loss!!

[johnsmit]

Lossing the ones you know. losing fathers ..mothers .. family.. and friends.. Some people you have just known for a short time. Other you may have know all your life..
But suddenly they are gone.. other get sick and you know they don't have long ..and then they are gone too.

Yes it is the ineviablity of life's journey. . death. comes to every one we have met. or will meet..and we may die befor them.. but age is not aways the deciding factor..
Usually the old die first.. my parents were 30 and 40 yrs older then me..I expected them to die.. I feared that they would die.. and leave me alone.. and they now have been gone one for the last 10 yrs.and the other just over a year.. I miss them..We all miss those that we once knew....There are many people that were part of my life fir 20..30.. 50 yrs that are gone. and in there place I made new friends..New accautances, young and old, may that live a life style to close to death .. others that have had a long life. and over come alot before I ever met them .yet I know their life is short..

I have never got use to death.. I embrace it as part of my life cycle..I will die. .I am 60 now.. could have any number of things in this aging body. Some are preventable .others treatable, and maybe I could live to 90 like my parents.. If is a comfortable life I would be greatful for the time .
If it is a he'll , no I probably would wish it to end.. But for now I am happy to live, to know the people I have in my life. and to meet new people.. and embrace new experiences.
Yet death is still there at every turn.. I fear that I will hear a friend has died or has been dead for a few weeks or month and I did not know.. Each day I hope that each one I love is safe from there own folly..or accident that abound around us.. and like wish for myself.

All though few would know if I was gone.. other then they can't get me on the phone and I have not answered their text..I have friend ..but none close.few know where I even live these days.
It's a strange existence we have with life and death..every thing we know and lover goes . how many pets have we had and lost.. buried in the back yard.. how many funerals have we gone to in our lives .of gand mothers and grad paws..of uncles and aunts..And all the friends of parents. and friends from school or work...We all have them .it part of living and reminds us of our own death.. How will it come, how will we be remembered after.Will we be missed ? Did we have any importance in others lives .It's something we only know when we are alive.. see what we have done.. have what we have done acknowledged by others. That the small mark we leave, maybe a note on a page, a work of some kind that may stand through time.. but few things do.

Death. I fear it's sting, not so much my own but feel the loss of those in my life..To not have their presents.

 

[Mclovinit604]

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.

Mary Frye, American poet (1904 - 2004)

 

[johnsmit]

interesting and very true..

I have spoken and walked with my my dad. a number of time in thd last 10 yrs.. Yes he is still near..As is my mother.. Some we miss more then others.. and visit often with them...
Some are the strangest dreams .. others times it to hash over old hurts. .or just yo comfort us in our loss..

I don't think death is the end of any ones existence .. we came from some where and this life was just part of the journey. .to where we are going.What we chose to retain from it or what lesson we learn will help.us in the next ..will help all in the next life..where or when that might be.

But it does not stop.the feeling or fear of loss.. It part of our culture to hang to the past to treat the dead as if they are still alive..
That is evident in how we treat famous people... presidents...pop ideas..actors. or even some that leaves an impression on a camunity. .weather in life or death

The other day I was listening to one such idol..Elvis. and how they are preparing for his 80th birthday.. He has been dead for 35 yr... and we still watch so many of the movies of dead movie stars... documentries of the dead and forgothen. It means something to use..Our memories. But a number of generations done even know or care who these dead people are

 

[sevenofnine]

a different perspective,

I was I was going to say happy when my father died but it was just an end of a bad time a very bad time in my life, relief closure I dunno, but I was glad he was gone.

talking with my sp the other day,

the people closest to us bring us the greatest sadness.

but they can also can give us the greatest peace the simplest joy and pleasure.

You can't have one with out the other in my opinion. they go hand in hand.


life is about change, you need to keep changing and adapting with it or your lost.


I recently had a medical incident and could have died.
um don't wait till tomorrow to let those near to you know what they mean to you and you feel about them,

live life, meet it head on. but live your life not what you see on tv or your neighbor is doing do what you want and feel.
have the courage to grab what is important to
what is important to you.
not someone else.

if you don't well I think your a big chicken shit loser.