Rant

[vanner]

Ok... had to get this off my chest because it's been bugging me for awhile. I did my search of CL (as usual) and saw mostly the same ads (as usual) but came across a new one. Did a PERB search for number but came up nada. I dial the number up and this is what I get:

She: "Hello?"

Me: "Hi there. I saw you ad on Craigslist"

She: (pause) "Yes"

Me: "I just had a couple of questions. What are you rates?"

She: "$150 for half hour and $200 for the hour"

Me: "Cool. What are your restrictions?"

She: "No bareback."

Me: "Ok. No bbbj either?"

She: (condescendingly) "Did you hear what I just said?"

Me: "I did, I was just asking..."

She: (very condescendingly) "Did you know you can get diseases by not wearing a condom?"

Me: "I did. Thanks very much for clarifying it for me though. Goodbye"

HANGUP


Now, maybe it was my fault for asking about the bbbj when she already said no bareback. I always ask because you never know, especially if I think she is new. If an SP doesn't want to provide it, its her own personal choice, and I completely respect that. But PLEASE do not talk down to me like I'm a little kid who asked a stupid question. She could have simply said "Sorry, that includes bjs as well" and that would be the end of discussion, and to be honest, I would probably would have still booked with her. However, when she continues to lecture me regarding risks, that completely turned me off. I'd like to think that everyone here has an informed information regarding the risks of pooning. And everyone has varying degrees of what risk he/she is willing to take. However, to berate somebody on their personal risk tolerance/choice is unacceptable, especially in a "service" industry.

S: ?
L: 7
A: -100000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000

 

[trackstar]

I think you're taking this a little too personally. Ask yourself, was it REALLY that big of a deal? Surely not big enough to post it here imo

 

[HB40]

I think you're taking this a little too personally. Ask yourself, was it REALLY that big of a deal? Surely not big enough to post it here imo

Careful, you don't want him thinking you are lecturing on posting etiquette, he seems pretty sensitive.

 

[Goldenrod]

I think you're taking this a little too personally. Ask yourself, was it REALLY that big of a deal? Surely not big enough to post it here imo

Not a big deal at all. You asked a stupid question and stupid questions deserve stupid answers.

Get over it fool, I'm sure as soon as she hung up the phone she'd forgotten you

 

[vanner]

I know in the grand scheme of worldly events, its nothing. But I've read posts of SPs ticked off because of customers' behaviours, why can't I?

Don't worry... I couldn't care less about posting etqiuette... unless of course the CAPS LOCK is on.

 

[trackstar]

I know in the grand scheme of worldly events, its nothing. But I've read posts of SPs ticked off because of customers' behaviours, why can't I?

Don't worry... I couldn't care less about posting etqiuette... unless of course the CAPS LOCK is on.

Oh you can, just expect these kind of responses cupcake

 

[vanner]

thanks for advice, sweetcheeks

 

[trackstar]

thanks for advice, sweetcheeks

This ain't prison cupcake, I won't be needing you as my bitch as of this time

 

[uncleg]

And what was wrong with her behaviour ? She said no bareback, why would you even have to ask if that included bbbj ? If bbbj, but nothing else bareback, was included I'm sure she would have said so.

 

[d_Duck55]

Should have asked about RIM JOB instead of BBBJ. That would have gotten her excited and yappy!

 

[DQ Guy]

Ummm bbbj....
Umm thats bareback...
yes yes its barebackblowjob....
soooooooo
she says no bareback...
and you ask if it includes bbbj....
yea thats kinda a stupid question.
I'd talk to you in a little baby voice like you were a 2yr old too...
just my 2cents

 

[HB40]

She: "Hello?"

Me: "Hi there. I saw you ad on Craigslist"

She: (pause) "Yes"

Me: "I just had a couple of questions. What are you rates?"

She: "$150 for half hour and $200 for the hour"

Me: "Cool. What are your restrictions?"

She: "No bareback."

Me: "Ok. No bbbj either?"

She: (condescendingly) "Did you hear what I just said?"

Me: "I did, I was just asking..."

She: (very condescendingly) "Did you know you can get diseases by not wearing a condom?"

Me: "I guess cumming in your mouth is out of the question then. Goodbye"

HANGUP

I took the liberty of editing your final comment to give you an idea of how to handle these situations, if they are condescending, beat em at their own game.

 

[aznboi9]

I don't think your post was that unreasonable, vanner. While it's true that your question wasn't necessary, assuming you were polite about it, there still wasn't any need for her to be rude about it.

 

[trackstar]

I don't think your post was that unreasonable, vanner. While it's true that your question wasn't necessary, assuming you were polite about it, there still wasn't any need for her to be rude about it.

And now you must die

 

[aznboi9]

And now you must die

 

[trackstar]

Ok then sign me up for the firing squad as well because I don't think his post was unreasonable either.

He entitled it "Rant" so that would be the first indication that he's going to complain. And the communication process can be tricky so clarifying an aspect of a conversation is not unreasonable. And it's a free country where free speech is encouraged, so again, not unreasonable.

What Vanner was complaining about was her attitude and being talked down to. He has a valid complaint, from my point of view and not a good public relations tactic on her side.

Believe me, I know first hand the type of questions that are asked and how irritating some of them can be, but I do my best not to reply in bitch mode. (I save that for my Domme sessions - lol) This is a business and you try to take the bad with the good with as much grace as possible.

So I think HB40's solution was the best (and the most amusing.)

Not by firing squad sexy, oral asphyxiation!

 

[high-end hottie]

phone etiquette

I think you were right to be offended by her tone and to not book an appointment. The phone call is an important screening device for both parties and if she came across as rude or easily irritated, who wants to spend time with someone like that, right? Your question was valid because everyone has different interpretations and you didn't want any surprises or disappointments.
The health lecture was totally uncalled for. But hey, maybe she was just having a bad day.

 

[Danika]

Why would you ask if she does bbbj right after she clearly said no BAREBACK.

Ugh. I can't totally relate to the girl on the other end.

I'm sorry to be a bitch, I wouldn't have told you there is risks in involved however I probably wouldn't have responded to you with as much enthusiasm as you would have liked either.

Its like when a guy calls last minute to ask you when you are available you tell him in 3hrs you have errands to run and then he asks "so that means you can't make time for me in half an hour?"

Jesus, listen and actually try to hear what the girl is telling you!!!!

This is why I never put my # on craigslist, I can't handle the repeat questions, If you ask a question the answer is not going to change if you just ask a few more times!

And Just a little note to you....It's not fun to answer questions such as "what kind of service you provide" over the phone...

The phone is for:
Man: "hello I would like to see you today, when are you free"
Me: "I am free between this time and that"
Man:"ok, 6pm for an hour is good for me"
Me: "awesome, do you have a pen and paper to write down my address"
Man:"Perfect, I will call you just before I arrive to make sure you are ready for me"
Me: "Perfect, I will be ready and I look forward to your call"

THE END.

IF you want to know what she offers, send her an email....In that email ask any questions you like and then you can remind her of her answers on the phone....like:

"You sent me an email that said you offer body slides, I am very interested in making that happen to start the session...."

I will delightfully respond to you with as you wish, thanks for taking the time to do your research before calling!!!!!


thats my little rant...

xo
D.

 

[AngelSkye]

I understand why she would freak about after already saying no bareback. Sp's everyday are pestered by clients begging for bbbjs, and it can get tiring and annoying. But she did not handle it in a classy way. So I can see both sides here...but when I girl says no bareback in my experience she means everything.

 

[AngelSkye]

Its like when a guy calls last minute to ask you when you are available you tell him in 3hrs you have errands to run and then he asks "so that means you can't make time for me in half an hour?"

Jesus, listen and actually try to hear what the girl is telling you!!!!

This is why I never put my # on craigslist, I can't handle the repeat questions, If you ask a question the answer is not going to change if you just ask a few more times!

I totally agree!