Hello everyone, my wife is a SP

[Sphubby]

How do you figure your insight will make my dollar go further and make me have a better relationship with my SP ?????

Remember YMMV ? Yup, what works for you SO/SP may not work for my SP.....what works for you, may not work for me..... I'd say that your view as a permanent resident is probably somewhat different then that of a renter.

Well my wife talks to many other SP's and then talks to me, sometimes I talk to them direct in a non work environment, just two people talking. This gives me a little insight to what is a immediate turnoff to them. For instance my wife does not smoke anything. If you arrive with a smoke hanging out of your mouth and decline when offered mouth wash to gargle your chances of DFK and probably LFK are slim to none. Occasionally she has run into men with hygiene issues. If you drop your drawers and room immediately gets the odor of cheese, don't be surprised the by the time you blink you have a hat on your johnson even though BBBJ was on the menu. Just a couple quick notes.

SPH

 

[uncleg]

Well my wife talks to many other SP's and then talks to me, sometimes I talk to them direct in a non work environment, just two people talking. This gives me a little insight to what is a immediate turnoff to them. For instance my wife does not smoke anything. If you arrive with a smoke hanging out of your mouth and decline when offered mouth wash to gargle your chances of DFK and probably LFK are slim to none. Occasionally she has run into men with hygiene issues. If you drop your drawers and room immediately gets the odor of cheese, don't be surprised the by the time you blink you have a hat on your johnson even though BBBJ was on the menu. Just a couple quick notes.

SPH

And those are "insights" ?????? I can't count how many times these "insights" have been the subject(s) of threads on this site.........

 

[Fullhouse]

. If you arrive with a smoke hanging out of your mouth and decline when offered mouth wash to gargle your chances of DFK and probably LFK are slim to none. Occasionally she has run into men with hygiene issues. If you drop your drawers and room immediately gets the odor of cheese, don't be surprised the by the time you blink you have a hat on your johnson even though BBBJ was on the menu. Just a couple quick notes.

SPH

Boy oh boy, Sphubby,--am I ever glad I followed this thread for 4 days and 92 posts, all this time anxiously awaiting your extra ordinary and expert advise and insight that possibly only the SO or husband of a SP would have knowledge of, and would be willing to share with some of us mental deprived pooners.

All I can say is that from now on I will certainly gargle with the mouthwash I'm offered, and make sure that I wash my dink at least a couple of days before the session.
I can already imagine that my sessions with the ladies will improve tremendously ------ usually ---- instead of them willing to fuck me, --- they tell me to go and fuck myself.
That should all change now - I may even get to actually fuck one of them....:thumb:

Oh, and btw.....I usually wear a set of full body long johns over my 'Depends' ---- should I maybe invest in a pair of boxer shorts and wear them instead ????..

I can hardly wait to see what priceless insight you will divulge again in the next 4 days ...

P.S.
Here is a bit of insight from me to you. ----- To improve the hygiene issue - maybe she should wash that cheese smelling johnston before she puts a hat on it and proceeds with the session. (She better hope that sucker doesn't slip off)

 

[xraytext]

Well C-36 doesn't effect us in anyway that we know of. From what I have heard and read it doesn't criminalize me/us in anyway. We obviously live together, I have my own job, I pay the mortgage and the bills so its not like I am living on the profits.
SPH

Thank you.

I don't recall family/SO statements being represented during the Senate "review" of the C-36 legislation. Your post leaves an impression that was a grave over-sight.

Although I acknowledge the courage it would take for a sex worker and their SO to being willing to submit to that gruesome process.

Another question - which feel free not to answer given this forum:

Do you undergo regular health testing?

 

[1nitestan]

I think what most people are expecting in terms of insights is basically "what's it like being in a relationship with a sex worker?" The hygiene and etiquette stuff has been :deadhorse:

I question why a relationship is somehow apparently totally different when it comes to sex workers. You gotta look at the big picture and consider those people in relationships with their SO's who have unusual jobs.

An SP's hubby might worry that his wife potentially gets raped more so than the avg guy (Frankly I think all women have the same potential for getting raped regardless of occupation. )....but then again if she was a cop, he'd worry about her getting killed more so than the avg guy. Same goes for military personnel. You have to accept that going into such a relationship. But there's obviously more to that. The "problem" is for most guys is the stigma that 'she fucks other people for a living'. Well, get over it. Love is one thing. Possession is another. Here we have a guy who's gone beyond possession and can love someone and respect her choices. If you can't get beyond that aspect, maybe a relationship with a sex worker isn't for you. In general, jealousy tends to fuck things up...but you don't have to be married to a sex worker for that to happen.

Can't/won't have a relationship with an SP unless she's out of the biz? You can only say this if you are a single/divorce pooner. Otherwise, it's kinda hypocritical.

I've had many conversations over the years with SP's and pooners about this topic. Both sides share the same types of concerns. There are those who are accepting and those who aren't. One very well known and successful lady once told me that she could never respect a guy who let his wife do sex work. Vows are vows and you both pledged fidelity when you got married. Fair enough.

I've been in a relationship w/ an SP going on 7 yrs now. We're the best of pals and it's as uncomplicated as we both choose to make it. Other than the fact she has a non-traditional job, it really isn't significantly different than past relationships w/ 'civilians'. We have a good cover story about how we met and what she does for a living and it works.- kinda like being in a witness protection program. No big deal.

 

[clu]

Sphubby, how common knowledge is it amongst your friends and family what your wife does?

1nitestan, IMHO, the terms of the marriage are no one's business but those in the marriage. I can see not wanting to marry someone who didn't have the same idea of what marriage is as you, but the world has rather enough people telling other people what their marriage (or right to marry) should or shouldn't entail. I know you're just quoting someone else's POV there, not necessarily your own, but I feel it's worth mentioning. It's good that you've got it worked out, but I look forward to the day that people in unusual relationships don't need a cover story.

 

[steverino]

While it is clear that many/most of the ladies have an SO, I don't enjoy when they are talking about said person during the session.

 

[Sphubby]

Well I obviously can't speak for other sp's but as for my wife she has a mental switch that she flicks on when seeing a client. She has the ability of going from being a wife into her persona of being a attentive provider. Because we have no hangups, drama or jealousy issues she is free to partake, enjoy and have intimate moments with clients without any fear of issues with her SO (me). I think this is why her clients enjoy their time with her, she is very down to earth and shows when she is having a enjoyable time.

I think you would find that any SP you go to see has a SO of some sort. It might not be a husband but could be a child, a dependent sibling or parent or maybe just a best friend. I think finding a SP completely free of a SO of one sort or another is completely unobtainable and it doesn't matter if they are professional in their work and put that to side when they spend time with you. Like 1nitestand said, its life.

We have a mix of friends and family that know and don't know what my wife does for a living. Its decided personality, their views and if open minded and if it is necessary to divulge the information due to circumstances. Obviously we try to keep it to ourselves but occasionally we don't have a choice.

SPH

 

[rexxx]

Well I obviously can't speak for other sp's but as for my wife she has a mental switch that she flicks on when seeing a client. She has the ability of going from being a wife into her persona of being a attentive provider. Because we have no hangups, drama or jealousy issues she is free to partake, enjoy and have intimate moments with clients without any fear of issues with her SO (me). I think this is why her clients enjoy their time with her, she is very down to earth and shows when she is having a enjoyable time.

I think you would find that any SP you go to see has a SO of some sort. It might not be a husband but could be a child, a dependent sibling or parent or maybe just a best friend. I think finding a SP completely free of a SO of one sort or another is completely unobtainable and it doesn't matter if they are professional in their work and put that to side when they spend time with you. Like 1nitestand said, its life.

We have a mix of friends and family that know and don't know what my wife does for a living. Its decided personality, their views and if open minded and if it is necessary to divulge the information due to circumstances. Obviously we try to keep it to ourselves but occasionally we don't have a choice.

SPH

I guess she forgot to flick the switch when the guy with the monster cock gave her 3 orgasms

 

[Sphubby]

I guess she forgot to flick the switch when the guy with the monster cock gave her 3 orgasms

No the switch was flicked and in the right position, you can't properly fulfill someone if you aren't into it yourself. Perhaps you misunderstood my meaning of the switch. When a client comes she is no longer a wife/SO, she is free to be that special person in someone else's life for a brief time. That includes having intimacy and self satisfaction and arousal if it happens. Obviously that doesn't happen with everyone but when it does she is free to pursue and enjoy it. :thumb:

 

[felixthecat]

Well to start I also partake in the hobby occasionally

It seems the unusually open-minded person here is not Sphubby but his wife.
In the previous "dating an SP" threads, a common comment by SPs was that they'd expect their boyfriend/husband to stay away of other SPs. It's not just voluntary vs "unvoluntary" cheating, but also making money vs spending money. There's no truly symmetrical arrangement, which is why many SPs chose to stay single.

If there was an open marriage to start, maybe it is easier. It wouldn't work for most SPs like this though, based on their comments before.

 

[1nitestan]

I'm quite the opposite. I am AOK with him going to see SP's, but I don't want him having sec with civvies. There's way less risk of emotional entanglement within the SP/client relationship. The only time I am down with civvie sex is if we tried swinging, but even then I would put strict rules for both of us to follow.

^ what she said. Everyone has their boundaries and expectations and if you talk it out, 9/10 times you can reach a middle ground. Some of my buddies' (mostly the asian guys) wives are A-OK with them doing the rub-n-tug once a month because they aren't very sexual women. Great in every other aspect but they don't enjoy sex as much as their husbands. so to keep the marriage happy, they give the guys the freedom to get a happy ending once in awhile.

 

[Fullhouse]

Obviously we try to keep it to ourselves but occasionally we don't have a choice.

SPH

I am glad to hear you feel that way............:thumb:

Not like some guy that comes onto a site like this by his own choice and tells the world that he's married to a popular, busy SP that enjoys her work and loves monster cocks.

I mean really .... who would ever do that ?????..

 

[Sphubby]

Oh, and btw.....I usually wear a set of full body long johns over my 'Depends' ---- should I maybe invest in a pair of boxer shorts and wear them instead ????..

Hey Fullpants, I think its about time you changed your depends, starting to get a little ripe around here.

 

[Fullhouse]

Hey Fullpants, I think its about time you changed your depends, starting to get a little ripe around here.

Gee Sphubby ------ you have no idea how much I appreciate your expert advise...:thumb:

You have sprinkled some of your secret insights and recommendations throughout this thread - (at least twice) - and I'm sure many of us are now much more in tune of what is expected from a pooner.

At first I thought you were just a pretty face, and full of BS, ------ but now ------- I have changed my mind----- about your pretty face.

I am removing my 'Depends' at this very moment, ... which will expose my monster Johnston......

At times he is such a big prick ... having a mind of his own, and sticking his nose into other people's business.....

 

[booblover]

Why do people have such a hard time accepting that this guy can be at ease with his So being a SP? I bet if you checked into the lives of all those massage parlour ladies you drool over you would find a husband and kids at home waiting for Mom to finish work. This would be an easy to live with lifestyle especially if you were in an open relationship where both adults allow the other to do as they please sexually (or within reason). That way there isn't any cheating because it is out in the open.
If you think that the ladies should all be single if choosing this profession then what might they think of all the married/in relationship guys who visit them? Should they not see you because of your status? Go to a swingers club and see how many couples are okay with their SO having sex with others. Then think that maybe this guy and his wife are smart and turned this into a nice little business.....way to go!!

 

[Sphubby]

It's not that, it's the fact that he's likely lying and just doing this to get attention. I thought that was obvious?

Gee Miss Melody, I thought after 3 known advertising SP's and one notable poster had verified me and my situation I thought that would have been past us I guess I was wrong. That's ok, can't change someone's mind when it's made up

 

[ddcanz]

^ what she said. Everyone has their boundaries and expectations and if you talk it out, 9/10 times you can reach a middle ground. Some of my buddies' (mostly the asian guys) wives are A-OK with them doing the rub-n-tug once a month because they aren't very sexual women. Great in every other aspect but they don't enjoy sex as much as their husbands. so to keep the marriage happy, they give the guys the freedom to get a happy ending once in awhile.

I think that's BS. Most women are NOT "A-OK" with their dudes getting a R&T once a month. They don't "give" their guys the freedom- the guys are going to do it anyway. I think they just acquiesce because of their more subservient nature. It's not that they "aren't very sexual women", but more like they are seen as breeders and child raisers as wives, or otherwise as mistresses and playthings, for the male dominated society and culture they are brought up in. Most guys I know that have true Asian wives or girlfriends would get their asses handed to them by a western girl if they tried pulling that shit. Ask a CBC chick if it's OK for her dude to get his wee-wee spanked by an SP or masseuse because she "isn't that sexual"- then be prepared to cover up!
Are you A-OK with your SO getting licked clean because you can't or won't learn how to get her done right?

 

[badbadboy]

Gee Miss Melody, I thought after 3 known advertising SP's and one notable poster had verified me and my situation I thought that would have been past us I guess I was wrong. That's ok, can't change someone's mind when it's made up

Good plan Sphubby.

Just ignore the naysayers I say. :nod:

Carry on. It appears there are others here like me who would like to hear what you have to say.

 

[escapefromstress]

Good plan Sphubby.

Just ignore the naysayers I say. :nod:

Carry on. It appears there are others here like me who would like to hear what you have to say.

Yes, please don't let the skeptics scare you away. perb is notoriously intolerant, so don't take it personally.