how do you deal with self righteous relatives -very argumentative

[jeffy87]

How do you deal with extremely argumentative family relatives.

got a family member who spilling lecturing me on their so called motivational talk about to work harder, and go up in company and i should go make more money and more money. when i told her that it isnt always aboout working hard but knowing the right people, social intetelligence, charisma, mental power, having the drive and being on your grind helps a lot too . Its a combo of a lot of things.

She argues and thinks its all about working hard and thats it. MInd your she aint successful at all. Told her im listening social influencer on youtube who have social proof and recceipts to prove it. She argues that it wont work for you since everyone is different. blah blah

i then tell her story aboout micheal jordan bulls how he wouldnt be able to do it all along. he had a lot help
She then says i dont care about other people.

seems like she likes arguing and when she runs out of gas then says i dont care.

This is just an example but there are multiple cases and stories i can tell you. She just loves to argue and be self righteous attitude. When you give back you comments she shuts it down and says ok conversation is over. She a big instigator for arguments .

any suggesions? is this a form of gas lighting

 

[zippy45]

How do you deal with extremely argumentative family relatives.

got a family member who spilling lecturing me on their so called motivational talk about to work harder, and go up in company and i should go make more money and more money. when i told her that it isnt always aboout working hard but knowing the right people, social intetelligence, charisma, mental power, having the drive and being on your grind helps a lot too . Its a combo of a lot of things.

She argues and thinks its all about working hard and thats it. MInd your she aint successful at all. Told her im listening social influencer on youtube who have social proof and recceipts to prove it. She argues that it wont work for you since everyone is different. blah blah

i then tell her story aboout micheal jordan bulls how he wouldnt be able to do it all along. he had a lot help
She then says i dont care about other people.

seems like she likes arguing and when she runs out of gas then says i dont care.

This is just an example but there are multiple cases and stories i can tell you. She just loves to argue and be self righteous attitude. When you give back you comments she shuts it down and says ok conversation is over. She a big instigator for arguments .

any suggesions? is this a form of gas lighting

Tell her to fuck off, you are her cousin not her husband

 

[sybian]

Tell her to fuck off, you are her cousin not her husband

I agree with the above statement.....

 

[80watts]

Tell her to constructively vent her energy into positive things, and that being judgement and negative towards yourself, dosen't do your relationship any good.
Or tell her to act on her own very good advice and tell her that you support her, then change the subject.
Saying fuck you, although its simple enough, doesn't add class/prestige to yourself/well being.
Or if you are into family incest, stick your cock in her mouth to shut her up....

 

[taster]

1) Avoid being near them
2) Nod your head and exit stage left
3) Change the subject
4)Put earbuds on and ignore them

 

[zippy45]

I agree with the above statement.....

stick a carrot up her bum, probably wont help, but its funny

 

[Number17]

Tell her straight up exactly how you feel about her and tell her to mind her own business and just ignore her. I’d try to avoid her. You don’t need this kind of person in your life.

 

[Metaxa]

How do you deal with extremely argumentative family relatives.

got a family member who spilling lecturing me on their so called motivational talk about to work harder, and go up in company and i should go make more money and more money. when i told her that it isnt always aboout working hard but knowing the right people, social intetelligence, charisma, mental power, having the drive and being on your grind helps a lot too . Its a combo of a lot of things.

She argues and thinks its all about working hard and thats it. MInd your she aint successful at all. Told her im listening social influencer on youtube who have social proof and recceipts to prove it. She argues that it wont work for you since everyone is different. blah blah

i then tell her story aboout micheal jordan bulls how he wouldnt be able to do it all along. he had a lot help
She then says i dont care about other people.

seems like she likes arguing and when she runs out of gas then says i dont care.

This is just an example but there are multiple cases and stories i can tell you. She just loves to argue and be self righteous attitude. When you give back you comments she shuts it down and says ok conversation is over. She a big instigator for arguments .

any suggesions? is this a form of gas lighting

How do you deal with extremely argumentative family relatives.

got a family member who spilling lecturing me on their so called motivational talk about to work harder, and go up in company and i should go make more money and more money. when i told her that it isnt always aboout working hard but knowing the right people, social intetelligence, charisma, mental power, having the drive and being on your grind helps a lot too . Its a combo of a lot of things.

She argues and thinks its all about working hard and thats it. MInd your she aint successful at all. Told her im listening social influencer on youtube who have social proof and recceipts to prove it. She argues that it wont work for you since everyone is different. blah blah

i then tell her story aboout micheal jordan bulls how he wouldnt be able to do it all along. he had a lot help
She then says i dont care about other people.

seems like she likes arguing and when she runs out of gas then says i dont care.

This is just an example but there are multiple cases and stories i can tell you. She just loves to argue and be self righteous attitude. When you give back you comments she shuts it down and says ok conversation is over. She a big instigator for arguments .

any suggesions? is this a form of gas lighting

I find it hard to translate hillbilly grammar but I would say she knows how to push your buttons and appears to enjoy doing it.

 

[badbadboy]

“She ain’t successful at all”

Tell her once she’s rockin the world, you might listen but til that time as others have said ‘fuck off’.

 

[golferjohn]

Perhaps a moment of introspection could be useful. Why would you allow someone (anyone) to have any influence on how you feel, especially when you already know they're 'argumentative' in the first place. People are who they are and trying to explain/argue a different perspective is a futile exercise that will only infuriate you more. Either accept the behavior and continue the relationship (for the sake of family peace), or politely excuse yourself from any interaction. Just remember: if they anger you, they own you

 

[sybian]

I find it hard to translate hillbilly grammar but I would say she knows how to push your buttons and appears to enjoy doing it.

I’ve met an awful lot of Hillbillies.....that have more common sense than most councillors.

 

[oodlesofpho]

to answer your question: how do you deal with self righteous relatives?
Answer: I dont. You get to choose your friends and not your family, so while you dont have to ex-communicate them from your life, just treat them cordially and like golferjohn said, dont engage with someone (regardless of relation to you) that you dont care to. I won't even wish you good luck because this isnt like a "this might work" type of suggestion, its your choice on if you want this thing in your life to affect you.

 

[georgej]

Say "You may be right." If persists "You may well be right"

 

[PierreCoeur]

When she starts in on arguing with you, just shut her down with the intelligent logic of George Costanza.

Now that you reviewed the video you should come away with a better understanding that you can't win.