Question about ....

[Annalise Lane]

.... So I've had a client come to me because he knows I have 'fly on the wall' fantasys, and other ones I would like to play out. He's found a lovely gal who is charging for her time. He asks me if I would be interested, and my reply is "of course". What I didn't know was because it's MY fantasy, I am not entitled to my donation. He thinks my time should be free, adding he's now a male escort (I want to see his licence), and because he's not charging me, than I should not have the right to ask for my donation.

While I do alot of free sessions for very good reasons; Christmas 2007 Charity drive, Help me out with your handy hands, etc.

Am I over reacting or is he out to lunch ?

 

[Bloodrite]

I would think that because he approached you, he would be paying for your time. If it was an open invitation and you replied, then I could see it being free.

 

[Vancouver Sara]

You are definitely not over-reacting. Just because it is something you will enjoy doesn't mean you should have to give it away. He is being rather arrogant to assume so, and if that was what he was thinking he should have been clear about that from the moment he spoke to you.

 

[little Cowboy]

I agree with Sara, I wasn't sure from your post, whether or not he is paying her or charging her (if he's an escort). But is sounds like either him or her has a fantasy of being watched...and since he approached you...it seems that he's satisfying HIS fantasy first and should pay.

I think its kinda low that he'd do that, but it is business and not just this business, either.

 

[Annalise Lane]

I agree with Sara, I wasn't sure from your post, whether or not he is paying her or charging her (if he's an escort). But is sounds like either him or her has a fantasy of being watched...and since he approached you...it seems that he's satisfying HIS fantasy first and should pay.

I think its kinda low that he'd do that, but it is business and not just this business, either.

I think they have teamed up at a male female duo team. However, from his emails I got the impression he's paying her.

He was a client - paid once. He did me and Carmelita a favor, and got a free bj from us, once. Since the free bj - he seems to think that I will be with him for free.

NOW if he was single - there might be a chance - but he's NOT single and therefore he's NOT getting free anything.

Since this posting he's emailed me and applogized for the misunderstanding. But it doesn't fix the hurt.

 

[little Cowboy]

I think they have teamed up at a male female duo team. However, from his emails I got the impression he's paying her.

He was a client - paid once. He did me and Carmelita a favor, and got a free bj from us, once. Since the free bj - he seems to think that I will be with him for free.

NOW if he was single - there might be a chance - but he's NOT single and therefore he's NOT getting free anything.

Since this posting he's emailed me and applogized for the misunderstanding. But it doesn't fix the hurt.

WOW, that's too bad. Why is it that once someone does a person a favor, its becomes expected. Not only in this racket, but everywhere. My fav SP went a little longer in a session once, and it was simply because she enjoyed herself. To me it was a complement and I told her I appreciated it and I won't expect it to happen again. BUT you can bet I am going to try and make her happy..but the decision is her's.

But I wouldn't think it should matter whether he's single or not. It was a business transaction. But it was with a twist, he didn't advertise and you applied. It was, hmmm..me and my partner are starting a venture, and I know someone who might be a customer.

He could have easily approached you and said, "Look, here my new line, I am offering this service, so if you know anyone who might be interested in what we are offering here's our rates." Then the choise is yours - no pressure.

I am glad he apolozed, but I can see why you'd be hurt. In my view rather than be up front he was attempting to take advantage of your desires. Friends don't do that to friends.