How Does One Feel Horny on Command?

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I may have to reconsider my spending and possibly SP choices as based on my recent SP visits, my chance of successfully maintaining an erection for FS or even finishing is well below 50%.

Can some experienced folks teach me how to be horny or at least stay aroused/erected? I would rather not use rubber bands all the time . Who ever said men always think with their little head? I can't, but want to, at least sometimes! LOL.

 

[island-guy]

A big part of it is to be with the right girl

And, if you're an old fart, talk to your doctor about viagra or cialis I guess.

 

[unclemickey]

Viagra or Cialis really does work but...

Viagra or Cialis really does work, but if you're thinking about whether or not you can get it up, it's really difficult and they won't help at all.

I've been a porn performer and producer for around 10 years and so I have had to deal with a lot of lack of wood issues on my shoots.

Really it's all about a little switch in your head that you can turn off or on. If you are looking at a really hot girl right there in front of you and she's all you can think about, you won't have a problem. But the minute that sliver of insecurity and doubt creeps into your mind, you're done.

I'm in my 50s now but I had a lot of problems in my 30s until I figured out that my problem was all just in my head.

 

[sevenofnine]

im not sure how old you are,
but when i was younger it was pretty much auto matic,
just the thought,

when i was older, less so,
but just a warm body next to me was enough

now im fifty somthing,
and in this hobby i have felt that switch, that someone mentioned.
guilt or somthing, i have kids girls a wife, a mother,
i had alot of issues with guilt in this hobby,

but was in pretty much a cold marriage, couldn't see myself going the rest of my life, without shall we say,

didn't want to go the divorce route, or have affairs.

and realized well there is women out there, that will take your money,

talked to a few of them emailed awhile.
met a lady got close to her, she told me it was ok
got to know her personally, it is a choice she makes,
pretty much a lifestyle choice, she likes the money the life it affords her,

some ladies are simply desperate, kids no man to support, no family, etc, booze drugs,
ya,

but some ladies, for what ever reason they don't fit into the nine to five routine, its easy money, affords them a certain standard of living,
i have met dancers like that, now some sp.s
some really nice ladies, actually,

so that feeling of guilt, is almost gone,

still have issuses sometimes,
but a nice warm body usually works,
tried cialus. it helps
but doing with out for as long as i can
im told it messes with you done the road, if you use it and don't need,

so talk to a lady get to know her,
look at her like a women not just a pussy,

 

[oppai]

I find I only have an issue when I book ahead. If I book last minute when I am really horny it seems to work much better.

 

[melissa.in.abby]

I may have to reconsider my spending and possibly SP choices as based on my recent SP visits, my chance of successfully maintaining an erection for FS or even finishing is well below 50%.

Can some experienced folks teach me how to be horny or at least stay aroused/erected? I would rather not use rubber bands all the time . Who ever said men always think with their little head? I can't, but want to, at least sometimes! LOL.

Server Error is a young man, and I was very happy to meet him as he is very nice, and cute to! I would suggest trying to stick with the same girl(s) the more you see them the more comfortable you will be and they will know what to do.

However make sure they are girls that turn your crank, and that you think you will really enjoy seeing repeatedly. I would also say you would benefit from an experienced lady who can take control.

I read you review of Ravishing Rebecca and she seemed like a great fit for you, so I am thinking maybe save your $$, poon less often but get higher calibre escorts like her.

Kisses, Melissa
xo

 

[sevenofnine]

interesting comments mellissa,

i would also suggest,
find a girl your own age, what your looking for,
willing to email, a couple times.
so you get to know her,
not all sps will talk
but most sp's if your sincere and geniune will talk to you answer your questions.

i would realy suggest mellisa.in.abby to be honest with you,
she seems like a hell of a sweetheart to me.
if she is kind of in the area of what your looking for
stick with her,

email her talk through it, tell her what you like, don't like, etc,
i just get that impression,
she will do whatever she can for you,

i would also suggest,
don't get overly close with an sp. i mean real close,

alot of things start to happen in your head,
when you get close to an sp.

been there done that,
but im an older guy,
i have been there done that several times.
not with an sp though other ladies, it gets easier with age,
and i suppose yes, once with an sp,

just save yourself some heart ache,
im not saying its a bad thing,
i don't regret it,

but your young, being close personally is tough with an sp.
trust me on that,
find a nice lady who is willing to talk you through things,
but keep moving.

like i said mellissa if she fits the bill stick with her,
she seems like she has a heart of gold

 

[melissa.in.abby]

like i said mellissa if she fits the bill stick with her,
she seems like she has a heart of gold

Aw... thanks... you are a charmer!

I wasn't happy with the fact I didn't take more control, it could have been better but we had a good time, and he is super nice and funny ... and the mission was completed

He is in Vancouver though, I think, so I am too far away to be his regular gal

 

[Sly Devil]

Physical fitness

Short term: Drink lots of water!

Long term: Get exercise namely cardio.

 

[littlejimbigher]

Short term: Drink lots of water!

Long term: Get exercise namely cardio.

A Urololigist I seen said similar things. Exercise increases the blood flow everywhere including the penis.

 

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Sorry if my post seems to be all over the place...

Thanks to all for their comments thus far.

Actually the 'switch' concept is interesting. The problem is that seeing a sexy, hot, beautiful girl in the nude in front of me doesn't excite me on its own, as I am too comfortable with nudity and find it completely natural. I honestly don't know what turns me on/off. I always talk to SPs and do my best to be respectful so there is at least some level of connection. However, I am aware that I am more aroused while making out/fooling around...

I have tried booking ahead and on a whim, but it doesn't appear to make a difference. I will try watching something before a session and see if it helps. Also, it's true I don't exercise very often...

I also notice that sometimes if I have an erection and let it subside (usually within a minutes or two), it is extremely difficult to get it up again. Does anyone else have similar experiences?

Melissa, you were very nice and funny just like me, if not more We had lots of fun moments--so much so that I had to stop laughing in order for there to be any hope of me 'finishing'. I'd definitely enjoy spending time with you when you are in town and hopefully you'll know what to do . Ravishing Rebecca was great, too, but, even with her, I had the same problem when seeing her for the 2nd time (FS had to be aborted about 5 minutes in, though she used a rubber band!). And because she is like 70 times further away than you and her donation much higher, she is less likely to be a regular for me.

But, it's not just about the destination; the journey itself could be at least as, if not more, important. I just would like to find out how to get to the finishing line when I want to--either with a digital GPS or an old-fashioned map

Any additional comments/advice are very much appreciated.

 

[nd1]

Aside from working out, two things that I believe will help are: sleep and diet.

Sleep deprivation leads to a lack of concentration and a foggy mind. The "switch" that is in our head works poorly in that kind of condition. Not only is it harder for the erotic image in front of one to hit home and flip that switch, even when the switch is flipped, it takes much longer for the message to get to what needs to get hard. So, get enough sleep before you go to work.

One of the factors for a lack of hardness is stress. When one is relaxed, it's easier to get wood; on the other hand, when one is nervous, especially about getting hard, hardness is harder to come along. A case in point is nocturnal erection. Food, especially carbohydrates, helps one relax. In fact, many times after loading up on carb at lunch, Mr. Woody would embarassingly stand to attention even with the slightest stimulation. So, don't do it with an empty stomach.

While doing the deed, try to do it in such a way that Mr. Woody has access to stimulation most of the time. Get some help from the partner. Work together. Think naughty thoughts.

 

[sevenofnine]

interesting comments actually,

a warm body next to me, is always enough,
but something i have noticed with age, is i like oral or a handjob better,
i just get more stimulation down there and things seem to work out better,

i have ofton wanted to try greek, just because its supposed to be tighter,
and i would be getting more feeling down there,
but ladies take one look at me and say no way, im to thick around.

there are some ladies out there who have bragged that they will pretty much take anyone or anything up there butt, but i haven't been down that road yet, don't know if i really want to.

so just curious, with a handjob or oral, how long can you maintain an erection,
and how much do you masturbate, i would stop completely,
and what fantasy do you use to masturbate,

i know in the age of porn. i used to jerk of constantly to playboy and penthouse.
i was working full time and school full time, girls just didn't fit in.

then when i made the switch to a real girl, it wasn't quite there to be honest with you, it took alittle bit to get my head changed from a fantasy girl, to a real life girl.
i know that sounds silly, but i remeber a documantary where guys were complaining about the same thing, they jerked off so much to a playboy centerfold, they couldn't do it with a real girl.

even when i took the first plunge into this hobby,
i have to admit, i had very limited experiance, only had sex with girls i had long term relationships, and we knew each other inside and out.

to hope into bed with a complete stranger was an entire different experiance for me.
and i still do much better with girls i repeat with and seem to have something in common.

i just saw the energizer bunny last night, and i was worried about performance and stuff, i didn't have any cialus.
and i think every time i saw her i had cialus, because i got used to it from one girl i saw long time and i seemed like i needed it.

but she met me at the door in this sexy little bikini, and we stood and kissed for a very long time. and she just had a very playful mood and we laughed all the way through. two shots on goal, one oral and one full service, and we were trying for three,

if and when the day comes when a pretty playful girl doesn't get me interested, it is time to get a box and plant me six feet under i tell you,

i don't know what your thinking what is going on in your head,
but i would say that is where your problem is, your living some fantasy in your mind, and here you have a real live girl in front of you,
but you still have your fantasy in your head,

my adivice, if you can afford it keep going, pretty soon, your mind will connect sex with the girl in front of you, not the fantasy in your head.
but its your dime,

 

[wess]

I may have to reconsider my spending and possibly SP choices as based on my recent SP visits, my chance of successfully maintaining an erection for FS or even finishing is well below 50%.

Can some experienced folks teach me how to be horny or at least stay aroused/erected? I would rather not use rubber bands all the time . Who ever said men always think with their little head? I can't, but want to, at least sometimes! LOL.

A friend of mine has the same problem but we figured it was a mental thing. He was thinking about it too much but it doesnt sound like thats your problem.

I can finish on demand.

 

[HB40]

If you dont' use it you lose it! So when you're not getting any with someone else, you gotta keep the fire stoked by stoking yourself regularly..
once a day is good!

Easy for you to say

 

[mclovin76]

try a hot pepper up your ass for a little bit, stimulates the blood flow

 

[Thatotherguy]

try a hot pepper up your ass for a little bit, stimulates the blood flow

OK, I've got to admit, usually I find your posts to be irritating, but I laughed so hard when I read this that I almost spat my drink all over my computer.

 

[LoveEmAll]

Funny!!

I can finish on demand.

LOL!

try a hot pepper up your ass for a little bit, stimulates the blood flow

LMAO!

Or for the more direct approach try some wasabi on the scrotum just before you knock on her door.


Thanks Boys, still chuckling to these ones!

 

[FortunateOne]

However, I am aware that I am more aroused while making out/fooling around...

Get her to do a sexy massage first, get the day's events out of your mind with chit chat while the body relaxes. Then the sexy massage part will stimulate the body after that. You should have better results.

I also notice that sometimes if I have an erection and let it subside (usually within a minutes or two), it is extremely difficult to get it up again.

Do NOT let it subside, if possible. When you get the erection, go for it immediately and cross that finish line NOW. If that means hj or bj instead of taking the time to slip on a condom for fs, then do it. Do your cuddle and fool around afterwards, it will be just as much fun without wondering whether or not you are going to maintain the erection to completion.

And I agree that you should find someone you like and stick with her for several visits to see what happens. I think you will find that this is the road to success.

 

[mclovin76]

my technique is once i make out and i feel it slightly move , its time i toss her up on the bed make sure the condom was near slap it on quickly and then rub her clit and slap it ( they like that ) it will like that. Then rub it up and down her lips till it slips in and your there baby. Im in in less then a minute and out in basically the same time hahahhahahaha as you get older youll learn to squeeze ur ass cheeks and hold that evil seed in