Problems with condoms. Any advice?

[IBwell]

Hi guys. So I've been playing around with this hobby for just a couple of months. I'm 38, just ended a 7 year relationship and before that was a 3 year one. So I've essentially used a condom I think twice in my 30s.

I have seen a number of lovely providers, and almost every time I just fade away once the condom is on. It's not the worst, I always get taken care of. But I'm missing out on MPOS which is unfortunate. And I have seen some serious hot ladies, Veronica, Seven, Mia among others. So attraction and turn on isn't the problem. Only Irena was able to get me, but well, she's Irena. ?

Any suggestions? I mean, I could try some viagra or something. But I don't really want to. Maybe it'll just take some more practice.

 

[escortlover1991]

Maybe the ladies you're seeing are using cheap condoms. I'm sure some of them will let you use condoms you buy instead.

 

[IBwell]

Hmm. That never crossed my mind. Some research may be required.

 

[Aesthetics>all]

I use theyfit condoms... I just wouldn't be able to finish because generics xl's are too tight and I would numb out or if by some miracle I could get a regular one on the discomfort would cause a loss of erection

 

[The Other Guy]

"Any suggestions? I mean, I could try some viagra or something. But I don't really want to. Maybe it'll just take some more practice."
Similar experience a few years back. I suggest you buy a bunch of condoms and practice at home, alone. Make a mental association between wearing a condom and sexual pleasure. Hope that helps.

 

[Hugh G Rekshun]

Any suggestions? I mean, I could try some viagra or something. But I don't really want to. Maybe it'll just take some more practice.

You could try a cock ring. It will get you hard. Your difficulty sounds psychological, Viagra won't work anyway, or work well, in those circumstances. A cock ring is much cheaper.

 

[IBwell]

I agree it's most likely psychological. I'm definitely thinking about it when it gets to that point. Trying to associate wearing the condom with sexual pleasure is a good idea. Cock ring isn't bad either. One more date with a touring bombshell this week (she's already aware of my challenge and takes care of things) and I think some time off to figure this out is in order.

 

[MrEd]

Do you jerk off a lot? If so, take the others' advice and at least use a condom while jerking it. It will help with getting used to it.

Condoms suck!! But necessary

 

[IBwell]

That's the other thing that's a little weird. I pretty much don't anymore, figured it was best to save it for when it counts. Hasn't seemed to help. I'll get it figured out. Too much in my head.

 

[Regent]

Do you think that it's a change/decrease in sensation that's causing you issues, or more of a psychological thing?

If it's primarily a sensory problem, I would look at trying different condoms in different sizes. If you're on the thicker side, standard size condoms are 52 - 53mm and might be too tight around the base, pinching or impacting circulation.

Non-latex condoms can also provide a different sensory experience - polyisoprene transfers body heat better and I've been told it feels much closer to bare. Lifestyles Skyns come in original and large and I think are a really great starting point when experimenting with different condoms.

Female (internal) condoms might also be a very effective solution, as they don't go on you. There's a bit of a learning curve to them - you have to pay attention to make sure that you're thrusting into the condom and not down the side, and most people don't use enough lube initially, which can result in some less than sexy stuff, like a rustling noise. But with loads of lube I've had people tell me that they couldn't feel the condom at all. They have the added bonus of covering more area, and so can be more effective in preventing the transmission of skin-to-skin STIs. They're expensive and a bit awkward, so they're less popular than I think they deserve to be, but there's a lot of places in Winnipeg that you can get them for free. http://www.getsomecondoms.com/clinic-and-condom-finder/ (Nine Circles, Rainbow Resource Centre and Street Connections has them for sure - other places I'd call first.)

If it's more of a psychological issue, maybe just take some performance pressure off yourself by focusing on enjoying other activities as the main course, and PIV sex is a bonus if it happens?

 

[wpgman69]

I've had it happen a few times lately where the sensation seemed to fade either because of the condom being to tight or the woman was to loose, it's hard not to drift in those situations.

 

[JoeyD_01]

I had that problem when the lady would bring out the condom, and it wasn't even a large. I swear my lg turned a light shade of blue from a lack of oxygen & blood flow.
I discovered I needed...NEEDED the Magnum XL, mainly for girth. You may think I am joking, but, your comfort and the lg's...natural color & feeling goes a long way (pun intended) when being with your partner.
Nothing else works for me, and I am glad I found it.
It's like those old American Express card commercials..."Don't leave home without it."

 

[voodooking]

That is a lot of money wasted when you are not able to perform due to anxiety or stress.

If you can't relax then it is likely impossible to perform or maintain an erection.
It is not a condom problem and it is definitely all in your head.

You may as well flush your money down the toilet. :sad:

I have seen Irena multiple times and she does make you feel at ease making it very easy to relax.
She is basically the human form of Viagra.

 

[Aesthetics>all]

I had that problem when the lady would bring out the condom, and it wasn't even a large. I swear my lg turned a light shade of blue from a lack of oxygen & blood flow.
I discovered I needed...NEEDED the Magnum XL, mainly for girth. You may think I am joking, but, your comfort and the lg's...natural color & feeling goes a long way (pun intended) when being with your partner.
Nothing else works for me, and I am glad I found it.
It's like those old American Express card commercials..."Don't leave home without it."

Funny thing about the magnum and magnum XL is they are the Same size, XL just a mark up and marketing , both are 54mm wide and 8.1" long. I'm going to say it again look into theyfit, theirs range from 3-9.5" length and 41-69mm width, once you add in s/h and duties it's like $8 more for a box

 

[Porscha]

That's how my latex sensitivity started. I couldn't cum with normal latex condoms. Then I tried non-latex & omg it felt so good! Even with non-latex I find my enjoyment varties depending on the brand. Skyn by Lifestyle is my preference. Good Luck. Xox

 

[IBwell]

Thanks for all the input guys. Helps a lot. I think it's probably the condom brand that is the issue. I'm totally relaxed during most of the hour, and I pop back hard right away once the condom is off after I've faded, so it's somewhat in my head, but the feeling seems to be a big part of it too.

 

[voodooking]

If you are thinking about going soft in an appointment it will always be in the back of your head and it will cause you anxiety or stress.

For me personally sex is 70% mental and 30% physical.

If my mind is wandering or is pre occupied by something my performance and stamina is definitely going to be effected by it.

Thanks for all the input guys. Helps a lot. I think it's probably the condom brand that is the issue. I'm totally relaxed during most of the hour, and I pop back hard right away once the condom is off after I've faded, so it's somewhat in my head, but the feeling seems to be a big part of it too.

 

[sauvevital]

Apply Vitamin E oil from the capsules to get improve sensitivity.Avoid the ones that contain acetate and buy the natural ones that are sold in capsules.

 

[michaelscott]

Just telling my personal experience…
In my late fifties..sex at home was sort of ok without condom.
8 years ago i saw my first escort..she was young..very hot..but I could not keep it up with the condom on.
Saw this girl about 2 or 3 more times and same results..
Went to the doctor, and got the usual test for testosterone level stress ect; and ended up getting viagra.
Tried viagra with same girl, and saw 100 % improvement..(rock hard)
I even started using it at home, and the wife has no idea that I use it.
Now I never leave home without it..

 

[Regent]

Apply Vitamin E oil from the capsules to get improve sensitivity.Avoid the ones that contain acetate and buy the natural ones that are sold in capsules.

If you use vitamin E oil on your penis please don't do so the day of your session. Oils damage condoms, including polyisoprene ones, and it would be terrible to have a condom break during a session. Even without a full on breakage, oils can degrade the condom and you might end up with micro holes or other damage that reduces the effectiveness of it.