Also a bit of info for people who never gave it a thought, if you are taking anti inflamtion medication, Perscribed or otherwise(Robaxicet), it will also make it dificult to maintain or even get an erection, high caffeen drinks will also play a part in erectile dysfunction, so try to avoid stuff like that especially before your intended playtime.
ED is not a big problem since there are many ways to address it.
Firstly, as many have written, find ways to reduce stress and worry in your life, improve your diet, cut back on the alcohol, and stop smoking (if you do now), and see what happens. Also, ask your doctor to send you to blood clinic to test your testosterone level. Your level may be normal for a 40 y.o., but lower than that of a 30 y.o. If your level is lower than that of a 30 y.o., ask Doc for a prescription for testosterone cream, and buy it from a compounding pharmacy... way cheaper than the packaged stuff. Apply daily and a lot of energy, sexual drive and resilience is restored.
If there is still ED after a couple of months, don't sweat it because the stats are 40% of men over 40 experience ED. So you are normal; and just what's the point about being despondent in being normal? Get the stereotype garbage pycho-babble out of your head, friend.
There are at least three oral medications for ED, all of which work for most men. If the pills lose effect over time, one bumps the dose to regain a hard one.
If the pills do not work at all, there are still two non-surgical medication options remaining... actually at less per use cost than the pills. You can PM me about these if you are interested.
If nothing else works, there is the surgical solution.... a relatively rare circumstance.
There is another side to all this. Having to use a helper, also means that you might have some difficulty in getting to an end quickly, and that can actually mean a prolonged session and a lot more feeling and pleasure and fun. I dated an SP whose attitude was pretty much that she would work on getting it down, I had to get it up. There a few ones like that around. But with these chemical assists, the instruction sheet says stimulation is needed, that in erection doesn't just happen. So I realized that the former SP was out, and had to look for a new one with a more understanding approach. Found a couple whose attitude was entirely different, and they are excellent stimulators. I take the pill a while before the visit, and so the drug is in full effect when the SP is met, and with her help we get things up. Now, here is the better part. Often I find that while the drug gives a tremendous hard member, it doesn't always mean a very quick end. Am almost convinced that it slows things down as far as reaching the climax. So what that has resulted in is prolonged, quite prolonged fore play. Fabulous, as the feeling of having it go on for the better part of an hour is just wonderful. Now, a while ago, it came to my attention that if I had sex too often, I couldn't come with out a few days in between, so I decided to entice a couple of my playmates into a prolonged visit to my condo on different evenings. One came for an overnighter, an older Asian gal in her early 50's who looked more like 35. But she loved DFK, FS, BBBJ, and I managed to hold off finality for almost three hours. Over those three hours of non stop love making, we had a fabulous event, as it was mutual and so enjoyable. However in the fray, we wore each other out and fell asleep without me reaching success. Didn't matter, I have always found that the Asian community love sex first thing in the morning, and on arising, she provided the most fabulous BBBJ before breakfast. You could say this was an evening of total satisfaction topped with a morning dessert. But think of it, four hours of pretty well continuous action. Think of a BBBJ that is non stop for two hours, think of it. Think of falling asleep with an SP cuddled up as close as her breast will let her, falling asleep with her tongue in your mouth. Fabulous!
But a couple of nights later, decided to invite another Asian SP over but she had time limitations so we agreed on four hours. This SP was 32, a bit above my usual limit of 25, but having blown that concept with grandma above, I wasn't being fussy. Pleasure was the now the game of the day. Now, it was uncertain to know if the chemical fix was going to work on such short interval, but decided to give it a try. So my 'friend' arrived late evening, and we got right down to work. Now her and I had met several times in a different venue, and usually successful at the intent. So she didn't question her skills of dealing with me. But this was a night not to be for a completion, and she felt quite concerned and dedicated to making it happen. Again, the action went on for 3.5 hours of BBBJ, DFK, DATY and so on, it was fabulous. There wasn't a moment that we both had our lips still, some one was always engaged somehow. Was I sore at the end, nope, she was as gentle as a lamb's wool, and a wonderful mate. She apologized for not making it happened, and left with me just so happy.
What this all cost me? Well for the two evenings, I have change from a $1000 total. No, not a $1000 per evening, half that. So much intimacy, and fun. And all thanks to some good chemical mixture from our favouite drug company.
What gets me is when i look at these ads for local Causcian gals for an evening worth thousands of dollars, at get told that is a one off or not more than three times, or not more than an hour or two, and sleep is the rest of the time, forget them. I've changed ethnic loyalities.
What was also interesting is how the elder Sp told me about a couple of Sp friends her age who had made deals with older guys to go live with them, quit the business, and inherit their house or part of the estate in turn for that. Great way to go I guess, but not there yet for me. But there is another side to all this shaping up, Asians for old guys!
Am I embarrassed about having to take a pill, know what, I am almost glad, look at how it has worked out. Now as long as the heart holds up...
But a couple of nights later, decided to invite another Asian SP over but she had time limitations so we agreed on four hours. This SP was 32, a bit above my usual limit of 25, but having blown that concept with grandma above, I wasn't being fussy. Pleasure was the now the game of the day. Now, it was uncertain to know if the chemical fix was going to work on such short interval, but decided to give it a try. So my 'friend' arrived late evening, and we got right down to work. Now her and I had met several times in a different venue, and usually successful at the intent. So she didn't question her skills of dealing with me. But this was a night not to be for a completion, and she felt quite concerned and dedicated to making it happen. Again, the action went on for 3.5 hours of BBBJ, DFK, DATY and so on, it was fabulous. There wasn't a moment that we both had our lips still, some one was always engaged somehow. Was I sore at the end, nope, she was as gentle as a lamb's wool, and a wonderful mate. She apologized for not making it happened, and left with me just so happy.
What this all cost me? Well for the two evenings, I have change from a $1000 total. No, not a $1000 per evening, half that. So much intimacy, and fun. And all thanks to some good chemical mixture from our favouite drug company.
What gets me is when i look at these ads for local Causcian gals for an evening worth thousands of dollars, at get told that is a one off or not more than three times, or not more than an hour or two, and sleep is the rest of the time, forget them. I've changed ethnic loyalities.
What was also interesting is how the elder Sp told me about a couple of Sp friends her age who had made deals with older guys to go live with them, quit the business, and inherit their house or part of the estate in turn for that. Great way to go I guess, but not there yet for me. But there is another side to all this shaping up, Asians for old guys!
Am I embarrassed about having to take a pill, know what, I am almost glad, look at how it has worked out. Now as long as the heart holds up...
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Well, I'm 50 and I need to have sex every one to two days or I get a hard on that wakes me up in the night and says 'feed me'. I'm married to someone whose idea of an excessive sex life is doing it both saturday and sunday in a week. As a result I have 'shopped around' a lot and sometimes wish that I could take a pill to shut me down as this has got me into more trouble than shopping for the wife's clothes. I guess the message that comes out in this thread is that losing the ability doesn't mean you have lost the desire; that must be very difficult to deal with. At least science has provided you with a way to achieve your needs. I'm still waiting for my off switch 
