Pointers/Suggestions for a virgin planning on booking a session with an SP

[rmd604]

Hi Everyone,

I was hoping to get some advice on booking a session with an SP for the first time. Especially for someone like me who is in their early-mid 30's and has never had sex before (been busy with other aspects of life unfortunately).

I've been doing some research on this forum and on other resources and here are some points i've learned:

• Best go with an experienced independent escort as it provides a more intimate and personal experience.
• Let the SP know ahead of time that this is my first time having sex so they can better understand my situation and what kind of experience I'm looking for. Clear, polite, and professional communication before and during the session seems to be key.
• Go with a 2 hour session. Since this is my first time ever I’ll probably finish super quick, so before booking I should confirm if I’m allowed to finish multiple times during the session (I believe the term is MSOG?)
• For safety/security/discretion reasons, an incall is probably my best option. Most independent SP’s usually have a condo/apartment they have available for this purpose.
• The vast majority of independent SP’s ask for a deposit/down payment. I’ve read that this is a redflag for a potential scam, but reading on the forum it seems fairly standard among reputable SP’s. If I go with an SP with good reviews/active on this forum I should be safe. Is this correct?
• It sounds like most incall SP’s provide condoms, but I’m assuming this I should confirm with them prior to booking?
• I should maintain high hygiene standards (lol good advice for life in general). It seems most incall SP’s have a shower available, but if I shower before I arrive at the incall location is it still expected for me to shower again?
• Punctuality is important

Does this information seem right to you guys? Any other tips/pointers I might be missing?

After doing some searching around there are a couple of SP’s I was thinking of reaching out to when I get back to home to Vancouver next month, but I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions for SP’s that are willing to book a session with people who have never had sex before. I'm less focused on physical attributes (although i'm looking for someone around my age range of late 20's to mid/late 30's), and more of the kind experience they could provide (a more intimate, personal, and understanding one)

Thank you!

 

[selectum27]

Hi Everyone,

I was hoping to get some advice on booking a session with an SP for the first time. Especially for someone like me who is in their early-mid 30's and has never had sex before (been busy with other aspects of life unfortunately).

I've been doing some research on this forum and on other resources and here are some points i've learned:

• Best go with an experienced independent escort as it provides a more intimate and personal experience.
• Let the SP know ahead of time that this is my first time having sex so they can better understand my situation and what kind of experience I'm looking for. Clear, polite, and professional communication before and during the session seems to be key.
• Go with a 2 hour session. Since this is my first time ever I’ll probably finish super quick, so before booking I should confirm if I’m allowed to finish multiple times during the session (I believe the term is MSOG?)
• For safety/security/discretion reasons, an incall is probably my best option. Most independent SP’s usually have a condo/apartment they have available for this purpose.
• The vast majority of independent SP’s ask for a deposit/down payment. I’ve read that this is a redflag for a potential scam, but reading on the forum it seems fairly standard among reputable SP’s. If I go with an SP with good reviews/active on this forum I should be safe. Is this correct?
• It sounds like most incall SP’s provide condoms, but I’m assuming this I should confirm with them prior to booking?
• I should maintain high hygiene standards (lol good advice for life in general). It seems most incall SP’s have a shower available, but if I shower before I arrive at the incall location is it still expected for me to shower again?
• Punctuality is important

Does this information seem right to you guys? Any other tips/pointers I might be missing?

After doing some searching around there are a couple of SP’s I was thinking of reaching out to when I get back to home to Vancouver next month, but I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions for SP’s that are willing to book a session with people who have never had sex before. I'm less focused on physical attributes (although i'm looking for someone around my age range of late 20's to mid/late 30's), and more of the kind experience they could provide (a more intimate, personal, and understanding one)

Thank you!

You have 8 questions/ bullet points.
1. Definitely better off with a more experienced provider, especially one fluent in your language of choice for optimal communication. There are many asian incall shops out there eg: koreanvip69, icon604, daynight, korean604, yumikolove, foxy604, asian fever etc. Most are great but communication can be difficult at times. Some non asian focused agencies/groups are Temp gf, luxxxeaffair, Rizas, Coco Collective and PDC. Search reviews for girls you may be interested in at each shop to help avoid a negative experience. There are also plenty of AMPs (asian massage parlours) around.
3. A 2 hour session meeting someone for the first time is a long time, some providers offer MSOG included, most others provide it with an upcharge, IMO 1hr or 45mins is a better option, especially for your first time. There are many reasons why you may regret 2hrs.
4. Condo incalls are great, safe options, and the most GFE like. You may end up with a handler (or brosan) taking you up to the condo or you may just get the buzzer number usually near the time of appointment and head on up yourself.
5. Some higher end independents require a deposit, they've built a following and a reputation. Most shops/ groups/ agencies don't unless a girl is particularly popular, which has actually happened recently at one of the asian shops. Many have been scammed by putting down a deposit, it also lays a bit of a paper trail. Unless you have a good reason to trust where your money is going, why risk it? There are many other options that don't require a deposit. The leolist and Perb combo is invaluable to not getting scammed.
6. Most incalls provide it yes, if they don't you might be better off rethinking your choice.
7. Expect to shower there regardless if you have before arriving.

Be personable, respectful and friendly to any girl you meet, this is not just for her but for you too, it is not just the humane thing to do but it will give you a better experience overall.
It will come down to how much you're willing to spend and the type of girl you're into, from sexy spinners to mountain troll aunties there's a surprising amount of price variance on each end.

 

[rmd604]

Thanks for the info Selectum!

If I'm going to book a higher-end independent SP (which seems like the safest option if I go with someone reputable), what are your thoughts about a 2-hour session? Are there still reasons that it would be considered too long?

I can understand 2 hours being too long if I'm going to a AMP kind of establishment where it's high-volume and they want to get me in & out as quickly as possible, or if there is a language barrier between myself and the SP. I think if I chose a SP who focuses more on the personal/GFE side of things (and there is no language barrier between us), 2 hours would be a good amount of time for us to get comfortable with each other (especially me who has never done this kind of thing before) and for me not to feel rushed in the experience

 

[Bobert1969]

Yeah, this is a bad idea all around. If you're a virgin, and you're paying a provider to be nice to you enough to open her legs, you're not learning anything. Not to mention, the experience will overshadow any first time you have with a civilian, thereby potentially ruining your relationship skills for the future.
Your expectations will be skewed and spoiled.
I implore you, go through the normal routes the old fashioned way. Meet a girl on an app.

B

 

[rebelwithsomecause]

Social dates? Maybe see if it's the right fit for you before trying out full service. Otherwise you could also try setting up regular appointments/an arrangement with one experienced sensual GFE provider, with your intention of learning new skills you can take moving forward for when you have time for a romantic relationship in future.
This idea has been brought up here before and everyone is different right so you do you, but tbh starting out your intimate experiences with paid companions can set a bad precedent for you moving forward at any age, you may find it hard to not see life as transactional and you will struggle to build genuine intimacy in your non simulated life. If you wanna use SP try to use it to better yourself as a lover for your future lady. It's just my two cents.

 

[selectum27]

Yeah, good points made and really should be mentioned. While this is a fun hobby, it shouldn't be indicative of "real life" relationships. Doesn't get more old fashioned than the ol' dating apps.

 

[rmd604]

Thanks for your input everyone.

I really appreciate your insights on how going down this route could lead to negative impacts on my personal life (and potential future relationships) down the road.

If I were to eventually move forward, it would be really important to do it with the right headspace, fully understanding that what is happening in the session is "fantasy" and not indicative of how real-life relationships/encounters go. It would be an extremely bad move to take experiences or expectations formed in a session and apply them directly to a potential future real-life relationships, this is guaranteed to lead towards a trainwreck.

I'll also have to ask questions to myself of why I'm doing it in the first place. The majority of my life I've focused on career/education so I have very little experience with the opposite sex in a non-platonic level (hell i never even dated before). Compared to my IRL friends and other people in my age group I feel like I'm far behind in terms of experience/knowledge in this area, and I thought this might hold me back in the future if I were to try to pursue a romantic relationship. I was thinking a session would provide a "safe" and understanding space to explore that aspect to life a little. But then it goes back to what a lot of people on this board have brought up, what is the point of that experience gained when there is a chance it will make it more difficult to form genuine connections/relationships in the future.

I'll have to think it over a bit more and try to determine if this is right for me. Thanks again for opening my eyes a little and helping me understand this is more complex decision than I initially thought.

 

[CocoCollective]

Hiiii😊
Many of our ladies would love to spend time with you at whatever length you’re looking for. A few ladies have dealt with virgins a few times perfectly and we have worked together to make the experience soft, slow and unrushed. All of the ladies speak perfect English (Canadian born) and before every booking they are briefed with information about the booking if there is any special requests, concerns, or anything that you have mentioned that is important to the booking.

if you would like to consider this please don’t hesitate to reach out with your : Expectations, ladies you had in mind who you find physically attractive and we can work together with what lady I would feel would be a good match for you for your experience.

the reason why perhaps a longer session would be good for someone in your position is to ease yourself into it, get to know the lady for a bit, chat, explore each other, she can show you what she likes and you can show her what you like and ease yourself into it. Non-rushed, no performance expectations maybe have a refreshment or a small bite to eat (you can order in at the incall or I can arrange for something to be delivered/I can bring and set up for you before hand.. appetizers, fruit, charcuterie etc etc a deposit would need to be made prior)

if this is something you, or anyone would be interested we are more than happy to make every experience memorable, drama free & tailored to your needs.

best,
Nastassia @ Coco
604-440-9130

 

[Bobert1969]

Brother, I can’t stress this enough. When, not if, you find a woman that you can be close enough with to tell her you’re a virgin, she’ll be excited to be your first. Do NOT pay for your first time. It will be too perfect. You want it to be awkward and goofy. That’s part of the joy of making memories. Focus on yourself. Get out in the world. Hang with your boys. Go to clubs. Shit will happen organically. Trust me.

 

[vanperb]

Hi Everyone,

I was hoping to get some advice on booking a session with an SP for the first time. Especially for someone like me who is in their early-mid 30's and has never had sex before (been busy with other aspects of life unfortunately).
....

Thank you!

https://perb.cc/xenforo/threads/how...aking-your-first-booking.300414/#post-2199717

I'm going to be the contrary voice here. Really consider if you want to do this. Once this door is open, it's very hard to close, and it will alter your perception on sex and intimacy. Maybe for the better, maybe for the worse. Giving this up is harder than you might think.

If you know you have an addictive personality, or know that you can be needy emotionally, I suggest you get that sorted out first. Therapy, meditation, whatever. Get that sorted out first.

Then consider if this a one time thing (a fantasy you need to fulfill), or potentially something you'll want to keep going for whatever reason. This is as much a financial and lifestyle decision as anything, and setting up rough parameters of what might be ahead of you.

Lastly, if this isn't a one time fantasy fulfillment, do NOT spend money on a $400+ provider or multiple hours. It doesn't matter if you can afford it easily or not. You won't really be able to enjoy the time the way it deserves to be spent. I highly suggest choosing to spend some time with 6456 Club (now 2274 Club) or 1122 Agency first. Learn the patterns, expectations, manners, and just get comfortable enough with the entire "process" to start really enjoying time with an escort. Then start thinking about the specific things you want to experience.

 

[blakealridge]

I think booking an experienced professional for your first time doing this (or anything, honestly) is a great idea. The first man I ever slept with was very experienced and knew how to make sure I was comfortable and felt safe and enjoyed myself. I wouldn’t trade that experience for anything.

I’ve seen several virgins and many more who are seeing me as their second experience. I am extremely goofy and always laugh a lot in sessions. I go over anatomy (that’s right, i’m gonna shove my vulva in your face and explain the different parts of it which you may already know, but it’s different when you see it in person), consent (for when you’re sleeping with someone who isn’t a professional, and thorough check-ins from me to make sure you’re comfortable), communication (how to ask for what you want or find out what your partner wants), and more. So much of this experience is what you want it to be. The idea that “your first time” is “losing” something (your virginity) is a harmful idea. It doesn’t have to mean anything beyond what YOU feel like it means, so don’t listen to what anyone says except yourself. It will NOT ruin future intimate encounters for you unless you carry unrealistic expectations of your partners. It sounds, though, like you’re well-adjusted and understand that.

I’d be honored if you came to see me! I’m also happy to make some recommendations for other providers I think would be fantastic if you’d like to DM me. Also, here’s a review of a session I had with a virgin!

https://perb.cc/xenforo/threads/a-virgin-experience-with-charlee-beckett.310692/

<3

 

[Deguire]

I say go for it! Here's the thing. When you find a girlfriend at your age, she will have had lots of lovers. You have had none. If you do this, you will have much more confidence and be much less likely to make any blunders. I find an hour passes all too quickly but two hours is a long time. I suspect 90 minutes would be your sweet spot. As Charlee and Coco have pointed out, be upfront and discuss your situation. I think you will find them very 'simpatico' so ask them teach you all you need to know about how to explore the female body and pleasure a woman. And, at the same time, discover what pleases you. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Don't lie on your deathbed and regret all the things you didn't do. Whatever you decide, best wishes!

 

[Bobert1969]

SMH.

 

[blakealridge]

SMH.

Who hurt you babe

 

[Bobert1969]

Who hurt you babe

The bad woman with the strap-on. The pain was unexpected but not unwelcomed, eventually.

 

[Oldfart]

I think booking an experienced professional for your first time doing this (or anything, honestly) is a great idea. The first man I ever slept with was very experienced and knew how to make sure I was comfortable and felt safe and enjoyed myself. I wouldn’t trade that experience for anything.

I’ve seen several virgins and many more who are seeing me as their second experience. I am extremely goofy and always laugh a lot in sessions. I go over anatomy (that’s right, i’m gonna shove my vulva in your face and explain the different parts of it which you may already know, but it’s different when you see it in person), consent (for when you’re sleeping with someone who isn’t a professional, and thorough check-ins from me to make sure you’re comfortable), communication (how to ask for what you want or find out what your partner wants), and more. So much of this experience is what you want it to be. The idea that “your first time” is “losing” something (your virginity) is a harmful idea. It doesn’t have to mean anything beyond what YOU feel like it means, so don’t listen to what anyone says except yourself. It will NOT ruin future intimate encounters for you unless you carry unrealistic expectations of your partners. It sounds, though, like you’re well-adjusted and understand that.

I’d be honored if you came to see me! I’m also happy to make some recommendations for other providers I think would be fantastic if you’d like to DM me. Also, here’s a review of a session I had with a virgin!

https://perb.cc/xenforo/threads/a-virgin-experience-with-charlee-beckett.310692/

<3

I was about to suggest that ExpCharlee seemed to be a perfect candidate to help our virgin friend cross over.
Although I have never had the pleasure of meeting her in the flesh, to this old fart, she seems thoughtful, compasionate, well educated, and a good communicator as well as being an expert in "country matters."
If only she had been around in 1964 when I was a virgin on the verge.

 

[Juicer99]

Just make sure not to pay if it was a click bait sp. Move on you don’t want to lose self respect for yourself.

I’m speaking from experience here.

 

[hooker]

If it flys, floats, or fucks, it’s cheaper to rent…

 

[coldfire]

I would also recommend against paying for your first time, and that's from the unusual perspective of having lost my virginity to an SP, but not as a client, long story behind that. I don't think the main concern is over it being "too perfect", because realistically there is going to be some degree of awkwardness no matter who ends up being your first. It's more that the emotional impact of your first time might be more than you expected, and there is unlikely to be any "aftercare" that wouldn't require you to pay more money.

I only pay for what isn't readily available for free, hence it's for some kind of specific and unique experience. Your first time will be unique simply for being your first time, and you will probably be glad that you got it the "difficult way" instead of paying for it.

 

[ploplayer228]

Brother, I can’t stress this enough. When, not if, you find a woman that you can be close enough with to tell her you’re a virgin, she’ll be excited to be your first. Do NOT pay for your first time. It will be too perfect. You want it to be awkward and goofy. That’s part of the joy of making memories. Focus on yourself. Get out in the world. Hang with your boys. Go to clubs. Shit will happen organically. Trust me.

Listen to this!!! ⏫⏫⏫⏫

You will remember the 1st time for a long time. I still do. I am sure many of us still do.

If you are desperate (for the lack of better word), I would strongly suggest finding someone you would be at least attractive to (facially and physically)

Professional SPs as some suggested will put you at ease and guide you through, however I would suggest to try to find someone at least younger than yourself so that you wouldn't be so [insert whatever word may fit here] - especially if you are a younger dude.

Just my thoughts