I have feelings for a girl I met just before Christmas. It wasn't love at first site, but I have grown to admire her. I tell that I love her and she tells me not to say that. I show as much affection as I can and she doesn't push me away. She says she won't date me. I cannot give up on her; she has a piece of my heart. I don't know what else to do cause I don't want to screw things up. Melancholy bliss
In Love with an SP
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Wow dude, you're totally screwed. Not because she's an sp but because you have feelings for someone that doesn't share those same feelings. And if you continue pushing these unwanted feelings, you could soon be getting a phone call from law enforcement. You can man up and leave her alone or you can learn yourself a very tough lesson. Hope it works out for you.
You should've only said "I lust you". That's non-scary. Keep the love to yourself till she's feeling the same thing. You've blown it!
Have you not read any of the love advice here on perb? Women want what they can't have! Not a guy dumping money on them to have sex with. Sorry just have a good cry about it and move on.
I had a 4 month crush on a lady recently, I gave her my number, she never called or texted me. Took me a few days to give up the dream. You can do it too.
I had a 4 month crush on a lady recently, I gave her my number, she never called or texted me. Took me a few days to give up the dream. You can do it too.
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Incredible Markus. You need to get away from her and give her up before you become her stalker. The SP is clear when she asked you not to use the "love" word on her. And before you make her your obsession you need to move on because it's a slippery slope you are on. Your love isn't real, it's just lust. Back a cat into a corner and you end up getting scratched.
She made it pretty clear by telling you not to say the L word, and that she won't date you. You met her just before Christmas and your in love that fast, like Pierre said its more lust. If you haven't screwed up things with her by being to forward you may still be able to continue a good sp/client relationship(AND JUST THAT!).
Side note: I've been into an sp and still am. Went awhile without talking to her cause she retired and recently reconnected with her. She's still retired and now in a relationship so I had to move on(also turned me off cause her bf if twice her age). I still talk to her as she still wants to have "fun time." Is it wrong if I see her knowing she has a boyfriend?
Side note: I've been into an sp and still am. Went awhile without talking to her cause she retired and recently reconnected with her. She's still retired and now in a relationship so I had to move on(also turned me off cause her bf if twice her age). I still talk to her as she still wants to have "fun time." Is it wrong if I see her knowing she has a boyfriend?
To ladies who partake in this industry....its a biz to them and nothing more! Me wise....not once have I ever felt any emotion to them. At least not that kind of emotion anyway. Maybe in a caring / friendship kind of way only. And with those, I have had repeats, kept in touch with them via text and call .....right up until their retirement. So, it wasn't a simple hi and see ya around kind of thingy with them.
I guess inside, I'm stronger than I once thought. Must be age
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To the O.P, many here have responded with experience and smart advice. I would take it in. That word should be use with someone who feels the same as you. If it's a one way street.....a recipe for disaster in the works. We're just looking out for you kiddo
I guess inside, I'm stronger than I once thought. Must be age
. To the O.P, many here have responded with experience and smart advice. I would take it in. That word should be use with someone who feels the same as you. If it's a one way street.....a recipe for disaster in the works. We're just looking out for you kiddo
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I think it is important to point out that you are not in love with HER. You are in love with a little piece of her.
I am not doubting that you love the aspects of her that you know. However, if you have not dated her (or at the very least taken her on trips that were multiple days long) then you really don't KNOW her. You know either her persona (or for those of us who don't have a persona, then you know an idealized/on her best behaviour version of her).
It is really easy to put your best face forward for a few hours at a time. This is what we all do to allow our suitors the experience they deserve as they step out of the real world for some genuine TLC. You get our undivided attention when you arrange for a liaison. The focus is you. We are attentive, caring, loving and genuine. We are not distracted by our personal day to day life. But that is not possible to maintain 24/7.
As much as it pains me to say, my suitors get treated far better than the people in my personal life do. Those in my personal life get all the awesome stuff too.....but they also get all the crap. When I'm having a bad day/week/month.....they know it!
I don't believe you were wrong in telling her you love her. I believe we should always be comfortable and free with expressing our emotions. However, I really believe that you have taken the few pieces that you know about her (which I am sure are genuine), but then filled in all the blanks with your own fantasy of what you would like her to be....or think she could be based on the slice of her that you do get to see.
What are her hopes and dreams? What does she believe happens after death? What is her greatest fear? What brings her the greatest joy? How is her relationship with her family? What is her personal creed? What organizations does she belong to, and how much time each week does she spend with them?
I'm guessing that you don't know the answers to most of those questions - at least not in great depth.
I'm just trying to let you see that you are not really in LOVE with her. Infatuated ~ quite likely.
More likely - you are in love with the way you feel about yourself when you are with her.
I am not doubting that you love the aspects of her that you know. However, if you have not dated her (or at the very least taken her on trips that were multiple days long) then you really don't KNOW her. You know either her persona (or for those of us who don't have a persona, then you know an idealized/on her best behaviour version of her).
It is really easy to put your best face forward for a few hours at a time. This is what we all do to allow our suitors the experience they deserve as they step out of the real world for some genuine TLC. You get our undivided attention when you arrange for a liaison. The focus is you. We are attentive, caring, loving and genuine. We are not distracted by our personal day to day life. But that is not possible to maintain 24/7.
As much as it pains me to say, my suitors get treated far better than the people in my personal life do. Those in my personal life get all the awesome stuff too.....but they also get all the crap. When I'm having a bad day/week/month.....they know it!
I don't believe you were wrong in telling her you love her. I believe we should always be comfortable and free with expressing our emotions. However, I really believe that you have taken the few pieces that you know about her (which I am sure are genuine), but then filled in all the blanks with your own fantasy of what you would like her to be....or think she could be based on the slice of her that you do get to see.
What are her hopes and dreams? What does she believe happens after death? What is her greatest fear? What brings her the greatest joy? How is her relationship with her family? What is her personal creed? What organizations does she belong to, and how much time each week does she spend with them?
I'm guessing that you don't know the answers to most of those questions - at least not in great depth.
I'm just trying to let you see that you are not really in LOVE with her. Infatuated ~ quite likely.
More likely - you are in love with the way you feel about yourself when you are with her.
I agree Tim - but I think it's one of those things that you have to have a mindset going in to. It's called "GFE" for a reason, the 'E' is an experience, as in fantasy. Guys that get hooked emotionally are usually suckers IMO (sorry). I'm also not sure if you can "fall" for someone that has the next guy on his way shortly afterwards. If you are looking for true love, best not to start in the escort world.
A tough one,
But listen to what she says, there is volumes in those words don't tell me you love me,
listen to that,
I think this is the wrong place for love, but yet you know it happens.
you shouldn't listen to people who tell you what you feel, only you know what you feel.
But when she says don't tell me you love her she is saying don't love her,
she is uncomfortable with your feelings, but yet takes your money instead of telling you go elsewhere,
I don't really see this ending well
as a guy who has gone down that road of feelings with an sp, and still is,
my advice,
listen to every word that comes out of her mouth, take it as real take it to the bank, unless you think she is lying to you then you run, if she says no then its no,
and she is telling you no.
But listen to what she says, there is volumes in those words don't tell me you love me,
listen to that,
I think this is the wrong place for love, but yet you know it happens.
you shouldn't listen to people who tell you what you feel, only you know what you feel.
But when she says don't tell me you love her she is saying don't love her,
she is uncomfortable with your feelings, but yet takes your money instead of telling you go elsewhere,
I don't really see this ending well
as a guy who has gone down that road of feelings with an sp, and still is,
my advice,
listen to every word that comes out of her mouth, take it as real take it to the bank, unless you think she is lying to you then you run, if she says no then its no,
and she is telling you no.
The reality is she doesn't want to date you for whatever reason. Maybe she already has a bf, did you think about that?
It's ok to care and love someone because that is just human nature but when someone says they aren't interested then you should take the hint.
It's ok to care and love someone because that is just human nature but when someone says they aren't interested then you should take the hint.
