takes the fun out of it for me, to be honest. Part of me has been looking at it as a way to help me cut back and save more money, but I would still like to see some of the ladies I have formed good relationships with from time to time. The ironic thing is that I will actually have more money available to spend with SPs now (saving money on rent), but it will be much harder to do.

 

[hiddencloud]

They're a roommate, not a spouse or significant other. A simple "I'm going out for a bit" should be more than enough.

 

[asma]

my question is your roommate a female or male + do you both have transportation because if either has to rely on each other for anything other then living together then you will always have to come up with something coming home or leaving + whether its male,which could be doing the same thing as you + if its female then she could be going out for anything you can imagine,so base yourself on how explicit the other person is when they go out or return, they can be in the same boat as you + a simple got to go see someone which is the truth,then leave or when you come home if they ask just say you had to go check some financial issue which is partially truthfull,if the other person needs more then what you have given then I see this living arrangement having issues in the future especially if its a female

 

[badbadboy]

For the last couple years up until recently I had been living alone. When I wanted to visit an SP I could go at anytime without having to sneak around at all.

Recently I have moved in with a roommate, not a spouse, just a friend. In almost every aspect this is a positive change for me. The only draw back is I will now not be able to get out of the house (outside my normal work schedule) without having to explain my whereabouts. I don't see SPs really often, maybe once every couple months, but it was nice to be able to go whenever I pleased. I am not ready to open up to this person about seeing SPs.

I know lots of people on here have spouses or maybe roommates as well. Just wondering if anyone has any words of wisdom? My guess is you pretty much have wait until that person is away, out of town or something so you can get out without having to have some cover story and risk getting caught in a lie.

The idea of having to sneak around kind of takes the fun out of it for me, to be honest. Part of me has been looking at it as a way to help me cut back and save more money, but I would still like to see some of the ladies I have formed good relationships with from time to time. The ironic thing is that I will actually have more money available to spend with SPs now (saving money on rent), but it will be much harder to do.

Well if saying you are going to do a few errands or going out for a while doesn't work for you then give them the whole truth.

"I am going to the ATM to get $300 to get my dick sucked and ride a stranger doggy style for an hour"

Better?

Personally the former is the better way to go. :nod:

 

[alcxd]

I tend to plan an SP visit with a meeting of some sort, work, beer, motorcycle or even a movie.
As I am on a few beer related events every year it's not a problem getting away. What's better than Going to a meeting & then either before or after, drinking beer
But it's not spur of the moment, although now that CLUB78 is in the Cowichan Valley, maybe I can do a little dating on the spur of the moment.

 

[Alix Turner]

Well if saying you are going to do a few errands or going out for a while doesn't work for you then give them the whole truth.

"I am going to the ATM to get $300 to get my dick sucked and ride a stranger doggy style for an hour"

Better?

Personally the former is the better way to go. :nod:

like a boss

i used to just say i had to run out and get something when i was new to singleness and still had a roommate I only had to say "laid" a couple of times before he quit being curious about anything I was dashing out for

 

[johnsmit]

you say a room mate..
. i know girls living with boy friends.. that the guy goes out when ever he want.. Sure he says wgere he is going. but still gone for hrs...

A room mate...you dont need to say anything to.. . if any thing . i going out.

 

[vancity_cowboy]

if you've got a problem with just going out for a while, then the other person in NO way qualifies as a 'roomate'. just sayin'

 

[VanessaofBC]

Me, I'm a bit sassy.....

 

[Lady Companion]

I agree that you shouldn't have to account for your coming and goings. However, I am somewhat perplexed at the fear or shame with just being open and honest with people (not a comment directed specifically to you). I don't mean giving a play by play to the barista at Starbucks, as discretion is important. But I really don't understand the sense of need to lie to people that are part of your life.

If something you are doing is causing you guilt, you probably shouldn't be doing it. If you are taking on other people's belief systems and their possible judgements, you are living in a place of fear/shame and not honouring yourself.

I just don't understand how somebody can have meaningful or authentic relationships - especially with themselves - if they can't be comfortable being who they are and expressing all parts of themselves (as long as they are not infringing upon the rights and freedoms of others). If you are't causing harm to others, and somebody has an issue with something you do, that is their crap and NOT yours.

The people that matter don't mind, and the people that mind don't matter.

 

[odonnell]

I can see a roommate having a right to know when you plan to return if you will be gone a long time, but certainly it is none of their business where you are going even if it's 2am when you leave. Respond with "why do you ask" in a tone that implies they are being nosy. The fact the person even asks suggests you need more distance with your roommate or soon they will be demanding you eat what they want you to eat for dinner, etc.

 

[Man in Submission]

Only issue I could see is the preparation time before seeing a lady. I know I am prob. like most guys who like to make sure they are squeaky clean, freshly shaven (a few other body parts beside the face too!), clean and stylish attire, etc, etc. And I like to take time my time preparing too (hate the last-minute rush to get ready). So it would be obvious to the roomie that You are going on a date ... the question being whether she is cool with you seeing another woman. Overall though, I think you might be making a mountain out of a molehill here. If she is indeed just a friend, you shouldn't have to explain going for a date with a lady. If one or both of you think this relationship may be going somewhere more serious, then I guess you just have to tread carefully.

 

[jw90]

Thanks for your responses everyone. I agree that when living with a roommate a simple "going out for a while" should suffice. I've lived in situations with others where that would have been a fine explanation.

To answer some people's questions, the roommate is male, we grew up together, have all the same friends, do almost everything together. We are not dependant on each other for transportation or stuff like that Unfortunately, when I walk out the door the question will be "where are you off to?" and if I come back from an unexplained absence it will be "where have you been?". If I am unwilling to talk about what I am doing, it will just be weird and awkward.

I tend to plan an SP visit with a meeting of some sort, work, beer, motorcycle or even a movie.
As I am on a few beer related events every year it's not a problem getting away. What's better than Going to a meeting & then either before or after, drinking beer
But it's not spur of the moment, although now that CLUB78 is in the Cowichan Valley, maybe I can do a little dating on the spur of the moment.

This is a good thought, may want to plan these things along with another errand etc.

I agree that you shouldn't have to account for your coming and goings. However, I am somewhat perplexed at the fear or shame with just being open and honest with people (not a comment directed specifically to you). I don't mean giving a play by play to the barista at Starbucks, as discretion is important. But I really don't understand the sense of need to lie to people that are part of your life.

If something you are doing is causing you guilt, you probably shouldn't be doing it. If you are taking on other people's belief systems and their possible judgements, you are living in a place of fear/shame and not honouring yourself.

I just don't understand how somebody can have meaningful or authentic relationships - especially with themselves - if they can't be comfortable being who they are and expressing all parts of themselves (as long as they are not infringing upon the rights and freedoms of others). If you are't causing harm to others, and somebody has an issue with something you do, that is their crap and NOT yours.

The people that matter don't mind, and the people that mind don't matter.

I can understand what you are talking about here. I'll have to echo the statements of PeaceGuy above. Unfortunately some people have a lot of mis-conceptions about what seeing an escort is like, and many people also believe incorrectly that it is illegal in Canada. Sometimes it is just easier to avoid an awkward situation and let people hold the opinion they have, and still be friends.

 

[1nitestan]

Well if you grew up together...is he a true "bro"? If so then he would be cool with you being honest. It may take some explaining but he should be supportive of your life choices. If you think he's gonna blab to your other friends, then he's not a bro...in that case you'll have to bitch slap him.

 

[VanessaofBC]

Well if you grew up together...is he a true "bro"? If so then he would be cool with you being honest. It may take some explaining but he should be supportive of your life choices. If you think he's gonna blab to your other friends, then he's not a bro...in that case you'll have to bitch slap him.

You should not have to lie to someone who is a true friend.

Honestly, when I first clicked on this thread, I thought you were going to say you were bringing ladies to the house. But you're not you are going out to see them. You are not bringing them into the home so technically it is not his business. You know him best though so if he is too "square" to understand, then others have great ideas on how to beat around the bush.

 

[hornygandalf]

Maybe... he is doing the same thing and is keeping it quiet from you...

 

[vancity_cowboy]

To answer some people's questions, the roommate is male, we grew up together, have all the same friends, do almost everything together. We are not dependant on each other for transportation or stuff like that Unfortunately, when I walk out the door the question will be "where are you off to?" and if I come back from an unexplained absence it will be "where have you been?". If I am unwilling to talk about what I am doing, it will just be weird and awkward.

make a joke out of it. when he asks you say, 'secret mission. if i told you i'd have to kill you!' and walk out. as they say, fuck him if he can't take a joke

 

[Crumb]

I'm the type that would be partly honest about it and play it off as a joke.

where ya going?
go do some hookers n blow, yo, hookers n blow.

hopefully he won't take you seriously or inquire further because you're being purposely evasive and get the hint to mind his own biz

 

[BofSea]

where ya going ?
Liqour and whores

 

[screwtape1963]

where ya going ?
Liqour and whores

"Booty call. Something I set up long before we moved in together."

"Who with?"

"No way. You go get your own Little Black Book; no way are you poaching off mine."

After that, either he will MYOB or eventually you will wind up sharing a hobby...