Must surely be a common situation...
Much as I relish sweet times with escorts, I'm horny every day and would vastly prefer sex to self-pleasuring—but seeing escorts on an almost daily basis isn't sustainable on a middle-class income (at Canadian prices—China is another matter).
So I've been thinking—"obsessing" is a better word—about how to supplement my pooning with freebie sex.
I'm really not looking for freebie sex within a relationship, with all those strings attached (though I might go for it if you find me a hot-looking, sweet-tempered sexpot who adores me and didn't object to occasional pooning binges on my part).
Realistically, I'm looking for non-relationship freebie sex. Incidentally, in recent days, two older women showed interest in me. I wasn't sufficiently attracted to consider either of them for a relationship—in one case, too much weight, in the other, clearly not enough intelligence (among other liabilities). But if I didn't fear complications, I'd certainly have considered them nice enough for a romp in the sack.
It's so strange: we men feel such crazy lust for hot-looking women that we pay oodles of cash for them, but we tend to be cruelly indifferent to pleasant women whose looks have faded. I observe this differential pull of motivation very powerfully within myself—there's nothing voluntary about it, it's evolutionarily hard-wired: once women stop sending out strong fertility signals, I'm just not motivated to make concessions to be with them.
But even when an older woman doesn't give me a huge jolt of attraction, I'd often be happy to bang her. The benefits here could be fully mutual: I remember attending a talk by an SFU gerontologist about the various psycho-physiological health benefits of an active sex life for aging women.
I just don't seem to know how to broach this subject tastefully with them. Those two women that came on to me this past week, for example—I don't want to give them the impression that I'm courting them in a romantic way. On the other hand, saying "Look, I'm not looking for a girlfriend right now, but if you want to get together sexually, well, I'd be interested. Just tell me if you feel like coming back to my place for a glass of wine..." The words just didn't flow over my lips. What are the magic words here?
I'm always surprised, given their diminished mating opportunities, that older women don't make it vastly easier for us guys to have sex with them without saddling us with expectations or complications.
Much as I relish sweet times with escorts, I'm horny every day and would vastly prefer sex to self-pleasuring—but seeing escorts on an almost daily basis isn't sustainable on a middle-class income (at Canadian prices—China is another matter).
So I've been thinking—"obsessing" is a better word—about how to supplement my pooning with freebie sex.
I'm really not looking for freebie sex within a relationship, with all those strings attached (though I might go for it if you find me a hot-looking, sweet-tempered sexpot who adores me and didn't object to occasional pooning binges on my part).
Realistically, I'm looking for non-relationship freebie sex. Incidentally, in recent days, two older women showed interest in me. I wasn't sufficiently attracted to consider either of them for a relationship—in one case, too much weight, in the other, clearly not enough intelligence (among other liabilities). But if I didn't fear complications, I'd certainly have considered them nice enough for a romp in the sack.
It's so strange: we men feel such crazy lust for hot-looking women that we pay oodles of cash for them, but we tend to be cruelly indifferent to pleasant women whose looks have faded. I observe this differential pull of motivation very powerfully within myself—there's nothing voluntary about it, it's evolutionarily hard-wired: once women stop sending out strong fertility signals, I'm just not motivated to make concessions to be with them.
But even when an older woman doesn't give me a huge jolt of attraction, I'd often be happy to bang her. The benefits here could be fully mutual: I remember attending a talk by an SFU gerontologist about the various psycho-physiological health benefits of an active sex life for aging women.
I just don't seem to know how to broach this subject tastefully with them. Those two women that came on to me this past week, for example—I don't want to give them the impression that I'm courting them in a romantic way. On the other hand, saying "Look, I'm not looking for a girlfriend right now, but if you want to get together sexually, well, I'd be interested. Just tell me if you feel like coming back to my place for a glass of wine..." The words just didn't flow over my lips. What are the magic words here?
I'm always surprised, given their diminished mating opportunities, that older women don't make it vastly easier for us guys to have sex with them without saddling us with expectations or complications.
