MHUS - SP's with active HUSbands - please explain

[maverick73]

I've read in several threads now where SP's have husbands... even worse is when their husbands are present during sessions?

I don't get it. I can understand an SP having a bf, a separated husband, a divorced husband... but an actual active husband... surely the 2 of them can make a living such that the SP doesn't have to do this. And surely if the relationship is strong they would both not want the SP to do this.

Are there men out there that just get off on the fact that their wife is f$cking a truckload of other men for money? And even like to hear and watch this in an adjacent room?

Just when I thought I'd heard it all on PERB.... it gets more f$cked up every day.

 

[kehoe]

I too was surprised to hear that someone (Tamara) had a husband in the next room. Even the mere thought of it turns me off. Makes me wonder if he was there when I saw her. The more I know about SP's particularly the business and its impact on them, the less I like it.

yep. Big turnoff

 

[SugarSeed]

hmmm maybe the hubby is a retired pimp ?

been with one who I found out midway through the session her late teen/adult kids were also in the house. HUGE turn off and never saw her again.

.... or maybe what you're saying is that you were too cheep to shell out for the "group" session.

= = = = = = = = = = =

"oooo baby, oh Gravitas I love it when you fuck me hard, oh yeah baby ...huh Gravi...feed me your Gravi Gravy ....oooooo"

"hey mom, where's the Duritos?"

"Beside the bread, in the cupboard...oh baby, come on fuck me...."

 

[nyx]

What difference does it make if she is married, engaged, divorced, collared or otherwise? SPs are in the 'business' of providing services to clients. You are the client. You pay for their time and in turn you partake of their services. Beyond that arrangement, any details of the SP's personal life are none of your business.

I find it amazing that you would render judgement upon such a situation. Is an SP not allowed to have a man who loves her, whom she can come home to at the end of the day, whom she can love back? Does the 'business' she is in somehow negate the human need for genuine love and companionship in whatever form is comfortable for the couple?

Perhaps your question should not be directed towards the SPs in the business who are married, nor their husbands, but rather at yourself, so that you may figure out why you find this concept so disturbing.

On a side note... having hubby in the next room would be a bit... awkward...

That's all I've got to say about that...

 

[TotallyTouchin]

Just for the record...

Hey Mav, Just for the record, when she was "Tamara" and worked with me, the husband thing was NOT an issue.

Now that she is "Sadie" she is "in it" with her husband there....I have no say in this and would think it was a total turnoff myself too...totally get your point for sure but I'm staying out of her buisness.

 

[KingLeer]

Overthinking?

The more I read some of the posts the more I begin to think that many of us overthink the situation. I'm beginning to have the feeling that many who frequent sp's are not just taking advantage of the service for sexual purpose but are perhaps deluding themselves into thinking that they actually have a relationship with the sp. When I pay what the SP is asking, I focus on what I am there for, namely getting turned on and getting off. I could care less what her personal relationship are or are not. I don't care if she is married, has a bf, is a lesbian or has immigration issues. That doesnt mean I dont care about her as an individual..it just means I really don't want to take the time or effort to find out about it and I certainly don't want her telling me about during the time I have paid for. SP's like to say, that you are paying for my time only. I want to make it clear that it goes both ways - if I'm paying for her time, I want her focused on me.

Now I can certainly understand how having the SP's SO in an adjoining room would be a little inhibiting, I also know that there are SP's who have a bodyguard or similar quietly cooling his heels in another room also. As long as everyone knows their place and their responsibilities I try and focus on the task at hand.

There is nothing wrong and its only natural to wonder about the SP's personal life, but that is way down on the priority list when I'm paying the tariff.

 

[Avery]

I always thought seeing an SP with her SO present nearby would be really weird, unnerving and distracting. However, a couple of years ago, I booked a lady in the US midwest, knowing her husband would be present in the house. I had read her reviews on The Erotic Review, and several of them mentioned that her husband was there for security reasons, but that he was pretty well invisible.

When I arrived at their house, she immediately led me toward a ground floor bedroom, and I could see her husband's back in the office/den on the other side of the (very large) house. He was working on his computer, and he paid no attention to me (didn't even turn around). His wife and I spent two hours fucking, sucking and licking in the bedroom that was obviously dedicated to her business activities. They are swingers, and she makes a little extra pocket money as an SP too. Despite my advanced age, she managed to get me off three times, rounds two and three being world-class BBBJTC's.

When I left, rubbery-legged, he was nowhere in sight.

 

[DeaAphrodite]

Integrity?

It never ceases to amaze me that you guys expect integrity in this business.

Excuse me, but why not? I expect the people that I do business with - in ANY of my businesses, to behave with integrity, and I expect it of myself too. How sad for you who have lost that.

But more on topic, I would echo what has been posted here by a few: what an sp is doing outside of the appointment is nobody's business. And when I'm with you, my client, I want to be thinking about, involved with, and focussed on you.

 

[ScottyTwoHotty]

I've read in several threads now where SP's have husbands... even worse is when their husbands are present during sessions?

I don't get it. I can understand an SP having a bf, a separated husband, a divorced husband... but an actual active husband... surely the 2 of them can make a living such that the SP doesn't have to do this. And surely if the relationship is strong they would both not want the SP to do this.

Are there men out there that just get off on the fact that their wife is f$cking a truckload of other men for money? And even like to hear and watch this in an adjacent room?

Just when I thought I'd heard it all on PERB.... it gets more f$cked up every day.

Who cares if a SP is married or not? Really! Not to sound rude or anything, but if a SP is married isn't that her choice in life? Are you telling me that all men who visit an SP are single or only have a GF?
I don't like the idea of a SP having a husband who is there on location. I think thats wrong.
As far as a SP with a husband is concerned, oh well. Should they all be attractive, single, homebodies that jump to the phone, living no life but to provide services to us? Maybe we should ask an SP if she still has a mother and/or father too. SP's have lives too. Be it a married life or a single life. They walk, talk, shop, eat, sleep, and shit just like the rest of us. They aren't machines.
As long as the hubby isn't sitting at the end of the bed smacking my ass and yelling, "Nail my gal!" I'm ok with an SP being married.

Scotty

 

[BouBou]

I agree that it doesn't matter if an SP is married. How many SP's are judgemental about their married clients? We each use an SP's service for our own reasons, and SP's are in the business for their own reasons.

As long as the husband is fully accepting of his wife's activities, having him in the other room is just good business sense. That way, she gets reliable protection without having to pay somebody for it. You never know, it could add another dimension to it if he invites you for a beer and a chat or a game of snooker before you take off. LOL

 

[slow__hand]

LOL.....LOL....nice one Scotty, good finish for a great day....LOL

 

[BouBou]

As long as the hubby isn't sitting at the end of the bed smacking my ass and yelling, "Nail my gal!"....

LMAO Now that's certainly an alternative to a friendly nock on the door when your time's up!! Good visual on that comment!

 

[DeaAphrodite]

I was talking in general about what is out there.

Why do you have to get personal?????

You could have written down your little sales speech without trashing others......

Trashing? What trashing?

 

[Hollybaby]

"I find it amazing that you would render judgement upon such a situation. Is an SP not allowed to have a man who loves her, whom she can come home to at the end of the day, whom she can love back? Does the 'business' she is in somehow negate the human need for genuine love and companionship in whatever form is comfortable for the couple?

Perhaps your question should not be directed towards the SPs in the business who are married, nor their husbands, but rather at yourself, so that you may figure out why you find this concept so disturbing."

Nicely put Nyx!

I completely agree. Some men and women simply aren't the jealous type, or they've gotten over their jealousy and can handle relationships where one or both partners aren't sexually monogamous. I know SPs who have boyfriends, but I also know women who aren't SPs that engage in open relationships with their partners. The key to this type of relationship is communication and clear boundary definitions.

There's nothing strange about SPs having husbands, or kids, or pet fish, whatever! We have lives, needs, feelings, just like everyone else.

If you find it strange, then use that feeling as an opportunity to question your assumptions about what a relationship should be and why. You might find it empowering.

(This comment has nothing to do with husbands being in the same house. It's only about the fact that SPs have husbands at all.)

 

[curmudgeon]

We (pooners) seem to have a strange set of rules/standards.

It's like "Okay, I need some action. I'll go to the bank, get my money, call an SP, set an appointment, and get my jollies". BUT, I can't enjoy it if the SP is married or has a boyfriend. And I won't like it if she "fakes" her enthusiasm with me. And I won't like it if I know there's been another pooner through here in the last 30 minutes before I arrived.

Is it just because knowing any of the above damages the fantasy of the experience?

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

Few years back now, I went to see an SP who had this room made up in her basement. Was basically a bed, a sofa, and a little bar fridge, with floor-to-ceiling curtains all around the room. The SPs hubby was somewhere behind the curtains, jugglin' the javelin during my session.
I gave that fucker some show.

 

[Randy Whorewald]

It never ceases to amaze me that you guys expect integrity in this business.

Who the phack are you talking about when you say "you guys"? You appear to have a silly habit of categorizing people (mostly men). If you have a problem with someone's post why not address your concerns towards that indiviual instead of tarring everyone with the same brush!!

 

[maverick73]

I've read all the responses and I think I will just have to agree to disagree on this one. I consider myself pretty open minded when it comes to swinging and stuff, but somehow this is just a bit different. I thought about this over dinner and although I respect people's choices and decisions, I still can't fathom how this could in any way be part of a "healthy marriage"... a broken marriage perhaps, but not a healthy one.

Perhaps somebody can help me realize why I have a problem with this... sp and bf no problem... sp and separated or divorced husband no problem... but sp and husband in supposed loving relationship... that is supposed to be the highest level of commitment... once a relationship is taken to that level, call me old fashioned, but certain professions like unnecessary whoring go out the window ... I use the word unnecessary since I suppose if people are desperate for money and love each other, whoring may be a temporary solution and the lesser of 2 evils... but in most circumstances, I just can't fathom it. To each his own I guess. I didn't think this thread would go past 1 page to be honest. Look at the can of worms I've opened ... don't let me stop you though... carry on.

 

[FuZzYknUckLeS]

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Perhaps somebody can help me realize why I have a problem with this... sp and bf no problem... sp and separated or divorced husband no problem... but sp and husband in supposed loving relationship... that is supposed to be the highest level of commitment... once a relationship is taken to that level, call me old fashioned, but certain professions like unnecessary whoring go out the window...

It's like the film "The Unbearable Lightness Of Being".
You either get it or you don't.

 

[maverick73]

It's not that I disagree with your assessment on the health of the relationship but the over-riding question is why should I care?

I mean many people here are married and seeing SP's, one could pretty much make a similar agrument about the health of their marriage as well.

I'm not asking anybody to "care"... I personally don't "care" what people do in their personal lives... it's none of my business. I just find it f$cked up... I mean, why not just stay bf and gf... why bother getting married if the woman is going to whore herself out... obviously, I don't think anybody goes into a marriage thinking their wife is going to be an SP, but I still can't fathom the idea... even after the midnight snack I just had. Like Fuzzy said, I'm in the "don't get it" parking lot...