To me the real question here is about or collective fear of death.We all take risks all the time-some of us ride fast motor cycles, some of us sky dive and some engage in high risk sexual activity. One of the aspects of the high risk sexual activity seems to me to be that if we are not completly honest with ourselves and our other partners then they are also put at risk with out being able to make that decision for themselves. Also lets face it-all the men that write on this board and visit the SPs discussed here are connected in that we share sexual partners. Remember the AIDS poster from a few years back that pointed out that when you have sex with someone you have sex with all the partners that that person has ever had.There is some truth to this. So my suggestion is that instead of regret just look at who your partners are(us) and what you do and how you protect your self and others. Maybe assume that you are already dead and live-really live from that space and knowledge.





