Dirty talking is one thing, but I mean for romantic talk. Do you ever mention words like "like" or "love"? Or is the magical "I love you" strictly off limits? I wonder how far do you go for both client and SP end. And yes I understand it's strictly NSA but we can still love someone, or love multiple people, right?
How far do you go with sweet talking with a SP?
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I don't know how many times a day I fall in love, part of the problem of being a visual person. Maybe I'm confusing love and lust?
For me it is all about repeat visits and building a relationship with the SP's i visit . The relationships are obviously limited in many ways but ...still, a closeness and bond is achievable.
I usually tell my faves how much I love to be with them. I say it often, How appreciative I am for them letting me get so close to them. Is it real "Love"? As I explained to my #1 yesterday, she is my drug, she takes away my stress and pain, for 260 she gives me everything she has...for that i do love her, and the others that make me feel the same
I usually tell my faves how much I love to be with them. I say it often, How appreciative I am for them letting me get so close to them. Is it real "Love"? As I explained to my #1 yesterday, she is my drug, she takes away my stress and pain, for 260 she gives me everything she has...for that i do love her, and the others that make me feel the same
Is it wrong to say
"I love fucking you" or " I love your BJ" or " I love how you make me feel" etc in the heat of passion?
All pretty tame but it's still the L word. I'm fine with it
"I love fucking you" or " I love your BJ" or " I love how you make me feel" etc in the heat of passion?
All pretty tame but it's still the L word. I'm fine with it
Is it Love or is it Memorex? LOL! Showing my age here.
Paid dates have nothing to do with "love". The problem is we use the word in to many different contexts where
they don't belong.
Sure you can "love" her curvecraver for what she provides for you. But really it's not TRUE love.
On the topic of sweet talking sp's, If the girl is nice, fun loving, upbeat, happy and frolicky and likes to play
and is pretty, I complement her on her attitributes as much as I find is logical.
Use the Kiss theory. Keep it simple stupid and don't go overboard.
Think of it this way. How much do you enjoy the girl saying;
the "oh baby, you so good" "you so handsome" crap ???
.........................QM'r
Paid dates have nothing to do with "love". The problem is we use the word in to many different contexts where
they don't belong.
Sure you can "love" her curvecraver for what she provides for you. But really it's not TRUE love.
On the topic of sweet talking sp's, If the girl is nice, fun loving, upbeat, happy and frolicky and likes to play
and is pretty, I complement her on her attitributes as much as I find is logical.
Use the Kiss theory. Keep it simple stupid and don't go overboard.
Think of it this way. How much do you enjoy the girl saying;
the "oh baby, you so good" "you so handsome" crap ???
.........................QM'r
Not far. In general i don't encourage talking of any kind. Not that women need any.
There are other things i'd prefer the SP does with her tongue & mouth.
Cat baths. DFK. Body, face, neck, ears, balls, bum, lips & dick licking. 1,2,3,4 hr BBBJ. Tongue sucking.
Even cuddling or a massage in utter silence or with music.
Though sometimes i'm up for an interesting conversation or lending my ears to the SP's mind & heart.
At times, regardless of the content, i enjoy listening to the voice of a female. Though i don't need to pay to achieve this, let alone hundreds of loonies an hour.
It's when i'm horny & longing for the female *touch* that i seek out SP's. (So excessive chit chat can be frustrating & annoying). Otherwise wanking (fleshlights or sex dolls) does me good.
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Ever watch the movie Pretty Woman? In an early scene in the movie Edward orders some champagne and strawberries & Vivian replies "I appreciate this whole seduction thing you've got going on here, but let me give you a tip: I'm a sure thing"
I can't speak for all sex workers man, but all those I've known well (girlfriends or not) would NOT have wanted to hear that. It would have made them feel uncomfortable and after you left the session they'd have you blacklisted. If you want that as part of the role playing, then bring it up prior to the session and see if the woman offers it. Further, if you're falling in love with your fav escort (or escorts) you need to ask yourself what's behind that. GFE is very far from the real girlfriend experience.
No this is not about falling in love at all, but just SAYING the things. Or maybe falling in love, but with no strings attached at all, if you get what I mean.
In the past year, I said "I love you" in the heat of passion to probably a dozen SPs. It's a short way of expressing myself.
One of the first times I did it, a SP was taken aback. I then started to ask other SPs for permission before I say it, and they all had no issue. For SPs since, I mostly just say it without asking. I gauge my rapport with them.
For practically all of them and myself, it's understood (unspokenly) that the feeling is within the time/hour we spent together. I think some SPs hear that a lot, as they tell me it's absolutely fine.
I think there are different types of people. If you don't have a sense of how they might react, check/ask first. Otherwise, I myself say it when I have the desire.
One of the first times I did it, a SP was taken aback. I then started to ask other SPs for permission before I say it, and they all had no issue. For SPs since, I mostly just say it without asking. I gauge my rapport with them.
For practically all of them and myself, it's understood (unspokenly) that the feeling is within the time/hour we spent together. I think some SPs hear that a lot, as they tell me it's absolutely fine.
I think there are different types of people. If you don't have a sense of how they might react, check/ask first. Otherwise, I myself say it when I have the desire.
im honest, when im talking to my sp.
I don't really sweet talk her I tell her what I feel, what Im going through. how she makes me feel.
silly as hell actually,
but she appreciates it, I mean I speak from the heart no bull shit, and we go from there.
it works in a sense were close, did everything then some guys would define as closeness with an sp as in been to her house etc etc etc,
but you know I don't care about any of that. silly some guy said if your sp is your friend you will know where she lives and her real name.
I didn't for the longest time. and wondered about it, when I stopped wondering about silly things like that, they all seemed to happen.
I prefer to see her at her incall, but I have been to her houses, I don't care.
I think that is why I go have been to her house. it is because its no big deal and she trusts me.
speak from the heart, anything else is bs.
I don't really sweet talk her I tell her what I feel, what Im going through. how she makes me feel.
silly as hell actually,
but she appreciates it, I mean I speak from the heart no bull shit, and we go from there.
it works in a sense were close, did everything then some guys would define as closeness with an sp as in been to her house etc etc etc,
but you know I don't care about any of that. silly some guy said if your sp is your friend you will know where she lives and her real name.
I didn't for the longest time. and wondered about it, when I stopped wondering about silly things like that, they all seemed to happen.
I prefer to see her at her incall, but I have been to her houses, I don't care.
I think that is why I go have been to her house. it is because its no big deal and she trusts me.
speak from the heart, anything else is bs.
Sweet talking??? If she is your favorite regular, let her take the lead, otherwise the only sweet talking you should be doing with someone you just met is showing her some respect. The only sweet talking you should do is with a nice generous tip.
I think it depends on your maturity level, how much of an adult you are.
I remember the first time I was in love, I was all of sixteen I think, when it ended,
I can still feel my heart being wrenched from my body, nothing quite like it.
I was a basket case for quite a while but I suffered in silence never did anything stupid or outrageous, never even confronted the female I was involved with, suffered quite alone.
I think with all the nut cases out there, stalkers etc, a women has the right to feel concerned and take precautions,, but not everyone is like that. going to do something stupid or turn into a blithering idoit ,
I have never really understood why people are afraid of love or emotions.
its like the war hero said, if your not afraid your a fool. its what you do that matters.
I have embraced my emotions in this hobby, told my sp where I am always the good and the bad.
I thank her for having the courage to see me.
I don't believe emotions are wrong or bad, even strong emotions either way, its how you act on them or if you do at all. that is what makes the difference
I remember a shrink talking and one of the most important things a person can do to screw themselves up, is loose touch with reality, not know what is real or not.
I think this hobby is a big fantasy, and we enjoy it and love it, then come crashing down when we realize it was all not fucking real.
she actually doesn't even like me, she only wants my money, hates me actually despises me
is only a cheep gold digger.
what do you think is more harmful, spending a fortune and decades in this hobby, then realizing how much of a sucker you were the girls thought you were some kind of chump.
a women told me once we sell emotions as much as anything,
there was a guy out there wrote a book on the different kinds of love, or the different ways to express love, said people express love differently, felt love differently.
I think that is true. people feel love differently there behaviour there environment has taught them how to act, there genetic make up. leads them
I think we all feel the same things. somewhere deep in side of us. we let it out show it in different ways.
I kind of think shutting down emotionally is wrong locking emotions inside of you is wrong.
doesn't mean you turn into a blithering idoit whinning and fawning or possibly stalking someone,
you do that in quiet behind closed doors when the shit hits the fan then you move on.
god, im old, the few times I have been in love, real love.
its a nice feeling, I have no idea why people are so afraid of it.
yeah there is always an end. there is always bumps in the road, and shit to deal with.
I have a couple of friends that have never been in love so that I know, or even in a relationship, them seem so sad and almost pathetic, they have told me they envy me, my life, they
don't even know I have an sp on the side.
sure its not the intentions when you enter into this hobby to fall in love, or find someone, it sure as hell shouldn't be.
but as I grow older every where I have gone in life I have found someone.
it would seem strange to me, to be this long in this hobby and not have gotten close to someone.
the world is full of people. where ever I go, there is always someone I seem to be closer to then the next.
I don't think feeling that is wrong. how I act on that may or may not be wrong.
Polite, truthful, absolutely.
Perhaps the intimacy of the act which in most circles is reserved for those in an emotional relationship alters perception of what "love," truly is.
Either way, I suppose you could get as many responses as there are individuals.
Presumably as long as the sweet talk doesn't over step either participant's boundaries…..it's fine.
Perhaps the intimacy of the act which in most circles is reserved for those in an emotional relationship alters perception of what "love," truly is.
Either way, I suppose you could get as many responses as there are individuals.
Presumably as long as the sweet talk doesn't over step either participant's boundaries…..it's fine.
I think sevenofnine brought to light the very reality of what happens when two people share intimate moments...invariably feelings/emotions would naturally develop. Having these strong emotions are in no way exhibiting any weakness, they actually prove that you're very human. The problem occurs in the acting of that emotion, (and verbalizing your feelings to your SP is most definitely an act) now she's left holding your emotional weight and probably trying to figure-out how to balance what you two have just finished doing with what you have just told her. Putting that burden on someone who has just shared her body with you is grossly unfair...you get to lace-up your boots and go on with your regular life and she now has to rethink ever seeing you again. I get it. It's easy to get caught-up in that hour or two, but there's 23 more hours of normal that needs to be navigated. This is a tightrope of a hobby where roles and lines are blurred and trespassed, but it's dangerous to project the fantasy beyond the absurdity of the transaction.
There are so many different kinds of love. I have love for lots of my clients, and I often exchange "I love you" or "I adore you" without the connotation of deep romantic love. The bond an SP and client share is very intimate, and I don't find expressing that between the two of us to be off limits. The important thing is establishing boundaries. If your SP isn't into the "love" word, don't go there, just as with any other restriction.
