my friend is a SP. Should i see her?
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Reading the whole thread I can see she is not a friend, just a buddy.
In this case do as you wish
In this case do as you wish
Booking a session and not informing her that you know her would be very UNCOOL. Let her know & let her make the decision. I've said yes to some (my ex hubby, haha & yes he paid the full rate
) & no to others. No harm, no foul. When i became an sp, i slowly told people on a need to know basis & while women are tricky about telling, guys are always cool about it, go figure. For me, it's a relief to be able to be open with friends. Oh and being in the industry, one clues in quickly that pretty much every male you've ever met has fantasized about having sex with you..that part you won't have to explain.Ive booked a session with a friend of mines and she ended up not going through with it. Was funny we sat down later and joked about things.
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i say you book with her and bang her like a screen door in a hurricane. if she's hot and you've fantasized about her, do it. if she's comfortable enough to be an escort then she'll deal with what comes her way.
turn it around for a sec, if you were an escort would you object to one of the girls you know having fantasized about you and wanting you to stick it in her?
i say you book with her and bang her like a screen door in a hurricane. if she's hot and you've fantasized about her, do it. if she's comfortable enough to be an escort then she'll deal with what comes her way.
turn it around for a sec, if you were an escort would you object to one of the girls you know having fantasized about you and wanting you to stick it in her?
Definitly try #3 suggestion. Either she says yes or she says no ,and it would probably be less akward the you offering her money.
I'd do it, based on the fact that you mentioned that you two aren't really close. But I would take VV's advise on approaching her.
Or, you could just pm her name to me and I'll see her for you and fill you in on the details. I'm always happy to help a guy out.
Or, you could just pm her name to me and I'll see her for you and fill you in on the details. I'm always happy to help a guy out.
What aspect of a friendship is changed when friends have sex with each other? Is this change intrinsic to the universe or one mandated by the society?
It is true that I don't usually pay $ for a friend's service, but buying dinner is a common way of showing appreciation for a friend's time and effort.
Obviously, I don't understand some people's arguments here. I don't see how the 'friend' status makes everything different. It is not a big deal if neither makes it one. Discreetness is only a problem if at least one of them has trouble maintaining their side of the bargain, but that has nothing to do with the fact s/he being a friend. What if my dentist, barber, university professor, or schoolmates are SPs? Would that make a difference? Could someone kindly explain?
It is true that I don't usually pay $ for a friend's service, but buying dinner is a common way of showing appreciation for a friend's time and effort.
Obviously, I don't understand some people's arguments here. I don't see how the 'friend' status makes everything different. It is not a big deal if neither makes it one. Discreetness is only a problem if at least one of them has trouble maintaining their side of the bargain, but that has nothing to do with the fact s/he being a friend. What if my dentist, barber, university professor, or schoolmates are SPs? Would that make a difference? Could someone kindly explain?
If it was me I'd totally ask her (don't just show up without telling her who you are). The one thing I don't like about seeing SPs is there is no fantasy/tease buildup of lusting after them for a long time not sure if you can get it on with them.
For me I have no problem making friends. I have a hard if not impossible time getting pussy that I lust after though. I'd take the pussy any day even if it meant losing a friendship. I don't really have time friends even, but there's always time for pussy!
For me I have no problem making friends. I have a hard if not impossible time getting pussy that I lust after though. I'd take the pussy any day even if it meant losing a friendship. I don't really have time friends even, but there's always time for pussy!
i agree, since she isn't that close, try to go for it. perhaps you should approach her on a friends with benefits proposition.
See? Even VV's so hot, even her husband had trouble booking her.Booking a session and not informing her that you know her would be very UNCOOL. Let her know & let her make the decision. I've said yes to some (my ex hubby, haha & yes he paid the full rate
a friend?
A friend?
I don't have any lady friends that do porn...escort on the side.. or that have seen my cock! (damn)
What kind of friends we talking here? Already seems like there could be a lil something something going on here already.
To me, your choices are clear. Whatever you do just keep it real and be honest and upfront and treat her with 100 % respect.
Regardless of what you decide to do from there, at least you've taken the 'high' road.
With that said.. I'm a guy that prefers to regret the things I HAVE done.. versus regretting the thing I haven't. (insert devil horn smiley face here)
A friend?
I don't have any lady friends that do porn...escort on the side.. or that have seen my cock! (damn)
What kind of friends we talking here? Already seems like there could be a lil something something going on here already.
To me, your choices are clear. Whatever you do just keep it real and be honest and upfront and treat her with 100 % respect.
Regardless of what you decide to do from there, at least you've taken the 'high' road.
With that said.. I'm a guy that prefers to regret the things I HAVE done.. versus regretting the thing I haven't. (insert devil horn smiley face here)
Yup,
I would also say be honest with her and don't just book an appointment and show up as a complete surprise to her.
Personally, I know who two SP are. One is a someone from highschool days and someone I really had a crush on and the other I know from the gym. I have not made an appointment with either as it may be akward for the one I see at the gym regularly. However, I'm tempted to see the one from school as I may never run into her.
I would also say be honest with her and don't just book an appointment and show up as a complete surprise to her.
Personally, I know who two SP are. One is a someone from highschool days and someone I really had a crush on and the other I know from the gym. I have not made an appointment with either as it may be akward for the one I see at the gym regularly. However, I'm tempted to see the one from school as I may never run into her.
You may be surprised when you see what's (who's) behind the door when it opens, that the pic on CL was lifted from one of the porn flicks or pics, and that it wasn't really her after all! of course I don't know if that will happen, just saying it's a possibility.
What VV said!!
this about sums it up in a tidy little package...well done VV!! I've slept with pretty much every good friend I have (male and female) over the years - as an SP and prior to that - those women that I haven't slept with, hmm..well my hubby has...lol - and in all but 2 situations - we are all still good friends and in some cases still fucking regularly....lol...so, talk to her and see what her comfort level is - and then make sure she doesn't feel guilty about taking your cashBooking a session and not informing her that you know her would be very UNCOOL. Let her know & let her make the decision. I've said yes to some (my ex hubby, haha & yes he paid the full rate
One thing I would like to add to this, friend or buddies or whatever you want to call it, You should always and I say always respect her for who she is, no matter what she does, SP, secretary etc.
I personally, made a good friend which I met as an SP, I keep seeing her as a regular client, and I would say if she needed my help for any reason, I would be there to help her.
And I'm not expecting anything, simply be there if she needs me for whatever reason it is.
But as far as the sex part, you need to keep in mind that your sessions are not any more special than the ones she has had or will have with other clients.
And if you do have certain feelings for her, and I'm not saying to be in love, but when two people start a friendship there are certain feelings that will be part of it, you might find your mind wandering and getting sideways, asking yourself stupid questions as, is she like that with everyone, or am I the only one to get that service, and gaurantee it will screw you up, you might feel jealous, and you might feel anger and pain.
The solution to it is, first and above all be a friend to her, not because she is hot, but inside there is a human being that you care for, WHO SHE IS, no matter what she does, that is her choice, and she deserves all the support she needs to make it in this business.
I suggest you tell her you came across her pix on CL, show her that you really care about her feelings by telling her how you feel at the moment,
really what girl would not appreciate a man coming up to her and be straight forward, honest and care about her feelings, from that point on whatever she decides, you need to respect it.
If you feel angry that you can't get some while others do, then you shouldn't be her friend and would suggest you move on to the Finding a Friend trail.
My 2 cents
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I personally, made a good friend which I met as an SP, I keep seeing her as a regular client, and I would say if she needed my help for any reason, I would be there to help her.
And I'm not expecting anything, simply be there if she needs me for whatever reason it is.
But as far as the sex part, you need to keep in mind that your sessions are not any more special than the ones she has had or will have with other clients.
And if you do have certain feelings for her, and I'm not saying to be in love, but when two people start a friendship there are certain feelings that will be part of it, you might find your mind wandering and getting sideways, asking yourself stupid questions as, is she like that with everyone, or am I the only one to get that service, and gaurantee it will screw you up, you might feel jealous, and you might feel anger and pain.
The solution to it is, first and above all be a friend to her, not because she is hot, but inside there is a human being that you care for, WHO SHE IS, no matter what she does, that is her choice, and she deserves all the support she needs to make it in this business.
I suggest you tell her you came across her pix on CL, show her that you really care about her feelings by telling her how you feel at the moment,
really what girl would not appreciate a man coming up to her and be straight forward, honest and care about her feelings, from that point on whatever she decides, you need to respect it.
If you feel angry that you can't get some while others do, then you shouldn't be her friend and would suggest you move on to the Finding a Friend trail.
My 2 cents
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To bang or not to bang
Hmm, How about you have me bang her for you. Just tell me what you wish for me to do. Pull her hair during doggy, spit on her back..... cuddle after MSOG.... you can wine and dine and I will punish the poonanie.
I think if you truly value your friendship then you did the right thing telling her upfront. Now, how about posting that picture so that I can bang her.
Thx.
Hmm, How about you have me bang her for you. Just tell me what you wish for me to do. Pull her hair during doggy, spit on her back..... cuddle after MSOG.... you can wine and dine and I will punish the poonanie.
I think if you truly value your friendship then you did the right thing telling her upfront. Now, how about posting that picture so that I can bang her.
Thx.
