The number of bad reviews of lower-end SPs may not prove that others give better service… but they certainly show quite a few pooners are walking away moderately, or even severely, disenchanted.
Looking back on less than effervescent sessions I’ve had, I ask myself: what could I have done better? When I read complaint-filled reviews, it’s always with an eye to detecting what I might do differently in the same situation.
Well, here’re a few “pooning guidelines” I’ve set myself (apart from the obvious: don’t look scruffy, smell clean, have cash ready, etc.) I’m a bit hesitant to share this because pooning styles are so highly individual— there’s no suggestion here that the same recipe works for everyone.
1. Let enough time pass after each encounter. As a friend recently said, “If you do it too often, you’ll enjoy it less.” Give my motivation a chance to recharge, so my emotions can focus on a new person with appreciation for the gift of her uniqueness. And hold expectations lightly—except to believe she sincerely WANTS to do a good job.
2. Warm her up first. Invest some time breaking the ice, to defuse fears she may have and get her in a more relaxed, trusting mood. For me, too, a bit of human rapport is important to unlock the flow of libidinal energy. Spend the first 10 minutes or so on friendly chitchat, perhaps a little dancing and singing, and only very gentle touching with a slow hand. I like stockings; I let her choose between brown and black ones (they always pick the black). I also bring my own CD player with my favorite soft music to sing along to.
3. Take charge of the session. After the warm-up phase be strongly directive, take initiative to move the session along, channel her efforts—though of course without forcing anything.
What I’ve noticed is that sometimes—actually quite often—a reviewer describes buying passively into an SPs routine, “…and then, after 15 minutes of lame massage, she flips me over, does 5 minutes of this, another 5 boring minutes of that, and it all felt very mechanical.”
Surely a pooner needs to take responsibility for steering an SP toward what turns him on (except on visits to a dominatrix). Sex generally is about one person dominating, the other yielding; generally, the spark of erotic energy will be stronger, for evolutionary reasons, if the male does the dominating, the woman the yielding. I feel women generally—and that goes for SPs too—like a guy more who shows some hardnosed determination to go after what he wants, rather than a compliant wax-in-their-hands softy who is passive or wants most of all to please them.
4. Make this an experience about boosting HER self-esteem. Think affectionate thoughts and express warm feelings for the lady you’re with, regardless of looks (or cocksucking expertise)—even if she doesn’t fit any stereoptype of near-perfection. Focus on what’s nice about her appearance and service, and ignore imperfections as much as possible. I’d like her to come away from this experience with her self-esteem strengthened, her mood buoyed by the thought: “He really enjoyed me—I must be a desirable woman.” I think a man’s obvious enjoyment of her sexual allure brings out the best in most women.
These guidelines seem to stand me in good stead. Maybe nothing works with some SPs who’re jaded, distancing, unreasonably safety-obsessed—but for me, they seem to work with those whose hearts are open to men, and whose motives are the right mix of goodwill, insecurity, sexual aliveness and sufficient money-mindedness to want me to come back.
But clearly I've a lot to learn, and I'm open to ideas.
Looking back on less than effervescent sessions I’ve had, I ask myself: what could I have done better? When I read complaint-filled reviews, it’s always with an eye to detecting what I might do differently in the same situation.
Well, here’re a few “pooning guidelines” I’ve set myself (apart from the obvious: don’t look scruffy, smell clean, have cash ready, etc.) I’m a bit hesitant to share this because pooning styles are so highly individual— there’s no suggestion here that the same recipe works for everyone.
1. Let enough time pass after each encounter. As a friend recently said, “If you do it too often, you’ll enjoy it less.” Give my motivation a chance to recharge, so my emotions can focus on a new person with appreciation for the gift of her uniqueness. And hold expectations lightly—except to believe she sincerely WANTS to do a good job.
2. Warm her up first. Invest some time breaking the ice, to defuse fears she may have and get her in a more relaxed, trusting mood. For me, too, a bit of human rapport is important to unlock the flow of libidinal energy. Spend the first 10 minutes or so on friendly chitchat, perhaps a little dancing and singing, and only very gentle touching with a slow hand. I like stockings; I let her choose between brown and black ones (they always pick the black). I also bring my own CD player with my favorite soft music to sing along to.
3. Take charge of the session. After the warm-up phase be strongly directive, take initiative to move the session along, channel her efforts—though of course without forcing anything.
What I’ve noticed is that sometimes—actually quite often—a reviewer describes buying passively into an SPs routine, “…and then, after 15 minutes of lame massage, she flips me over, does 5 minutes of this, another 5 boring minutes of that, and it all felt very mechanical.”
Surely a pooner needs to take responsibility for steering an SP toward what turns him on (except on visits to a dominatrix). Sex generally is about one person dominating, the other yielding; generally, the spark of erotic energy will be stronger, for evolutionary reasons, if the male does the dominating, the woman the yielding. I feel women generally—and that goes for SPs too—like a guy more who shows some hardnosed determination to go after what he wants, rather than a compliant wax-in-their-hands softy who is passive or wants most of all to please them.
4. Make this an experience about boosting HER self-esteem. Think affectionate thoughts and express warm feelings for the lady you’re with, regardless of looks (or cocksucking expertise)—even if she doesn’t fit any stereoptype of near-perfection. Focus on what’s nice about her appearance and service, and ignore imperfections as much as possible. I’d like her to come away from this experience with her self-esteem strengthened, her mood buoyed by the thought: “He really enjoyed me—I must be a desirable woman.” I think a man’s obvious enjoyment of her sexual allure brings out the best in most women.
These guidelines seem to stand me in good stead. Maybe nothing works with some SPs who’re jaded, distancing, unreasonably safety-obsessed—but for me, they seem to work with those whose hearts are open to men, and whose motives are the right mix of goodwill, insecurity, sexual aliveness and sufficient money-mindedness to want me to come back.
But clearly I've a lot to learn, and I'm open to ideas.
