New SP at my favorite MP is my neighbor
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Outside of the MP she's a civilian living her life. Respect each other's privacy and pretend you don't know each other. You're not the first dude to recognize a SP outside.
If it's an apartment building just ignore each other. The likelihood you guys run into each other regularly is rare.
Leave her be. Rarely does an SP want to mix her personal life with her business life. There’s plenty of other SPs out there for you.
Lets see...choices are to harass her or leave her be. Tough decision here Bucky, but im going to go with #2.
In terms of patronizing her work, go if you want but if she declines to see you accept her choice and find another.
In terms of patronizing her work, go if you want but if she declines to see you accept her choice and find another.
Unless she's working at home and there's a bunch of dudes coming and going, then it's none of your business. Even if she is you report it to strata and leave it be.
Again, unless you're purposely listening to for her door to open and close, or spying on her you probably won't see her. I live in a condo and I've rarely seen my direct neighbors. You'd have you have a reason to care and check.
If you did want to try her out then approach her at work and see if she's comfortable. It'll be extremely uncomfortable if you approach her outside of work.
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Then what was the reason for your question in post #1?
Not sure if I should avoid going to that MP from now on so wanted to see how others thought. It’s the one I usually go to
I mean if you're so paranoid about it then yes. Avoid that MP. There are so many more or there. There's probably a thousand other places you can go.
Realistically, no one wants to air out each other dirty laundry. What she does as a civilian is none of your business and where you go out what you participate in as a civilian is none of her business.
Realistically, no one wants to air out each other dirty laundry. What she does as a civilian is none of your business and where you go out what you participate in as a civilian is none of her business.
I would be really uncomfortable and a bit paranoid if my apartment building neighbor booked an appointment with me. I think find another parlor.
Or stay at that one but never pick her. What happens and what you hear and see in Vegas stays in Vegas kind of thing lol.
Ive also made some really good friends with some of my neighbors that know what I’m about in a few different places I’ve lived. I’ve been lucky that nobody has maliciously tried to get me in trouble with my landlords.
Treat her like anybody that has a job. Don’t pick her. Don’t even ask lol. Is my opinion based on how I’d feel in the situation. 💕
Or stay at that one but never pick her. What happens and what you hear and see in Vegas stays in Vegas kind of thing lol.
Ive also made some really good friends with some of my neighbors that know what I’m about in a few different places I’ve lived. I’ve been lucky that nobody has maliciously tried to get me in trouble with my landlords.
Treat her like anybody that has a job. Don’t pick her. Don’t even ask lol. Is my opinion based on how I’d feel in the situation. 💕
If you’re both single I don’t see an issue unless you get roped into babysitting 😝
much like a “one time” hookup w your neighbor , if there is any lingering desire , awkwardness, etc then that’s a pretty big mustard stain on your chin there when ever you run into them in your own building . It’s the same reason office romance sounds fun but in reality can turn into a bit of a nightmare afterwards .
And yes the choices of MP’s isn’t exactly a short list . You may even end up finding one that turns out to be way better or discover a new gem .
And yes the choices of MP’s isn’t exactly a short list . You may even end up finding one that turns out to be way better or discover a new gem .
There are two scenarios and neither of them end well.
First, you don’t tell her you’re neighbors and see her at the MP. Then one day she sees you see each other at the condo and freaks out, because she wonders, “Has he known all this time? Is he stalking me? This is creepy!”
Second one, you book her and mention that your’re her neighbor - and her heart will freeze with fear. This man I’ve never met knows where my kid and I live. “Why is he telling me this and what does he want?”
I understand why this is titillating for you and the prospect is probably titillating for a few of us Perbs as well, myself included.
But if you have any empathy at all, you’ll choose the third option, which is to do her the kindness of not sending her mind into a place of fear and having to start running scenarios through her mind such as “Is my kid safe? Do I have to move my home and change my kid’s school? Do I need to change shops?”
Honestly put yourself in her place and ask yourself how you would feel if you were a sex worker - in an industry which is clearly in the margins - and a stranger came up to you and told you he knows where you live?
First, you don’t tell her you’re neighbors and see her at the MP. Then one day she sees you see each other at the condo and freaks out, because she wonders, “Has he known all this time? Is he stalking me? This is creepy!”
Second one, you book her and mention that your’re her neighbor - and her heart will freeze with fear. This man I’ve never met knows where my kid and I live. “Why is he telling me this and what does he want?”
I understand why this is titillating for you and the prospect is probably titillating for a few of us Perbs as well, myself included.
But if you have any empathy at all, you’ll choose the third option, which is to do her the kindness of not sending her mind into a place of fear and having to start running scenarios through her mind such as “Is my kid safe? Do I have to move my home and change my kid’s school? Do I need to change shops?”
Honestly put yourself in her place and ask yourself how you would feel if you were a sex worker - in an industry which is clearly in the margins - and a stranger came up to you and told you he knows where you live?
I would avoid seeing her. Last thing you want is to make her personal life very uneasy. Especially, if she's next to your unit. This might be a tough task but, If you can somehow find out what name she goes by, book other ladies when she isn't there. I'm sure most of these ladies have schedules?
I've been there, but by fluke.
I had seen this person before she moved next door and then just by coincidence she had a brief stint at a parlour I frequent.
She was a bit of an eccentric herself so I just saw her, did my business and left.
I'm sure she knew what was up too since I used to say hi to her every Saturday morning when she would take out her trash.
Moral of the story: try tosee her if you want, but don't bring up the neighbour thing. It will really be up to her if she wants to see you or not. If not then leave it be.
Do not ask her outside of work if she would be okay seeing you at work. That's weird in and of itself.
I had seen this person before she moved next door and then just by coincidence she had a brief stint at a parlour I frequent.
She was a bit of an eccentric herself so I just saw her, did my business and left.
I'm sure she knew what was up too since I used to say hi to her every Saturday morning when she would take out her trash.
Moral of the story: try tosee her if you want, but don't bring up the neighbour thing. It will really be up to her if she wants to see you or not. If not then leave it be.
Do not ask her outside of work if she would be okay seeing you at work. That's weird in and of itself.
Seems to be a lot of overthinking here.
Its a business transaction if you see her professionally and its not if you happen to see her around your hood. She's a grown woman who makes her own decisions so respect that. And, she may have already seen you at that fav MP so it could be a two way street in this particular process.
Just my 2bits on the topic.
Its a business transaction if you see her professionally and its not if you happen to see her around your hood. She's a grown woman who makes her own decisions so respect that. And, she may have already seen you at that fav MP so it could be a two way street in this particular process.
Just my 2bits on the topic.
I would book her. If she turned me down
I would move on and try a different lady. Simple as that. So what now? Are you going to stop going to your favourite mp because your neighbor just so happens to work their? What you need to do is to stop thinking so deeply about it. You have zero connections other then her being your neighbor.
I think its pretty damn hot when I see a lady that I had a wild time with just out and about living her life.
It happened to me twice with two different providers.
Did I make a big deal about it? No! I just let life go on as it should. No awkward waving, saying hi, hello or winking. Mentally it was a different story but outside my noggin 🧠 it was just a nice silent glance of a view and thats it. Imagine being on a public bus and you see a hot provider from the past that you did the rusty trombone with. That mental silent feeling would be pretty damn hot! The thought of you being the luckiest man on that bus would be pretty damn cool huh!? but no way in hell do you constantly stare at her or talk to her. Just take a glance and let life go on as it should. The choice is yours but never go full awkward and notify that you are her next door neighbor at her job or outside of her work. Thats a stupid idea.
I would move on and try a different lady. Simple as that. So what now? Are you going to stop going to your favourite mp because your neighbor just so happens to work their? What you need to do is to stop thinking so deeply about it. You have zero connections other then her being your neighbor.
I think its pretty damn hot when I see a lady that I had a wild time with just out and about living her life.
It happened to me twice with two different providers.
Did I make a big deal about it? No! I just let life go on as it should. No awkward waving, saying hi, hello or winking. Mentally it was a different story but outside my noggin 🧠 it was just a nice silent glance of a view and thats it. Imagine being on a public bus and you see a hot provider from the past that you did the rusty trombone with. That mental silent feeling would be pretty damn hot! The thought of you being the luckiest man on that bus would be pretty damn cool huh!? but no way in hell do you constantly stare at her or talk to her. Just take a glance and let life go on as it should. The choice is yours but never go full awkward and notify that you are her next door neighbor at her job or outside of her work. Thats a stupid idea.
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