Absolutely true man, any decision making done at both higher or lower level of dopamine, gonna cause big let down later.
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If that girl saw this thread she would die laughing. Holy shit people are delusional.
if there was no wallet involved, would you engage in the appointment?
I can probably count on one hand the number of SPs I have had such a deep connection with that the prospect of dating them was a real possibility.
Of that handful, maybe 3 the feelings were mutual and of those 3 Zero went anywhere.
So I would say enjoy the ride while it lasts, it can be intoxicating and very satisfying, but sadly except in rare circumstances, this is a temporary situation you are in.
Now if I see someone regularly it’s because we click, I find her attractive, and I trust her. I know we aren’t going to date each other.
Perhaps I have gotten cynical. I view the interaction as primarily transactional. If money was not involved would she still want to meet up? 99/100 the answer is no. So I keep it in perspective.
Of that handful, maybe 3 the feelings were mutual and of those 3 Zero went anywhere.
So I would say enjoy the ride while it lasts, it can be intoxicating and very satisfying, but sadly except in rare circumstances, this is a temporary situation you are in.
Now if I see someone regularly it’s because we click, I find her attractive, and I trust her. I know we aren’t going to date each other.
Perhaps I have gotten cynical. I view the interaction as primarily transactional. If money was not involved would she still want to meet up? 99/100 the answer is no. So I keep it in perspective.
I understand where thee ops coming from. In all the years that I've been in this hobby I've dated three sws and married one. If you're gonna go that route it's probably better when you're older or more mature cus when you're in your 20s most of the time your emotions are in the driver's seat. I'm still friends with those women that I dated and I never thought it was any different than dating a civilian. Just my two cents
Man, I love reading this .
That being said , yes completely agree with so much you said .
Jealousy is a very real thing .
Even the polyamory crowd who pride themselves on adhering to another mindset can occasionally run into challenges because their primary has met someone they also very much dig .
I watched a friend date a stripper , just like you said , he was younger at the time . But I also watched his life pretty much completely fall apart from all the emotional chaos he constantly experiences, from his jealousy over the guys watching her on stage caused .
I also watched another friend , male , in a LGBT marriage to a male sex worker , have a slow 12 month meltdown because he simply could not deal with the thought of his husband sleeping w dozens of clients . Both relationships of course , ended in disarray and one sided disfunction and the one partner going through extreme emotional roller coasters until eventually hitting utter depression after the inevitable split .
I also see it literally all the time with friends of mine . Friends who tend to be more conservative in nature , less “wild” if you will and very responsible in their lifestyle.
They will meet a women who is rebellious, dresses extremely fashionable ( as mentioned they would dress a little more conservative ) , loves to go out at night , very social , etc etc .
A lot of the times these women have blown my friends minds in bed , and I believe it is the very nature of the women’s personality that these guys are so attracted to .
I also believe in the cases I have witnessed, that the very nature of their opposite personality traits leads to the overwhelming chemistry between them .
In exactly 100% of the situations I have personally witnessed, eventually the guys start becoming insecure about their partner going out at night , socializing, the way the dress drawing too much attention and try and control these women . The very thing they were so attracted to . Once again , of course , it never lasts , cause these guys can’t handle it
in all these cases the guy wants a certain type of person so badly , cause they find them sexy as fuck, but when they land said person , they can’t handle it.
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I have read through much of this thread and it seems to delve mainly on the results/reactions of the intimacy that full service sex workers provide. That is all fine and well, because we are in the business
of providing certain intimacy and sex that you may lack, wish to experience, or learn from us, how to be a good lover in your life. For me, it's a win, win, because I too facilitate these factors into what I live
in my own personal world. We are all Human and although you MAY find something deeper and real with any genre of sex worker outside of a transactional affair, it is the trust and delivery of good service.
That is just the surface. Some of us providers are selfless and actually found a place within ourselves to extend more than just wet holes and believe within this industry how to be a true courtesan and also bring a fun,
lighthearted atmosphere to this industry. As well as interacting amongst these industry boards, whether paid, or not. Many of pooners and square folks remiss to see that we exist in a deeper realm of caring, sharing, frustration, anger etc.... Because of the blanketed stigma, stereotype and criminalized darkness that looms beyond what some of us truly provide.
My mantra to being an exceptional FSSW is bringing who I am to the table in regards to what I provide, my reputation and how I represent myself . I have also harnessed a brand to who Miss Lady Vanessa is and I run with it. I'm not looking to change lives, but if I can bring a change in how you live, laugh or make love.... it's the best compliment and I adore you. (*Best to date are these and will delete link very soon)
of providing certain intimacy and sex that you may lack, wish to experience, or learn from us, how to be a good lover in your life. For me, it's a win, win, because I too facilitate these factors into what I live
in my own personal world. We are all Human and although you MAY find something deeper and real with any genre of sex worker outside of a transactional affair, it is the trust and delivery of good service.
That is just the surface. Some of us providers are selfless and actually found a place within ourselves to extend more than just wet holes and believe within this industry how to be a true courtesan and also bring a fun,
lighthearted atmosphere to this industry. As well as interacting amongst these industry boards, whether paid, or not. Many of pooners and square folks remiss to see that we exist in a deeper realm of caring, sharing, frustration, anger etc.... Because of the blanketed stigma, stereotype and criminalized darkness that looms beyond what some of us truly provide.
My mantra to being an exceptional FSSW is bringing who I am to the table in regards to what I provide, my reputation and how I represent myself . I have also harnessed a brand to who Miss Lady Vanessa is and I run with it. I'm not looking to change lives, but if I can bring a change in how you live, laugh or make love.... it's the best compliment and I adore you. (*Best to date are these and will delete link very soon)
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Yes I have, even had the opportunity to take it past the escort/client relationship. The girls were young too ( early 20s ) and in was in my 30s though i looked younger.. I didn't follow through because the thought of a future with any women makes me cringe. I don't love them ho's.
I would have to agree, that makes total sense . Even in civilian life women constantly have to be on the look out for guys unwelcome behaviour, including guys becoming obsessed w them when there are no residual feelings returned.
I know this because I speak to women all day at my work.
Thus, that’s why you have the common misconception that a guy thinks a certain woman has RBF syndrome. But the truth is she’s likely had a bad experience that caused her to feel she has to behave that way as a pre emptive defence Mechanism.
Men think women can be cold when they break it off , but that’s because if they leave any room for him to think there’s a chance , some obsess and won’t leave her the fuck alone .
In the worst cases , even just a polite smile directed in the wrong direction can lead to a guy blowing a whole thing up in his mind and thinking she’s into him.
If thats the case in civi life , imagine being a sex worker.
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Or were they well meaning propositions. As in 800 requests by someone wanting to eat her ass?
I’ve been seeing sugar babes the past 3-4
Months (mostly plutonically) to try and form more of a connection rather than pure sex. Bonita at AF is the last escort I saw back in February. I also started seeing a Counsellor the past couple months to try and retire from this hobby. I thought I was making progress. I deleted a few contacts, told some online friends about my problem, and deleted a sugar app and tinder. But I didnt want to go cold turkey and decided I’d follow through on a few promising sugar leads. I met up with a young Latina that I had previously met for sushi and a shopping date. We had mind blowing sex at an Airbnb for more than 2 hours. It has been very hard to get her out of my head. I told her after I didn’t want to see her or talk to her too often to minimize feelings. But I’ve thought about her every day since.I’ve also been talking to and meeting more women through dating apps to distract myself. It’s a paradox for me. I sought a sugar babe for more connection, found it , and now feel I need to see her less and others more. I’ve been making a deliberate effort to spend more time
and do more things with family, including my wife. Either I retire completely or return to escorts once a month. Not sure which option I’ll pick. Continued counselling and maybe trying group therapy might help me.
Months (mostly plutonically) to try and form more of a connection rather than pure sex. Bonita at AF is the last escort I saw back in February. I also started seeing a Counsellor the past couple months to try and retire from this hobby. I thought I was making progress. I deleted a few contacts, told some online friends about my problem, and deleted a sugar app and tinder. But I didnt want to go cold turkey and decided I’d follow through on a few promising sugar leads. I met up with a young Latina that I had previously met for sushi and a shopping date. We had mind blowing sex at an Airbnb for more than 2 hours. It has been very hard to get her out of my head. I told her after I didn’t want to see her or talk to her too often to minimize feelings. But I’ve thought about her every day since.I’ve also been talking to and meeting more women through dating apps to distract myself. It’s a paradox for me. I sought a sugar babe for more connection, found it , and now feel I need to see her less and others more. I’ve been making a deliberate effort to spend more time
and do more things with family, including my wife. Either I retire completely or return to escorts once a month. Not sure which option I’ll pick. Continued counselling and maybe trying group therapy might help me.
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I’ve heard good things about sex addicts Anonymous, not all but mostly men ( despite what you see in hollywood ) . Women w similar addiction tend to end up in the love addicts Anonymous apparently.
thats tells you a little something right there.
I am always amazed at the wisdom in Luciferlyn comments's and can't help imagining what it would be like to meet in person. maybe one day.
