Let's make a deal...

[georgebushmoron]

i think it works both ways. everybody wants to be paid top dollar for what they do but unfortunately for this industry you have good customers, bad customers, top notch providers, and some women who think that once they open their legs they are entitled to an hours pay whether they smile or snarl. i think there are women who are worth every penny and then some that should be banned from being sp's because their attitude stinks.

there are some who will quote higher than going rate to a newbie just because they think they will get it. when men realize that all they had to do was ask for a better rate and they would have gotten it, they remember that for the next sp. and as much as this sounds racial, it's predominantly the amp's that will continue the bargaining system. life gets rough when you are the kind of person who doesn't like to bargain but it exists because there are many who put up with it.

There's nothing wrong with what you have said here. I have singled out your comment above HeMadeMeDoIt's only because your's is more eloquent (and I don't like talking directly to those who use brutish words anyway). Your perspective seems to be that sex is a commodity, is it not? If that is the case, then it can be bargained for like a sack of rice - with neither sellers nor buyers taking too much personal offense and each trying to maximize their economies over the other.

It's just not the way I see it.

 

[tonyb]

I get asked to lower my professional services consulting rate all the time. Generally I say a polite "no", and expain that I would be doing a dis-service to some of my best clients if I did that. However, once they have agreed to my rate, I promise to deliver excellent service, and if I choose to spend more time on them than they are paying for, that's my perogative. We're both pleased, and I don't have to deal with clients who don't value my abilities, service and professionalism.

Raise your rates, Girls, and cut out the riff-raff.

 

[curvy_nympho]

to mr imrokhaard

I didn't go into detail with my initial post about the whole conversation with this potential client. I didn't talk about the tone of voice, impatience and pushiness involved. I have no problem finding a solution that works for both parties, but when I set a boundary that I have repeated a few times, then I have a problem with it.

I definitely think that smart business people know how to negotiate and also how to provide excellent service as well as reward loyal clients. I think my reviews speak for themselves about what kind of service I offer and why I have so many repeat clients.

As far as getting emotional about these things, I guess I do sometimes. I don't do this as my primary source of income. It is part of my fantasy world. In my fantasy, I want to make connections with clients, not just feel like a piece of meat.

It's a fine balance between pleasure and business for me.

You definitely made some valid points, but I do feel like this is a very intimate and personal "transaction" and thus, emotions are involved for some of us.

Bella