How far should a parent's approval of a daughter's choice of escort work go?

[tantalizeme]

Thanks for mind-opening input

I think it's pretty clear from my posts over the years, the statements on my website, and the fact that I've been involved in this industry for 7 years that I enjoy this job and I'm here by choice. I find this job interesting and rewarding on many levels. I don't consider this job to be fundamentally damaging in any way. I consider escorting to be a job with pros and cons just like any other job.

But if you disagree with me, and you think this job is much worse than other jobs, that it's horrible, that it's damaging, and if it would disturb you to know that your daughter was involved in this work, then I really and truly don't understand how you can see escorts, because we are all someone's daughter.

I came out to my parents pretty soon after I started working and mostly because one of my anti escort "friends" outed me. It cost me my relationship with my father (2+ years without a word now) and his family.

I love what I do and what I can offer, I don't feel wounded because of this profession (in fact it's probably been more healing than anything) and if someone who supposedly loves and cares about me can't see past the stigma or hear my perspective, well sorry, but I'm not changing.

Most of us pooners—myself included—rarely reflect on the price many SPs have paid in terms of strained or broken family ties. And it's so tragically needless, the result of parents' warped attitude toward sex.

What I know about Holly Taylor and Miss Lux (mostly from their posts and reviews) makes me think I'd be very proud to have daughters like them.

I agree with Holly: pooners who'd go ballistic if their own daughter became an SP are the ultimate hypocrites. They're walking self-contradictions.

On the one hand, such pooners have deeply internalized the anti-sex messages from religious and other sources during their upbringing; on the other hand, they can't resist perfectly normal male desires for sex with a variety of highly attractive women and satisfy these desires in the only feasible way—by visiting escorts.

Several SPs mentioned they got less understanding from their dads than their moms. Interesting.

Just like men with subconscious homosexual proclivities often try to deny these proclivities to themselves by becoming gay bashers, so I suspect fathers are often more hostile toward a daughter's escorting work, precisely because they're afraid of their own deepest sexual impulses and project inward fear or shame outward onto sex workers in the form of hatred and contempt.

 

[tantalizeme]

Intriguing line of thought

That's why if you ask how far a parent's approval of a daughter's choice for prostitution should go, the answer is: as far as the educators want to take it - and the parents will eventually fall into line.

So if the educators start telling kids that prostitution is a viable career choice, by the time the kid graduates from school 12 years later, the parents will be supporting it right to the point of paying for bachelor degrees in prostitution offered at the local community college. Prospective employers will say, "so.... you have a prostitution degree specializing in ass fucking, with honors? That's a tough degree to get young lady. You're hired!"

Hey brother JC,

You've provided some articulate input here—though half the time I'm unsure whether you're serious or satirical.

I agree, educators have the power to change society, and most of them certainly seem to favour equal rights for homosexuals. But I'm less sanguine they'll be in the forefront of promoting the rights of pooners and sex workers anytime soon.

Teachers associations tend to be hotbeds of political correctness. A teacher who says things like "There's nothing wrong with promiscuity if you practice safe sex" or "There's nothing wrong with students over 18 financing their education through sex work" will probably find himself out of a job in short order.

I wonder, in our current education system, to what extent sex work is even discussed in remotely positive terms. Most of what I read about schools is that they push prudery under the smokescreen of "social justice" and "non-objectification of women." I wonder if one main reason for this isn't precisely because many parents live in such mortal fear their daughters might explore lucrative escorting options.

So I see no prospect that colleges will offer bachelor degrees in prostitution anytime soon.

But there's definitely a need for erotic skills training. All the more reason why private entrepreneurs should get into the act and offer hands-on training in giving great BJs, doing painless Greek or polishing ACG skills, for both prospective SPs and interested civvies (both male and female).

The demand, in the dating scene, for grads of such training would vastly exceed supply, don't you think?

 

[tantalizeme]

Do I hope that my daughter will become an SP with it’s risks and in certain ways isolation? No. But if my daughter told me she was going to be an SP the only thing I could foresee us arguing about would be my role in it. I would insist on being her driver for outcalls and living in the apartment next door to her incall and on hand in the event of trouble. If I’m in good shape and strong I would always have a Bat and Duct tape during her calls in case of trouble. If I’m not able to physically overpower when required, the bat and tape become a gun and silencer.

Hey Lost,

You've amazing stories up your sleeve—and not only about picking up hotties in Japanese bars!

Impressive, the way you came to your sister's rescue when needed. And great that you'll always love your daughter(s) unconditionally.

But you say if a daughter of yours took up escorting, you'd insist on being her driver for outcalls and live in the apartment next to her incall??

Are you sure she'd be comfortable with this idea and thankful to daddy? Hope there's not too much noise coming through the wall from next door.

You're obviously full of fatherly solicitude. That's touching—but better give your daughters room to breathe and a sympathetic listen now and then, and tell them you'll always be there if they need you.

Or perhaps you can offer to put your budding escort daughter in touch with inspiring role models, like Holly Taylor?

 

[tantalizeme]

Tant...talking to ones kids about pooning is not much different than talking to them about what you do with your wife. It's on a "not need to know" basis. I doubt many people are interested in their parents sex lives.

My mom knew. I told her. I was the black sheep and she was just glad I wasn't on the streets. In her mind I was 'dating' with benefits. I never elaborated.

Hey mimi,

Thank you for your advice to talk about pooning to one's children only on a "'not need to know' basis."

In other words, you're saying a father should keep pooning activities just as secret from his adult kids as any kinkiness he may have enjoyed with their mother—because kids generally don't want to know about a parent's sex life.

I'm certainly not saying a father should spill out gory details about his sexcapades with SPs. But if the topic of prostitution comes up in conversation with his kids, I'd admire a man who makes no bones about his support for total decriminalization and destigmatization of commercial sexual activities between consenting adults.

This may even be a good time to come out and admit, as a healthy but aging male he kept his sex life going after the divorce from their mom with the help of a certain SP named mimi, who was terrific.

How is a father's secrecy about pooning different from a daughter's secrecy about escorting?

Isn't this game of secrecy all part of a conspiracy of silence in our society about the extent to which most men simply can't find enough willing partners to satisfy their healthy sexual cravings and can only hope for a varied sex life with desirable women if they pay them?

 

[sevenofnine]

I kind of agree with most of the ladies comments.

I mean if you think being an escort is so terrible and couldn't stand if your daughter was one, how can you explain seeing one, if there all broke and dysfunctional then that makes you some kind of a predator doesn't it.

I think its more of a lifestyle or a very personal choice you make.

There are one or two girls in my family I would think being an escort would work for them. Maybe a smart move for them.
Other girls I know could never do it.

There is so much stuff going on with this hobby. I mean safety health concerns.
And I guess the pressure to get it while the going is good, being high volume and maybe doing sexual things your not comfortable with or put your health at risk.

Yeah there is a lot wrong with this hobby, Mostly because its kept in the dark behind closed doors I think.
Yeah and some people shouldn't be doing it.

But well anything can be abused right.

I have a daughter and its not her personality.
It wouldn't work for her.

But I do have family members, cousins etc. in all honesty if they were smart about it and careful its something they should most likely do to be honest, or have done at some point in their life. It would be the smart thing.

 

[sevenofnine]

Has any one considered,

That how you think about escorts in general,
is sort of just an extension of how you think about women in general and treat them.

After all is said and done an escort is simply a women doing a job providing a service. A natural human sort of service.
If you turn that into something dirty and disgusting or some how beneath you, I think that says a lot a hell of a lot about what you think of women in general. Perhaps people in general.

Just a thought.