Quick question

[101202]

Hey guys,

Hoping some people can give me some input on a somewhat delicate issue. You know how we all enjoy sps and the great no strings attached sex. I've been seeing this sp for about a year now and it seems like we really do enjoy each others company. I know I enjoy hers. We've even gone out several occasions with no compensation for her.

Problem is I also know of many sps having psychological problems due to the nature of this business or perhaps from previous life encounters (rape by family members or close friends). She also has children for which I'm not too ecstatic about to be honest -- kinda tough to always come in 2nd in needs and attention.

Anyway, the question is, if I really do enjoy her time and company, should I risk getting hurt by yet another woman who is perhaps probably wrong for me. To be honest, coming in 2nd to her kids is not a big deal to me. The thing is, I can sense she has some major psychological issues -- she likes to play lots of mind games but more importantly sometimes I see her totally lose it in front of others, even in front of her own children -- but for some odd reason I feel I can help this person. Or am I just deluding myself?

She has a square job outside this business ( like with other sps I'm sure, you would never be able to tell shes a sp on the side) but tells me she does this to make ends meet.

There are so many other choices in women out there. And I wonder if I am cutting myself short by investing more of my time and energy into this lady. I really do have feelings for this person, but I'm not too sure about pursuing something further with her.

I'm hoping others can help me with some of their input.

 

[bobsyouruncle48]

co-dependence

it is not pretty and can become very painful. becoming personally involved with a SP is more than complicated and ultimately leads to much much more trouble.

investigate co-dependency and what it means to you. i think you already know the answer.

 

[trawler]

101202 everyone must follow ...

their own piper whether the tune is played by their Mind or their Heart. Your situation seems to imply that your Heart is playing a tune that your Mind does not like very much. I am afraid that once the infatuation passes your Mind is likley to be right.

Bottom line: Unless you can accpet her children as her priority, are willing to mdeal with her qwirkiness and prepared to work very hard at making this a relationship, move on or leave it as friends.

My 2 cents ... T

 

[wolverine]

All I can say is, if you have to ask then you've answered your question.

 

[Guardian Angel]

Exactly

All I can say is, if you have to ask then you've answered your question.

Wolvie, you are right.

Whether an SP or not any relationship where children are invlolved, you need to know they come with the package. If that is a potential problem, then walk while you can so the situation does not get worse.

You can't just have the lady for yourself and not include her children.

G.A.