Relationship masturbation/sex toy double standards

[lovebignaturals]

Has anyone else ever encountered a double standard when it comes to masturbation thoughts when in a relationship? I do not want to make this a male vs female battle but I am speaking from my own experiences and what is "accepted" these days here.

My scenario:

I am an early 30's male and was with a female close to my age for 3 years. She had a few vibrators that she used to masturbate with all the time. I have always liked a girl that enjoys her own body like that. The fact she had a few toys was a turn on as I didn't know for years. I asked her to use one in front of me and she did…..super hot and this was after 3 years with her!

I decided to get a sex toy of my own and purchased a Fleshlight.

I have never used a sex toy and went into an accommodating store that was actually really cool and not a creepy place with peep shows or guys everywhere looking at porn.

Nonetheless when I told my ex she freaked at me. She was traveling for school and said, "only loser guys use toys" and "toys are for girls and gay gays". I simply responded that I bought it for fun when she was away and also to use with her like she had used her own toys many times.

When she came to my house she looked at the fleshlight and continued her banter about guys using toys. I told her that I used it and it felt amazing and she said it was not normal for a guy to enjoy that.

What a double standard!! Girls can use every single toy in the world and it is accepted. Fleshlights are nothing compared to some toys I have seen for sale online.

Nonetheless her and I broke up recently. The next girlfriend will have to agree with my alone time using a sex toy as I think it is the same as girls using theirs. Girls use vibrators or dildos so a fake pussy or even a set of fake big tits should be the same.

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Yup. I agree with you. Toys are for boys, and not just for girls. Because it always feels better when it's not just your own hand all the time!

 

[lovebignaturals]

Yup. I agree with you. Toys are for boys, and not just for girls. Because it always feels better when it's not just your own hand all the time!

THANK YOU! Since her I purchased a big tit toy which is amazing.

I really hope the stereotype ends. Straight guys can use pussy and tit toys the same as girls use all toys!

 

[cherise]

THANK YOU! Since her I purchased a big tit toy which is amazing.

I really hope the stereotype ends. Straight guys can use pussy and tit toys the same as girls use all toys!

you can buy "standalone" big tits to play with? and i agree i have bought a few fleshlights and pocket pussies for a few friends and clients and after the initial embarassment, each one has thanked me for taking it upon myself to get them as they never would EVER!

 

[lovebignaturals]

Big tit stand alone is starting to become common is what I was told.

I got these ones awhile ago:

http://www.bedroomjoys.com/product/pipedream-extreme-fuck-my-big-fat-titties/

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

Big tit stand alone is starting to become common is what I was told.

I got these ones awhile ago:

http://www.bedroomjoys.com/product/pipedream-extreme-fuck-my-big-fat-titties/

I've actually seen those at Fantasy Factory!

 

[Justin. Credible]

That is a major double standard and it's BS! I bought one of my boyfriends a flashlight once for when he would travel, though he was always afraid to pack it in case they pulled it out of his suitcase in the airport

I think it's hot when men play with themselves. Though the big tit toy is MUCH sexier! I like that!

I must be super hot then...I like to play with myself quite frequently...!!!

 

[LalaniElectrica]

I am so genuinely sad to hear you had that experience! I actually got into this industry by selling sex toys to both males and females and unfortunately there can be a double standard both ways. This happens for many reasons, one reason is the partner is fearful they are not being attentive enough (popular in a long-distance relationship) or that they will be replaced by the toy… the same with masturbation… it's really unfortunate! Chin up, the right girl will come along and appreciate the real you!

 

[Flanders]

seen elsewhere on the interwebs

"When a woman gets a vibrator, It's seen as a bit of naughty fun.

But when a guy orders a 240 volt fuckmaster pro 5000 blow up latex doll, with a 6 speed pulsating pussy, elasticized anus with non-drip semen collection tray, together with optional built in realistic orgasm scream surround sound system? He's called a pervert!"

 

[leoghaire]

I read an interesting article which argues that the basis of your friend’s response is economic and involves women’s control of sexual access. So very much a “male vs female battle.” Substitute “Fleshlight” for “slut” and read the article below on slut-shaming, a stigma which the article says is enforced primarily by women.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/19/science/a-cold-war-fought-by-women.html?ref=science?src=dayp&_r=0

“Sex is coveted by men,” she said. “Accordingly, women limit access as a way of maintaining advantage in the negotiation of this resource. Women [Fleshlights?] who make sex too readily available compromise the power-holding position of the group, which is why many women are particularly intolerant of women [and Fleshlights?] who are, or seem to be, promiscuous.”

same reaction by radical feminists in regard to the sex trade.

 

[cherise]

http://www.cracked.com/article_17372_18-more-worlds-most-disturbing-sex-toys.html/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=fanpage&utm_campaign=new+article&wa_ibsrc=fanpage

This made me laugh and cringe at the same time. But I agree. Huge double standard. Toys are for everyone!!!

omg those were awesome ha
ha

 

[Elle Diablo]

seen elsewhere on the interwebs

"When a woman gets a vibrator, It's seen as a bit of naughty fun.

But when a guy orders a 240 volt fuckmaster pro 5000 blow up latex doll, with a 6 speed pulsating pussy, elasticized anus with non-drip semen collection tray, together with optional built in realistic orgasm scream surround sound system? He's called a pervert!"

OMG!! ound: hahahaha ... maybe this is the reason for the double-standard. "They" do say men and women are designed differently.

 

[Elle Diablo]

http://www.cracked.com/article_17372_18-more-worlds-most-disturbing-sex-toys.html/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=fanpage&utm_campaign=new+article&wa_ibsrc=fanpage

This made me laugh and cringe at the same time. But I agree. Huge double standard. Toys are for everyone!!!

Some of those contraptions are like a science project gone awry! :fear:

Disposable Canned Vagina - it's probably for those most needed quickies on the train on the way to work where one just can't be bothered with clean up.

Teddy Bear Vibe - this one was made for all the 'Furries' of the world ound: (they need 'me' time too)

 

[Ms Erica Phoenix]

All right...time for me to tell a BB story. He's lived such an ...interesting life.

When we met lo those many eons ago, he was living in a men's recovery house run by an amazing recovery society. One night, a group of them were walking back to the house from a meeting, and they saw something odd-looking on a bench at a bus stop. Upon closer inspection, the unusual object turned out to be a personal masturbator, complete with anus, pussy, and (since this was the late 90s after all!) a full bush. BB, being a bit of a wag, promptly christened her "BusStop Wendy". (why Wendy I don't know, but it has a ring to it, doesn't it? :eyebrows They carried on back to the house, cracking wise and probably tossing poor BSW at one another all the way. The odd thing is, shortly after arrival at the house, BSW disappeared into the depths of SOMEBODY's room, never to be seen again. No-one ever 'fessed up to it, despite many accusations and interrogations! Ahh, BusStop Wendy, how they admired you! I hope she found a good home...

 

[dickotoole]

Hatrick, is what you were doing masterbating? "I always liked to keep it simple, when she was tired I would just do the spoon doggie with a favourite centrefold on her back"?

You're spooning . . . got your dick up against her butt cheeks? between her legs? and a centerfold on her back! WTF, really? I can't imagine any woman being too fond of the idea that her ol' man needs a centerfold when his is spooning with her. That would definitely qualify as "easy going."

 

[worldshaker]

When a woman gets a vibrator, its seen as a bit of naughty fun. BUT when a guy orders a 240 Volt FuckMaster Pro 5000 blow-up latex doll with a 6 speed pulsating pussy, elasticized anus with a non-drip semen collection tray, together with optional built in realistic orgasm scream surround sound system, he's called a pervert!

 

[Flanders]

ound: You kill me man. WHERE do you come up with this shit??????

When a woman gets a vibrator, its seen as a bit of naughty fun. BUT when a guy orders a 240 Volt FuckMaster Pro 5000 blow-up latex doll with a 6 speed pulsating pussy, elasticized anus with a non-drip semen collection tray, together with optional built in realistic orgasm scream surround sound system, he's called a pervert!